If your partner cheated on you... would you get revenge by cheating on them?

If your partner cheated on you... would you get revenge by cheating on them?
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  • YES they deserve it
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  • NO
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  • NO because two wrongs don't make a right
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  • NO I would break up immediately and move on with my life
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  • I would break up and personally i would feel like a total piece of shit if I take revenge by sleeping with someone else, first because sex is important and special to me and I wouldn't sleep with just anyone, second, this kind of revenge would only prove I'm lower and dirtier than he is, and chances are I'm gonna regret it while he won't even care or feel hurt.. I mean he already disrespected me so that proves how much he cares in the first place.
    So just breaking up and moving on would be the best thing to do.

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  • My boyfriend cheated on me once, and at the time I knew before it even happened. I wasn't upset though. We'd been stuck in this pattern of him breaking up with me because he was scared of how serious we were, and I knew he cheated to work up the nerve and have a built in excuse to dump me again. I knew that if he came clean and learned from his mistake, and treated me right from there on, he'd NEVER do it again. And if he didn't learn a lesson from it I'D have a built in excuse to break up with him, with no fault or blame being placed on me, and I could have ease of mind knowing I made the right decision. It's been a long time since then and he's treated me like a goddess and still says it was the worst mistake and biggest regret of his life. But, not-so-secretly, I'm really glad and grateful it happened. I believe it's made us stronger. We're "engaged-to-be-engaged" right now (waiting to graduate from college), and we're more supportive, in-love, and open in communication than ever before.

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  • I've put thought into this many times and have been in that situation sadly. Was the one cheated on and I remember pondering the idea of getting back at them but its just not my style. I can't be with one and do something with another, I am not good at multitasking in that regard lol. In that relationshit I chose to forgive but then that backfired. It's hard to say or do the cut off/ break up when one does this to you. Yes you are heart broken for sure but how do you just cut off the one you love even after they do something horrible such as that but at the same time if you choose to stay you gotta think about if you can really really get past the cheating bit and be able to trust after and if you can't then all you do is punish them for that mistake and in turn yourself cause of the stress you put yourself through if that makes sense. My thing is if it happens now I would let them loose. I figure if you can't be loyal why am I gonna waste my time and my heart on that ass lol. My worth is more and I deserve loyalty and it shouldn't be hard to give if its true. Hope that helps lol.

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  • Revenge is never the answer dear Coach Tanthony !!!
    I used to be like that many years ago and just understand after many personal real life experiences that revenge is never good.
    The only thing to do, in case I care a lot about her, love and respect her, would be to sit down and have a serious open honest talk with maturity.
    We are humans, we make mistakes, and she deserves a second chance.
    In case she feels we are no good together anymore, I would certainly respect her decision and part on good terms! Her happiness is what counts most, if she will be happier with another person, than there is no need to be selfish and hold her prisoner of a loveless life.
    Besides, my happiness could also be with someone else, once I move on and get over her.
    Never be with someone if you don't both strongly love each other, just because we hate being alone. Here I am still single because of many factors.
    Thank you for sharing this interesting question, my pleasure to share my own honest opinion!

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  • It’s just not in my makeup to be a cheater. Have I thought about it (because yes I’ve been cheated on) absolutely I wanted them to understand the hurt. But sadly the fact they were able to do it in the first place means it probably wouldn’t hurt them like it did you. If you want to work it out it’s never good to add more fuel to a house on fire

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  • Nah. I’d first break up and then blow off some steam by chatting dirty with some randoms

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  • If your partner didn't care enough about you to cheat, they're not going to care about you cheating on them. Their heart isn't in it like yours so there's no use in doing it back to them. Then you have to live with yourself as being a cheater! It's totally not worth doing. Ditch them and move on!

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  • I don't know I said no because I might but I wouldn't get caught. I'd be really careful. It wouldn't be for revenge. It would just be a justification for if I see someone I want to go there with I would and wouldn't feel bad about it. I wouldn't try to hurt my partner with it.

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  • I have been in this situation, and I wanted to hurt him back so very much. But when I promised to love and respect him, and be loyal to him, it was a promise I had to keep. No matter what he did to me. I couldnt change what happend by doing the same to him. And it would have been wrong to use someone else and possibly hurt them just to pay him back. Being cjeated on is absolutely heart wrenching. I could not be the reason someone I love/loved was made to feel that way.

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  • You can’t be hurt over something if you do it yourself. The best thing to do is to move on and understand people who cheat aren’t worth your time. Learn how to love yourself instead of making the one you love jealous due to something silly and immature they took part in.

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  • That's silly. Why would you want to go to their level... just to hurt them it wouldn't be worth it. Reason being you would hurt your self in the process so much more. Just leave, they will be left with the thought and knowledge they lost something really great over the fact they did not care enough about it. People cheat cause they dont care about what it is gonna do to the other person, they don't care about you period. There is no excuse nothing so there is no point in cheating back.

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  • Get revenge by becoming a piece of shit disloyal human being? That sounds like fucking yourself over in the hopes of some one else suffering for it. I would never do that because then I would be as untrustworthy and disloyal as them. I wouldn't sully myself like that I would break up with them and move on.

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  • In the past when my husband has ‘fucked up badly’ I’ve had the urge to also do something bad, not for revenge per say, more so if feel bad about myself and his act becomes forgivable because I’m not perfect either.

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    • Who could possibly be better than WittyMilf. He was just slumming it so he can respect the Greatness of his Goddess.

      We could never appreciate the best if we never experienced the worst. Or lesser forms of perfection.

  • Absolutely not! It's a matter of principle. Retaliatory cheating is cheating, any way you slice it. Someone cheats on you, you end it immediately and move on. Cheating required at least some level of deception perpetrated by the cheater. It's a trust problem, and trust is a fragile thing. It doesn't matter what feelings you have for someone who cheated on you. If you can't trust them, then there is no viable relationship.

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  • I could never cheat on someone. That would require you to be in a relationship. The relationship would be over the moment I found out, so whoever I would have cheated with would just be my next partner.

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  • Cutting them out of your life is the only option. You could never trust them again and becoming sleazy and immoral only makes things worse. It is also messing with another person's feelings. Which makes you equally guilty.

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  • I don't have to stoop to their level just because they can't keep their dicks to themselves.

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  • No. Just going out an sleeping or cheating on the SO because they cheated on you is immature and petty. Plus cheating on them just because they cheated on you makes you jsut as much of a hoe as they are.

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  • No...
    How would that even make sense?

    + I'm not 16 anymore, so I definitely don't think like that - come to think of it - I don't think I've ever thought like that.

    I lose all respect for the cheater, leave him, delete him from my life and move on.

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  • I figure if they care so little as to cheat, that it wouldn't actually bother them if I cheated on them. You're not going to leave the same wound, just a scratch.

    Just be the better person and end it.

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  • Nope coz if both of us cheated and not break up, It's gonna be a horrible relationship without love at all so imma decide to just break up with the person and if he asks for a second chance then I'll give him a second chance if he cheats again it's over. Anyways, maybe I could still stay a bit and flirt with numerous guys in front of him them break up.

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  • What's the point in doing that? I mean, why bother more with somebody who you should not be in a relationship with? Just move on, don't bother doing petty things like revenge.
    Doing the same wrong would put you on the same level as the person you currently are angry at and maybe even despise.

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  • I'm reminded by the words of Sage Francis:

    "If it hurts me more than it hurts you then I won't hurt you. I've got more sense than virtue."

    Dragging on a cheating relationship through payback is just going to hurt me more than it hurt the person who didn't care enough about the relationship to do it in the first place.

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  • No, I would just break up. Cheating on them back wouldn't be "revenge", it would be lowering yourself to the same level as them. And quite frankly that would be hypocritical.

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  • I wouldn't cheat back, cause revenge is bad for you, it brings you only temporary happiness and after that you feel terrible about it. There's this quote from Avatar I like: "The monks used to say that revenge is like a two-headed rat viper. While you watch your enemy go down, you're being poisoned yourself". I think it pretty much summarizes my opinion.

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  • Yah I know 2 wrongs don't make it right, so if there cheating it's common that they have a desire that's not getting met when you hit the sheets, so that I see as you may as well see what kinks you need to get kinked out or are missing on, cheating is an option you make, rape is a decision they make for you.

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  • If you get cheated on, and you can not forgive and get past the cheating. It is best to break up with that person, and move on with your life.

    The best revenge you can get on someone that cheated on you, is to move on with your life and meet someone else and be happy with them.

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  • This just happen to me... it's harsh on the one that got cheated than the one who cheated. So moving on to better things than think on a dome ass that thinks with his dick only. My own opinion and experience.

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  • I would move one coz I have a strong belief that if a person can do it one... then they will do it again... and I would nt want to live my life suspecting him all the time or worrying if he is gonna cheat on me again... would rather leave him and be at peace.

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  • No, it's stupid and it breeds more drama and hatred. What point are you proving by cheating on them? You're just saying you're not mature enough to move on. "You can do it so that means I can do it". What a load of shit! A person who cheats is looking for something more than they have. Move on and save the heart ache.

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  • no, because it wouldn't change the fact that he cheated. i would rather break up with him. the love will never be the same anyway... there's always that "but you cheated on me" not really a good base for a healthy relationship

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  • People who cheat out of revenge have absolutely no right to complain about their partner cheating because you did exactly the same thing! Anyone who who feels justified in doing so is a disgusting hypocrite.
    When one cheats on another it either means they have mostly lost interest in you or from the start they were pathetic players. Both of which are good enough reason to break up with them before you suffer more.

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  • I'd probably just break up with them, to be honest with you. I don't need to be ruining things for someone else AND the girlfriend/wife. It makes things more complicated, besides it just being wrong.

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  • If you revenge cheat on someone, who cheated on you then both of you have pretty much found each other. Both can cheat on each other and it's fine.

    Or you can be the better person and toss the cheater into the dumpster and move on with life freshly single.

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  • I would only be heart broken for her love fading and I would rather talk and see what happens to each other.
    May still together, but feeling may not be the same.
    I dun do cheating as a revenge, but I guess being cheated may cause my belief twisted and have a higher chance cheating too

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  • No. That would mean I care about them after that, which I automatically wouldn't. As much I can love someone, I think I have a surprising amount of respect for myself to move on.

    I think the best "revenge" would be to legitimately not care- and probably even letting them know. By action, and not just by word.

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  • If someone steals from you is it ok to steal from them?
    No it wouldn't make anything right it would just make you a thief just as them
    Same with cheating
    If you cheat then you are a cheater doesn't matter if the other party did it first
    Be a good honourable person
    Other people's failings do not justify yours

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  • No! I would just dump them and be done with it. Why go down to that level when I know I'm better than that.

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  • I wouldn’t get revenge on them. In what world would two wrongs make a right? To be honest I would be completely heart broken but in my opinion I wouldn’t find that revenge would make me feel any better.

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  • It might seem like a good idea at the time, getting revenge on your partner who cheated on you by doing the same to them, but it's not going to make it hurt any less. It's an act that degrades people, and you deserve better than that. Plus, it wouldn't be fair to the person you'd be screwing either. They didn't do anything wrong, but they'd get dragged into all of this as well.

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  • Hell yes! I'd go full blown ravage and humiliate them. I already have it's planned, I would make sure no girl would ever sleep with him again so he never takes a woman's love for advantage again.

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  • Oh my God, I can't believe I'm reading this!!! dear you have to respect your body and your soul! you will just hurt yourself by doing the wrong, and as soon as you do this, you will feel the regret and you won't be satisfied by what you did and you keep doing the other wrong things to feel the healing but you will never achieve it in this way...

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  • Lower class people are the sex life people whom relationships revolve around shady quality stuff like how they can destroy you with another partner or an ex. Moving on is painful but the best thing towards healthier choices and personal healing. Don't become part of the problem.

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  • Move on it ain’t worth using your own sacred body to get revenge! You’re hurting yourself more than gettin satisfaction! No better revenge than moving on my friend trust me on this one. You live and learn.

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  • Depends on what kind of relationship I have with my girlfriend. If it is still in the beginning fase I would be okay, but only if I can do it to for one time and then we are even. If we are already in a long relationship then I would be angry and leave her inmidiately.

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  • cheated has many definitions, and people- especially insecure people demand what is not rightfully theirs- their partners body. Unless a promise has been made by choice to another partner, then it is selfish for a partner to expect complete "sexual devotion" from someone just because you feel you want it or deserve it. why? because it's you? I would talk with my partner without vengeance in my soul, and find out why she needed something I wasn't giving her.

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  • No... I mean... This ain't logical at all...
    If someone steals from you that doesn't mean you gonna steal back...
    So ya... Break up immediately and move on as two wrong make a right...

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  • When I was young I participated in that exact scenario... I learned pretty quickly it didn't make me feel any better and now I've learned what to actually do in that situation. Leave the person and find someone who won't do that.

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  • No... I'd dump her and walk away. Someone better is around the corner...

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  • As tempting as that sounds, I'd just break up because I don't have the time or energy to deal with that.

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    • Left... but. that's a obvi poll us right mb! Lol

    • @Nod2018Alot just finding someone to help is too much work, you have to figure out schedules, how are you gonna show you cheated? Are you gonna have to deal with the ex and the person who helped. Because you might mess around with someone who won't want to let you go.
      And back to the how, how is the person gonna find out? Is there cameras involved? Because that shit WILL end up on a porn site of you record it. Are you sleeping with the person and the future ex walks in? It's just too many unknowns. It's just better to just throw the relationship away.

  • No otherwise what's so different between him and me plus I wouldn't use my body like that
    He decided to be low I won't go with him I will find someone who deserves me

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