Most Helpful Girl
Ok im saying this to you and to @jasleenx33
Okay 1- talk. Not out of emotions.
Tell them how you felt, suggest maybe there was a misunderstanding. Ask their side of the story. Yours is as important as theirs.
Then, express how you feel about X or Y. Express the insecurities you may feel.
Also, dont call them by their names if you usually call them by a pet name.
(by experience, being called babe or sweetie calms me lmao like "sweetie what you didn't wasn't fair" harder to get mad idk)
2- ask them if they are willing to work through this or just give up on the relationship.
If you can't talk through issues, it's likely never gonna get better.
3- remind yourself why you love them? Tell them before talking "i love you, i care about you".
I know you've heard this a thousand time but communication really is key. Just get over your pride. Don't run away as soon as there's an issue (that's how old people stay married for so long)
Most Helpful Guy
This isn't a fight over something stupid, and you need to understand that. Its a battle of wills/dominance. He's lying to you, no matter how small the issue is, and he expects YOU to apologise, or let it go, or stop overreacting, or whatever phrase he wants to use to get you to TOLERATE HIS LYING.
The lies will get bigger. The threats to leave will become more frequent. The blame will fall on you more and more for calling him out on his lies rather than on him for lying in the first place.
My advice is to walk away. Don't threaten, don't discuss, don't give an ultimatum. Just walk. Its the only way to show him that lying won't be tolerated. If he still refuses to admit and apologise, then you've dodged a huge bullet.
- Show AllShow Less