Most Helpful Girl
Single, no. In a long term, healthy, happy relationship, definitely. When someone hasn’t worked on their own emotional self they keep reaching out, using the only patterns they know. With out healthy modeling or internal work those patterns likely aren’t real successful. Without perspective they can’t change.
For example when I was younger I unconsciously learned that when I was feeling insecure about myself or my relationship I would lash out at my partner. Early on the fight would lead to reconciliation and comforting. The comfort and loving words would ease my insecurity. As time goes on this strategy doesn’t continue to work. I picked a fight, he would get resentful and shut down. We fought more and both felt more insecure, eventually leading to break up.
Most Helpful Guy
Welcome to the club!