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We never really could. Phones have only exacerbated that. They probably feel comfortable with you leading the conversation. Gender roles aren't as predominant as they use to be. Generally I lead a conversation for a love interest like you do but find it more tiresome every day. Some men also don't like to talk. Remember women speak on average 9000 words a day while men speak 900. You may be filling what you feel as awkward silence when they are use to long periods of silence. Try finding someone overly animated.