Last fall, I started college and I met this wonderful nerd and we have been dating for 5 months.
About this same time, I started getting close to this guy I knew form high-school but never really got close to. He was single and he didn't feel he was ready for a relationship, but he desperately wanted that female companionship. We'd hang out about once a month for a couple hours and text on the weekends when I was home from college for two days. My friend "James" when we first started getting close was convinced I was in love with him because "guys and girls can't just be friends" and I proved him wrong. I felt absolutely nothing beyond a deep friend-type love for him and he said he felt nothing for me.
I get a text from James telling me we needed to talk. He told me he wanted to stop being such a close friend because he had begun to develop feelings for me and this was the best way to protect my relationship with my boyfriend and him. My boyfriend had been jealous of James for a long time and I assured him James didn't like me, but I asked James to stop being so sappy. We always tried to include my boyfriend or tell him exactly what we would be doing. I just never wanted an issue with my boyfriend because he thought I was hiding something with my good-looking male best friend so I promised to always be very open about everything that occurred between James and I.
James also send a long list of things he didn't like about my boyfriend in the text about why we shouldn't be close friends anymore, which is a whole other can of worms we won't go into but I let my boyfriend see the list when I showed him the text (stupid me, didn't even think about it) and we discussed the issues. Some of them weren't valid complaints, but two of them have been topics my boyfriend and I have had discussions about. I feel like this made things more confusing because now my boyfriend has been hurt by James' confession, too.