I like him so much. But, I try and be more in the present because I know things don’t always work out. And i hate it, but, a part of me just wants to be young and not think too much about marriage and spending my life with one person. I can see myself marrying him in the future. But, sometimes I just get overwhelmed and worried.
Most Helpful Guy
First about other gentlement being harsh a bit - please understand their point of view dont judge easily. Experiences makes a man become more rationap and its getting harder to cover things with shiny celofan. its not about hurting anyone, nor about "one bad exp, that defined their actual state" its rather about a lot experience that cause us to quit the fairytale speaking.
i myself will try to avoid being rude and do my best now to be fair, helpfull, if i may. just please take it as such.
Its psichologically gives a better chance of survival for a relationship if the woman loves the man more than vica versa. Since whatever happened to the world affections mechanism still follows evolution. the one you fall in love with is more dominant than u are, so logically it works out better if you are more clingy than he is.
second of all, in case of a man its not an issue, since its usually comin natural, but its important for your part that you 1. love him 2. lust for him at the same time. if that happens you won't hesitate goin the full mile, cause ur mind can't be stopped doin it.
maybe its just because of hurt from the past and you will click. but if its the other way around and you're there just because he gives safety unfortunatepy its right, that won't be good on the long term. time will tell and you will know from the heart
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like you didn't properly heal from your last relationships. Give yourself more time to figure this out (how serious you want the relationship to get). As much as you need and tell your boyfriend to slow down with the serious talk if he is suffocating you. Communication is key. If you want to be with him for the rest of your life then you need to let go of the past. Let yourself be vulnerable. You can't prevent everything. Let yourself enjoy the relationship and be in the present and stay out of your head. If you can't see yourself with him then its only right to break up with him.