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Nope. If a person can't respect his own mother then how can I expect him to respect me.
Nope. If a person can't respect his own mother then how can I expect him to respect me.
That is definitely a red flag.
Even if your mom's a bitch, that doesn't mean it's okay to treat her like one. She's still your mom.
Respect isn't a two way street sometimes, but it doesn't go off and on from the same side. Either they are respectful or they aren't. If they don't respect her, they won't respect me.
Depends. If it's a happy non-divorced family and the person is rude for no reason - don't date her! If the mother was I don't know, a drug abuser during the persons childhood and now the person is rude - in my opinion the rudeness is understandable in this case.
I guess it depends. If it was something I only witnessed once, I'd wait and see if they ever apologized. Everyone is rude to their parents sometimes, but if they never show any remorse or it happens over and over again without much instigation, that would be a serious red flag.
No, I would not date such a person.
There is a difference between standing up for myself when parents are being unreasonable and putting me down, and when I'm yelling at them for no good reason because I take them for granted.
Parents are people as well, they are not perfect, they do make mistakes.
And some of them do make pretty poor judgments.
But screaming and being rude to them does not make things better.
Huge red flag.
It really highlighted how badly a boyfriend was treating me after I stood back and realised how badly he was treating his mother. I broke it off with him and then he threatened to kill me and he ended up stalking me for awhile. I feel sorry for any woman who ends up with that bastard.
Depends on the situation, like the one you described of a spoiled brat, I wouldn't be attracted to them to begin with. But some of us have the misfoturne of having dysfunctional, crazy, narcississtic, dismissivr, abusive.. you name it, parents and being rude to such parent is a natural defensive act when they drive to the edges of pain and insanity.
I would never date someone like that. For most people, their mother is the person that will love them the most and the longest. How they respond to that unconditional love is a huge indicator of the kind of person they are.
Anecdotally, I went out with a guy who wouldn't pick up when his mother called him, or wouldn't call her back. It didn't come as a surprise when he started leaving me on read and taking days to reply to messages.
Yep, huge red flag. It's possible you caught her at an unusually bad moment, but it sounds like a huge warning sign. And what's up with her parents paying for three degrees? Mine were generous enough to help with undergrad, but I paid for my other two degrees with scholarships, student loans, and work. It sounds like she is very spoiled and immature and would be terrible to live with.
You shouldn't be rude to anyone! I don't have a good relationship with my mum, so I don't see or speak to her. There's no need for nastiness. I had a few negative comments towards her when I was younger, and still affected by her reckless actions. But it's incredibly bratty to kick off at a mother that loves and want to help you!
I pay attention to how people treat others in general. It makes a huge difference. I understand relationships may be rocky based off things that have happened before I came into the picture, but I can't actively ignore someone being unjustifiably rude to anyone for no reason. Especially not their own mother.
My mother told me that she regrets having me and a couple of years ago she sided with my psychopath of a sister who tried to literally kill me.
These are just two examples of my all around horrible treatment from my family.
Please don't judge me, if I refuse to e cordial with her.
No never, regardless the reason.
Just because she is a wicked bitch, I want a man that lives above that mentality and rather him not socialize with her just check up on her and when holidays happen stop by to say hi.
A good man would not waste his time, energy, effort to be rude. He would hold his head high and allow her to carry on how ever she is...
No I wouldn't. Yes Moma's can get on our nerves and even piss us off but it's Moma. Moma is Moma and it's best to love her for who she is.
I could understand a person not speaking to their mom if she was a horrid mother who put them in danger, etc as a kid.
It would be a concern for sure, but I also believe there'd be a reason for it. Who knows how the mother has treated her in the past for example. You've got to look deeper than the surface because I'm sure there's A LOT there! But yes, it shows a different side of her for sure, one you have to keep in mind and think about no doubt.
You're right. Your parents are your first and closest relationships, they shape you and how you would act in future relationships. How you treat your parents ays a lot about your character, cause eventually the honey moon phase fades and your left with just yourself and your partner and not much to sugarcoat it. If he's unecessairily rude to his mother, most likely will be the same to me later in the relationship. Unless I know the mother is abusive or something, its a huge turn off.
I definitely consider it a red flag. If she's unreasonably upset and rude / immature, she probably isn't ready to be married. In marriage, stuff gets moved all the time, by necessity.
No. Being rude to their mother shows just how unpleasant they are at home. If they can't be nice to the person who raised them, how do you expect them to be nice to you in the future?
You can tell by the way your significant other treats their parents how they will treat you. If they gossip and just put them down when they're not ariund, they'd likely do that to you too.
I'm quite rude to my mother eventhough i love her as a mother, i still live with my parents and im 30 for reason i won't discuss here. I wouldn't like it if someone yelled at their mom while i were present for many reasons, its very immature thing to do infront of friends and other family members, i get very angry if id have to be in-between the two shouting. I would just rampage off the house and leave.
It depends. In the situation that you are describing I wouldn't. But I can imagine that there are cases when I think that it is justified or something.
In the situation you describe not ever.
I have been in situations where the mother want really fit to be a mother, that would allow more movment on this rule.
However as you describe it decent living parents should both be treated with the live and redirect they deserve.
When someone's forgotten the debt of gratitude they owe and take the life totally for granted to the point of disrespecting the people that provided it. It's always a red flag.
Well it depends on how rude. Usually the answer is no, but I get it parents can be annoying at times.
I don't get along too well with my parents either because they have bad habits and my mom does pretty much the bare minimum to support the family.
So yeah I understand the frustration with parents, but of course being spoiled or just lashing out at them for no good reason isn't right.
My recent boyfriend that I am no longer with called himself a true gentleman. He was polite, opened doors for woman, and said Maam, please and thank you. Then the minute he was angry, felt disreoected, or unnappreciated he slammed doors on woman. They became bitch not Maam. He took what he felt he deserved without asking, and called his mother a cunt anytime she displeased or "bugged" him. I was fooled for months, but his true ungentlemenly self came out. Then he talked to me, the way he tlkd to his mother. And I realized that a man who wuld yell at, verbally assault, and put down the woman who gave birth to him, and supported him emotionally and financially, wuld not have one bit of guilt about doing worse to just his girlfriend. This type of person who has no reguard for thier loving family, will have absolutely no love or respect for you that is good.
No. The way a person treats others reveals the way he is. I'm not waiting to end up being disrespected.
That being said, if his mom is just a bad person then there is something to understand.
No. He can't respect family, he won't respect me. I also wouldn't be the one to keep him from wanting or needing to be around his family
No , there are somethings that you can get away with but being rude to your mother never. No matter how old you are the respect should always be there ,,..
You can't expect any respect from anyone who disrespect their own parents.
Depends on the relationship and what the mom is like herself, some moms may not be nice themselves. But if she is a good mother and their child is being rude to them for no reason, then no I wouldn't.
*PLEASE READ* This is a diffacult subject for me but I want to help. My mom put me through almost hell. I really don't want to recall a lot of things about our relationship. I love my mother, but she made me suffer in ways really "only a mother could" don't push him off so quick. He really could be the most loving person you'll ever meet.
Based on experience, guys I've dated who were rude to their mother were also not better in treating me or anyone else better. I know that most people go through that teenage rebellion phase when we all hated our parents, but not being able to mature past that is a probably a red flag.
I think it really depends. Usually I would agree straight away, but my best friend's mom hates him because he's gay. So he obviously isn't fond of her. I think its important to know the backstory if there is any tension.
And I know we should all have respect for the people who fed and clothed us, but in the real world, respect is earned. If I'm a working, thinking adult and my parents show me no respect, its going to be hard for me to show them any.
Nope. That’s a huge red flag. If he’s rude to his mom, he’d most likely be rude to me. And I don’t like the fact that someone could be so rude to someone who loves and cares for you.
Was she white? Only white people can get away with shit like that. Also that's disgusting to be such a little bitch to your mother.
I don't think so. In fact, some years ago a guy was interested in a girl who was always pleasantly when he visited her. One day he came unexpectedly and caught her being rude to her mother. He promptly ended the relationship. He probably feared that
I think I would, too.
If the mom is a total bitch I wouldn't judge unless the daughter/son continued being an ass even when the mom tried being nice.
It depends on the age of the woman and how long she's been living with her mother. Some people don't have good relationships with their parents,
her being rude to her mother doesn't necessarily reflect on who she is.
I advise against strongly judging someone based on what little you know of their relationship with another person, especially when you lack two decades of backstory that could potentially change your view of the entire situation.
Lol depends, on the story behind it, not everyone had ok parents some people had messed up life's because of their parents but if you had a nice life with a loving mother or father that is not OK, and they need to grow tf up quick
No, and I won't tolerate such behavior from my own sons, even if they're from a mother who put me through a miserable divorce.
Unless there mother was super abusive
Then hell to the no
If you dont respect your parents you won't respect me
It isn't just about the one but also the combination of two. It is what I call action and reaction. Certain people or situations trigger the "dark side" of you. You also don't know what this person has been through in the past and behaves this exact way. I am very disrespectful of my parents and that's how it has to be, because they don't respect me either. I so wish things were different, but they're not. And I have to live with that. Also "having it all" is not a proof of anything, because it may be missing the most important thing, love. So never judge a book by its cover.
nah fam... if theyre rude to their mom the woman who brought them into this world and does so much shit for them? nah... its a red flag this person will burn you in your sleep
That is a massive warning sign. You drew the right conclusion.
Dating someone who loves their mother is important. Unless they have a reasonable excuse to do so. Not something stupid like "my mom stole my vape i h8 her".
I don't have much to say her, but if your interest respects their mother, i say go for it
No. That's a red flag. You can tell a lot by how a person treats their mother. But of course it depends if they have a reason by how they act..
No, you can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat their parents. Disrespectful to parents will be disrespectful to you and others as well.
I would have said no but my last partner had a horrible mother so I guess I would consider the situation first
Depends.. If the mother isn't a good person (like she is just an abusive cow), its understandable. Otherwise no.
Sometimes me and my mum are rude to each other but it's more in a catty, jokey, banter way it's just how are relationship is and my mum is usually a total savage it's jokes 😂. But if a guy was genuinely rude and disrespectful to their mother it would really but me off as it shows they don't have much respect for woman in general and are disrespectful and ungrateful. Imagine being married to someone like that sooner or later they'd start treating you the same. On the other hand you have to question the parenting in first place because I know for sure if I was ever really disrespectful to my mother I'd be eating my dinner through a tube afterwards and their are some bad mothers out there I mean evil abusive one's and if you don't know the whole story it's easy to see it as the child being rude to the mother when for all we know they could be sticking up for themselves.
I guess. There are some bad mothers out there, and I could imagine one being bad enough to deserve that. 99/100 though I probably would be turned off by it
Ofcourse not. Thats an attitude. If she's rude to her mother she might be rude someday to you and to your parents as well.
You do not know, from a short exposure, what their relationship is. Don't judge from ignorance; judge from knowledge.
No if they are rude to their mother nothing will prevent them from being rude to me and i wouldn’t even give them a chance
The fact that he/she is rude to their mother indicates that the person is also likely to be a douche towards other people. How can you be rude to the one who gave birth to you?
I'm very rude to my mother, but she was a abusive child neglecting alcoholic. And I am kind and respectful to my stepmother, all she done bad was get annoying. All parent do that.
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