Interesting, think I would agree with that. However, isn’t “a fetish” like an obsession or some sort, or something, one depends on, for sexual gratification? That’s how I’ve always understood it
Well, going back to the definition of a fetish, it goes beyond obsession in the purely sexual realm, meaning basically one that is irrational, so in this context it would be correctly described as such
Honestly, if you want to know the context, I come from a multi-cultural family, and also grew up, basically on two different continents, I have taken a preference to one over the other culture, I think you would agree, that isn’t a fetish, half my family represents it
I suppose it changes it a little, but I think you should pause and reconsider if the thought of finding the 'perfect partner' outside of your preference would still find you unwilling to compromise
I simply feel, girls are more humble and traditional vs entitled and impatient... if I had to summarize the two cultures. However, I shouldn’t judge nor exclude people, just feel bad thinking like that, there is some truth to the two, comparisons but it’s also not fair, or absolutely true
Your reasons are rational, which makes it a mere preference, so on that basis I think you should go for what you feel suits you without any worry about prejudice and the like, I don't think there's any here
This question is personal, I feel bad, about my own, outlook, but I haven’t dated a girl of my own nationality, for over a decade. I just have these preconceived ideas and I just think, I’m wrong, but it’s just the way it is at this point, has to do with trust
Simply put, there's a huge difference between meeting a person, and just never becoming attracted to them in a sexual and/or romantic manner because they fall outside of your preferences... or setting out to find someone fitting your preferences, to the point where you view them as objects to satisfy your desires, rather than as people.So, if you see someone as a person, but maybe not a person you would want to get sexually or romantically involved with, you have preferences just like all of us.If you see people as objects that either satisfy your urges, or are lesser things if they don't, you have an issue, and are also an ass.
I’m so not like a guy, who is objectifying or predatory, or whatever, I only once in my whole life been told “to knock it off” so to speak... and that was from a girlfriend. I’m just not that guy.However, I have trust issues, and grew up in two different countries, so I have this “preference” but feel, its bias because I’m not allowing one thing, and permitting another, if that makes sense
Preferences are per definition subjective, it's not like you're saying "I think this person is better than that one" you're only saying "I feel more attracted to this person than to that one." Regardless what it is that makes you feel that way, there's nothing wrong with that. You either feel attracted to someone, or you don't.
Like, (1) local and (2) other? I guess that is what I am saying, it’s this idea, of focusing more on, what you think you aren’t attracted to, more than, what you are attracted to, which isn’t via experience
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