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-lSo why did you start with this girl when you knew she smoked, especially if it is a deal breaker? It's like saying I know there are piranha in the water but I'm gonna stick my foot in there anyway. But I'll tell you what some things you can tell her, but it probably won't do any good. For one, smoking is a leading contributor for heart attacks in women. My aunt was a heavy smoker since she was 16. When she was in her 60's she started getting Alzheimers after a heart attack. She had several more over the years and each time she got worse until she finally had to go to a care home where she died. Also women who smoke have their faces go to pot faster than non smokers. My mother went to her high school reunion and said all her friends that were smokers looked way older than the other women from her class. Lastly smoking can damage the health of others in her family from 2nd hand smoke and if she smokes during pregnancy it can affect the fetus in many ways, both mentally and physically. So... of she cares anything about any of this, or about you she will stop smoking.
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Well ill tell you that most people start smoking for a reason and its usually because of some sort of problem in their life. Smoking relieves stress and allows you to relax and calm your mind so starting an argument will only make her want to smoke more. Have a real calm and honest conversation with her about what is really troubling her and what made her want to start smoking. Then hopefully you can get to the root of it and help her fix it. But you'll need to remain supportive and actually listen dont make the conversation about you or she'll pull away6
Most Helpful Guys
You went about it all wrong. Regardless of how you feel about them, they were her property. If you're not a smoker, it's hard for you to understand the addiction. Let me try to relate it for you. Think of something that you love to do regularly, like every day. Now think about how hard it would be to stop doing it completely. I'm not saying she loves smoking, but quitting smoking for her is about as difficult as that would be for you. The best thing you can do to get her to quit is to set aside 3 days and make everything as stress free as possible. Yelling at her, making her uncomfortable, arguing, these are all things that cause stress. When someone or something causes a smoker stress, the body goes into "give me nicotine NOW" mode. So the way that you were trying to get her to stop, actually made her need to smoke more. That's another thing for you to understand, to a smoker, smoking is not a want, in their mind and physically to their body it actually is a need.
This is how I quit.
I learned that after 72 hours without nicotine, the body's need for it goes away. I went up north, didn't bring any smokes, and sat in that cabin stress free. After that, I knew it was all mental. You need to help her understand that you care about her and want her to quit. Create a stress free environment for her for 3 days. Nicotine withdrawals are real and they're not easy. She will get edgy, irritable, argumentative and maybe even aggressive. But you gotta keep your cool and just support her through that time regardless of how unreasonable she becomes. After that, you should have your girlfriend that doesn't smoke back.1
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That's just shows she lacks respect and is inconsiderate of your concerns. She can't even wait till your out of the car? Most smokers I know if there's someone who doesn't like the smell of smoke and they're in a confound area, they won't do it. Its bad for her and she'll smell like it all the time, plus smokers taste disgusting. Don't be with a a person who doesn't care for your opinion or her health.2