Most Helpful Guy
Best advice I was ever given. Quit looking and become the best you that you can be. Become active in things that align with your beliefs and you will find the person that you truly match up with.
We concentrate on the superficial aspects like looks, hobbies, or interests and then are let down when we grow apart. If you believe that animals are important, then volunteer with animals. If you like helping kids, help kids. If you believe that aliens are among us, I'm sure there's groups for that too. You get the idea In sure.
Forget that dude and live life!
Most Helpful Girl
I find it interesting you say you're giving up men for a long time yet asking for advice on finding a good man!!! So which is it, giving or continue looking?
Now, you need to evaluate yourself, because you chose two guys that did the same things that hurt you, so it's your part to figure out why you're choosing these men, what characteristics they showed you which you liked and didn't like. When someone has the same bad experience multiple times it's on them the choices they made...