Obviously there will be some skepticism from both her family and mine. We have both told our parents, and everything seems relatively fine so far (some skepticism but not excessively so). I am planning on telling my grandparents soon. However my grandma is about ready to pass. Unfortunately, she is too far gone to let her know. I don't want my news to take away from this time of mourning. As a general rule of thumb how long do you think that I should wait before starting to tell my extended family?
Alternatively, would it be better to wait until she is over here before I start to tell my extended family?