My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and we haven’t had a fight or argument once.
We may have little disputes where we’re annoyed but it never last long and we’re back to calling each other babe or we may have a couple serious talks if something is bothering us, but we have never fought or argued.
Is that good?
Most Helpful Girl
Not necessarily. People are different, they have different values, ideas, wants and needs so it’s near impossible to not have passionate differences on something without one person sacrificing what they really want over an extended period of time especially when you’re still learning about each other. Every single couple I’ve known who don’t argue lacked the passion and intensity to go the long haul. They stayed together because it was pleasant, easy but not fulfilling in the long term or the same person got sick of never getting their needs met but they weren’t honest enough to fight for them.
I’m not talking about screaming matches or ignoring each other for days - a fight is disagreeing over an issue and having the bravery to have those hard discussions even if you know you’re going to vehemently disagree with their stance
Most Helpful Guy
I think fights help you grow as a couple if you turn them into constructive arguments rather than attacks. If a couple isn't fighting at all in the first year, then I’m going to assume that there is a lack of intensity, or feelings are being held back and bottled up.
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