Most Helpful Girl
Society has a nasty habit of making something completely normal that women want seem desperate and sad.
What do you mean badly? Yes most women want to get married and yes most women want a family at some point. That's completely normal. That's how it works virtually every culture on this planet.
And believe it or not, most men want it. And their figures are pretty close to women's in most surveys.
Most Helpful Guy
Most commonly I hear guys say a cost vs reward analysis shows that it's not worth the risks compared to living single since you can get most of the benefits of a relarionship easily without the relationship. For me I just don't see a point. I love romance and I like symbolism, but that's all I like about marriage. I don't care for the huge gathering, the display of wealth, the social norms. My problems with weddings aside since I guess that's separate... marriage offers nothing to the relationship long term. It doesn't add faithfulness, love, specialness. It's a celebration of the feelings you two share and a symbolism of your commitment, I like the vows and the rings (even though I can't wear a wedding ring :( broke my ring finger and just trust me with the way it healed a ring will not fit on) and thats about it. Everything else feels utterly pointless and sometimes backwards. Any "benefit" of it I can get is something I can have with a long term committed relationship. In my country I even get the tax benefits for living with a partner for a period of time.
Mostly my views on this were shaped by my parents (well, mom and step dad) who were not married (my mother was really wary about it after my birth father fucked her over) until this year (they've been together for almost 20 years). I have no religious needs for marriage as an atheist and this is a little off topic but still related, I dislike the diamond industry.