What are your thoughts on these TWO videos about Men's Standards vs Women's Standards when it comes to DATING?






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  • To be honest other than the age and height thing everything she said was reasonable and I agree with (with the reverse for going out, I’d rather not have a club rat). I don’t get the height but especially age thing, I get not being too old or too young but refusing to date someone even a month younger is so odd to me, my mum is 3 years older than my dad so I always saw it as normal. With the height thing I understand being taller but a 5’11 limit is a little restrictive. I’m 5’4 as long as they’re 5’4 or taller I don’t care, and 97.5% are taller than 5’4 so it’s not a big deal.

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    • So many female clients of mine put the stipulation of 6 foot or higher on their dating profile. I told them you would be missing out on so many great guys by doing this. Why do you think women put height at such a priority?

    • It's a symbol of masculinity, but ultimately being facially attractive is more preferable. I've seen mates of mine fall for the same 5'6 man without fail.

  • I thought this was a pretty cool experiment. I guess if you go ahead and get out of the way the things that matter to you, then it would be easy to narrow it down. I think she was really picky though. I have little brothers, but I have dated someone younger than me, and I didn't see them as a brother just because of their age. That's a bit ridiculous. Also being very picky about height, I don't really wear heels so I guess I just don't think about it. But overall, I think as long as you can find someone with the same views and morals as yourself, a little bit of differences in each other can be exciting because you can explore outside of what you are used to. And it doesn't have to be a drastic difference for that to happen, it could just be having different hobbies or tastes in food.

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  • Interesting concept
    But I have to say some of the criteria they exclude people on is just... stupid
    Excluding people because they don't work in or are planning to work In a creative field? Seriously?
    Excluding people because they are not older than you? Seriously?
    I would like to have seen this being done with people with less silly standards
    I think the girl here was worse with her standards than the guy but both of them... yikes
    Wonder if they repeated this a thousand times if how the average results would turn out

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    • 100% agree lol. I was like, I can understand wanting a girl who appreciates the arts and you can discuss it. So you know you can engage in that way with her, but to the extent of work? I mean I guess if he lives in LA and is thinking about dating someone who would be easy to be with. That's about the only thing that would make that criteria make sense. a lot of entertainment industry jobs out there. So you might want to be with someone who "gets" it

  • That girl is confusing "values" with simple desires. They're not the same. I think she's just young though and her values are probably going to mature a little more as she does when she gets older.

    She doesn't want to have her first kid though until at least 33? That's very risky in terms of child health issues. Like if you're saying to wait until your mid 30s to have your first child that's basically the same as saying you don't want to have kids ever. It's safe to have a second or third kid into your 30s and even 40s but it's very dangerous to give birth to your very first child that late in a woman's reproductive stage.

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    • I think it shows that most women that age have super HIGH expectations whether or not they are values or desires.

    • I mean, I don't feel like this is news though. And she is just one girl. I live in the LA area and every girl at my gym talks about being an Instagram model and considering getting fake boobs and just that whole thing. If the only interaction I had with women was at that gym I'd think every woman on the planet was super shallow and full of it. But I know plenty of women who are very down to earth and don't have unrealistic or just plain stupid standards. She just seems to fit more with the LA crowd more so than maybe women on average which I do think is slightly less shallow.

    • You said:
      "She doesn't want to have her first kid though until at least 33? That's very risky in terms of child health issues."

      My mom gave birth to me at age 32. My mom gave birth to my younger brother at age 40. We're both fine. Having kids in your 30s is a great idea, in my opinion.

      I know people who have kids right now in their 20s, and their life has gotten harder and they can't adequately provide for their kids. They are not good financially, or they are still trying to finish school, or they have strange living conditions. People need to learn to have kids with purpose.

      In your 30s, you're more mature, financially stable, have a house and you're in a good place (HOPEFULLY). I, personally, want the best for my kids. Right now, at age 27, I don't think I am in a good position to have a kid. However, with a little more work, I should be able to provide a great life for my kids in my 30s.

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  • I don’t think that this type of test means as much as it seems. I could clear the room with one singular standard: no sex before marriage. Does that mean I have too many preferences? Not really, just unusual ones. The number of people left is indicative of how average you are, not necessarily how reasonable you are.

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    • It's not a matter of too many or unusual, it's a question of are they too restrictive overall. If you goal is to have people left over then being excessively restrictive is unreasonable.

      The number of people you have left is indicative of how high your variance is.

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    • Perhaps, but you would still require a positive number at the end of filtering an entire population and in a reasonable time-frame. If you aren't getting that then that's definitely too restrictive.

      But other people are also sampling as well and with higher variance, so while there may have been freakishly amazing people that met criteria when you started, they can be long gone by the time you get there.

      Of course it's not a great test and maybe her restrictiveness was not representative of the population mean, but height and age are pretty tame. There are other filters women use that filter out more guys than that. The guy on the other hand seemed really strict and still got 5. Out of a sample of 20 what are the chances of finding 5 that want to work in creative industries? I supposed that brings up the question of how the people where chosen in both tests.

    • @AllThatSweetJazz I can get on board with that perspective. I think that the 20 people were probably not representative of the emotive population. I mean I know a lot of talented artists who just don’t want that type of career. To say 5 of twenty do is impractical. I guess in the end it’s just not a scientific test.

  • I don't really think they were all that different, but the girl was definitely more firm about her preference in height and age. I guess that was her downfall, and her getting the visual representation of how much she's missing out on might have made her a bit more relaxed about those preferences in the future. Her equating dating someone younger with dating her brother was really weird. Can't really relate there.
    But see, it's really not that hard for guys to get a date if they're at least decent looking and nice (I hate saying nice because "nice guys" have ruined it, but you get my point). I didn't think the guy was all that attractive, but he still ended up being able to choose from 5 different girls who all were down to date him.
    Anyways, my two cents is that I really can't relate to the girl and her preferences. I do have a preference for older guys but I'm not totally opposed to dating someone younger. And I'm 5'7, so as long as the dude is 5'7 or taller I'm happy (I could even go for someone shorter, but it's just not within my own preference). I'm pretty chill with what I like/prefer. I take every guy I meet as they come and try to see what exactly it is that makes him special and if we click, rather than trying to check things off a specific list.

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    • "But see, it's really not that hard for guys to get a date"
      You're looking at the wrong results. 5 girls left over means it's not hard for *women* to get a date.

      The 5 girls left over are from *his* filters. No guy is complaining that there aren't enough girls that fit his filters. The actual complaint is like you mentioned: They feel it *is* "hard for guys to get a date" and that problem is represented by the girl's filters, not the guy's. The 5 girls left over didn't pick him.

      Even if somehow they did, that's still not a normal circumstance for a guy: The girls have already agreed to sit down in this group and be a part of this thing. It's understood that he's going to ask these 5 questions. They get to sit in front of him, look at him, be in front of a real person. But again, it's not him that represents men. It's the girl applying her filters that would apply to men's situation.

      Also, we have to keep in mind that realistically women would apply their filters at the same time.

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    • They never asked any of their standards yet though. It cut scene before that...

      I know. And same with the boy. These are just examples. But I think a lot of times it tends to happen similarly in result.

    • @lumos
      "guys that walked away could easily find someone like the girls from the video with the one guy."
      It was a guy asking girls to leave if they didn't meet criteria, the 5 girls where never asked if they were wanted to stay. We know nothing about the girls filters besides the test of the girl.

      If we take the guy as representative of men and the girl as representative of women then what that's telling us is not that men would find girls like the one that guy have left because we don't know anything about those girls or what they wanted, only that they met *his* criteria.

      It tells us not that the guys that left would easily find a girl, rather that they would find many girls acceptable and - taking the again girl as representative of women - that not many of those women would accept those guys.

      Men seem open to a wider range of partners and women are more restrictive. Therefore we would say men have a harder time.

      Hurting herself or not, that's the conclusion based on this test.

  • Some of her standards seem unnecessary. Like, I'd expect the basics out of a guy, kindness, etc., but not height or age. Those are something you can't change.

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  • I never realized how picky women can be until I watched this video, to include myself in some respects. I basically wanted to date the male version of me lol. While I have no regrets, even I couldn't deny my way of thinking was about fallacy lol

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  • No wonder they are both still single.
    Height and age should never be an issue unless that person is underage of course.
    Family values was always a must for me and how they treat others around them.

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  • Damn that girl is a little picky. But I think picky is good sometimes.

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  • I don't know what he was going for the with sexual fetish/kink question. Like he never said anything specific.

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  • Why are there no blondes in the girls group?

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    • This shit is so superficial and sad... I mean, a whole lot of people texting each other over click bait questions? And then people complain they can't find a good mate...

    • If you were in my group you would win

  • Its funny

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  • They are true 70%

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  • I think being picky is good...

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  • Too superficial. I can think of better values for each criteria.

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  • Funny how almost everyone complains about the woman preferring guys over 5'10", which is quite average in most countries. And then they turn the argument with "if I had this standard I would be left with no one". News flash, women's average is around 5'5" in developed nations, so it doesn't take a genius to figure it out that there will be more men above 5'10" than women.

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    • Average means you are eliminating about half the potentials based on that alone.

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    • 5) "if something is average, at least 70% of people will fall in that range."
      A) Average is not a range, it is a number in this case.
      B) There is no interval AROUND the average, so we have no idea how many people fall in it.
      C) Actually most women prefer ABOVE average guys. The line is drawn usually at 6 feet, 6'1", or 6'2", depending on the average height of the country. This is usually around 10% of the population.

      "And you know that bloatedness has nothing to do with weight, right?"
      I hope you are kiddng. When he said "bloated", he meant ballooning, big, fat.

      "In most western nations as far as I know, the average is 5'10", women just want a man about average height"
      Oh, I guess that's just fine, right?
      I mean, that's plenty! 50% of men are satisfied...
      Honey, that still means every second person (man or woman) will probably never find a (permanent) partner just because you thought it is acceptable to ask your men to be above average.

    • Everyone always brings up fatness, but you wouldn't date a fat, disgusting nerd, now would you?

      Instead look for a lot more appropriate thing.
      Imagine if the overwhelming majority of men said "we only date women at or above D cup!"
      Does that sound good to you?

      "hat means guys from 5'8" to 6' will be in "game""
      Sorry to break it to you, but I actually routinely get demeaned for my height. I am 5'8", and I often get demeaning looks from women, and I have been rejectec because of my height. Yeah. Looks like I am not "game" enough for most women.

What Guys Said 38

  • The guy seemed to be more into long term relationship while the girl seemed to be into dating with the possibility of making it long term. in my opinion that girl was too picky and ugly to even have such standards. Like the last guy said “You’re going to be single for a while”

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  • In the second video, the part where half of this chick's dating pool just got fucking obliterated as soon as she brought up height was golden. I think that clip should be spread far and wide, so girls know that they're really screwing themselves over when they're so shallow about height.

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  • I think being left with just one person out of twenty random people is a very good result.
    Personally, I would expect maybe 1 in 200 people to pass my first few dealbreakers.

    So, I mean, this doesn't really say much.
    People have their own interests and preferences, however dumb.

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    • Also, it is worth mentioning, that the most common female personality type is the opposite of the most common male personality type.

      So even if you aren't particularly picky, statistically speaking, most people you will ever meet you will be incompatible with.

  • LOL she lost most of the guys because she wants a dude who's at least 26 and 6' feet tall.

    If I did this, I'm pretty sure I'd have no matches left. God I really wanna do this now.

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  • The female version is the problem with a lot of modern women. She has such silly ideas, prioritises the wrong things. I think she's overpriced, as in her expectations are so high without her having as much to offer in comparison.

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  • Well considering that she's 5'6, her hight requirement wasn't that strict, but it is kinda annoying how even short women will have strict height requirements. And if god forbid a guy cares about weight (something that is completely within their power to change) women will freak out and say he's shallow.

    Overall I think women are a lot pickier than men are when it comes to sex/dating than men.

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  • Dude, you're never gonna convince women to change course.

    This has worked for them since time immemoral. That is why they do it. A lot of it is subconscious.

    It's like when feminists want men to not like porn or objectify women. Good luck with that, idiots...

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  • I mean some of the examples were super picky. I didn't realise people cared so much about height. I mean I can understand huge differences but a small difference isn't a big deal

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  • Well, each are just one person. It's quite a small sample size and both were picky.

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  • Both were pretty picky. Although it wasn't unjustified or without reason everyone is entitled to go after what they want. I'd be interested to see how the womans criteria of questioning and what her level of acceptance would be when she gets older and age takes its tole on her appearance. It's interesting the curvature in our culture and how woman seem to hold all the power in their adolescence and are able to be as picky as they like with the influence of their bodies and the attention they get with their looks while later in life men hold all the power as their material wealth increases in their career and women's looks slowly degrade with age.

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  • I can get on board with that perspective. I think that the 20 people were probably not representative of the emotive population. I mean I know a lot of talented artists who just don’t want that type of career. To say 5 of twenty do is impractical. I guess in the end it’s just not a scientific test.

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  • Aw. I wanna do that. I bet I'd have all but three left. I'm not as picky as that guy.

    That girl though.. had me at the first question. Sorry lady. Nope.

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  • I like to get shit faced and make bad decisions.
    *dude leaves*
    UGH, big sad!

    Standards not lowered. Writes opinion piece for Cosmo
    "Why modern men lyke... suck!"

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  • Interesting. The girl was actually more picky than the boy.

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  • she's probably better off just finding other club rats to date at the club. drinking and clubbing once in a while is fine but she said she goes clubbing and she A LOT so i doubt any decent guy would want to be picking her up at like 2-3am every night or every other night because she's too shit faced to get home herself and possibly getting into fights with other dudes who tries to fuck her while she's drunk AF at the clubs. maybe in the video those guys don't mind, but i bet they will mind once they start dealing with that shit so often within a month.

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  • I think it's really stupid to completely eliminate someone as a potential lifelong partner over some arbitrary standard.

    The Asian girl is a mess. lol

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  • Did she really just saying that a guy being a month younger than her is a deal breaker? And being taller while she is wearing high heels? She is a bimbo

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  • Pretty absurd in my opinion with the girl. Though I was a little surprised with so many guys being okay with the whole choking thing (that personally to me is rather off putting). The height and age thing are pretty absurd (for both of them but the guy seemed to be more lenient with his). The over 6 feet tall thing is just completely absurd when 5 10 is average. Also the no kids thing, that's kind of the point of biological existence, don't get that. Also kind of surprised that all of those where so utterly superficial.

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  • Women, you should learn of him, ask for reasonable acts which make you happy, did you see he asked for women who had been on a long term relation? It says something very important about what he wants

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  • 20 guys vs. 1 girl? I've watched many videos online with that same title...

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