He constantly talks about how he wants to "put a ring on my finger" and marry me. Which is good, I see that in our future too. However, I've kind of felt out his thoughts by saying, "Well not for a few more years, right?" like joking and kind of seeing what he thinks. All he really says is, "Psh" or "It may be sooner than you think." Sometimes he'll say that, or when I recently mentioned how quick wedding dresses can go out of style during one of our conversations, he was really vague with what he said.
I'm just confused about what he's thinking. He's a guy so I know getting married isn't his top priority, we're working towards other steps in our relationship right now. I just feel like I'm getting mixed signals from him since he's talking about "putting a ring on my finger" almost daily, but then it seems like he doesn't want to get married for a few more years. It's just kind of confusing and in that fairytale girl dream it makes me excited, so I don't really want to be excited for something that might not happen at all or won't happen for a few years.
For our 1 yr, he got me a promise ring and the day before we were joking about him proposing again and he said, "maybe it'll be tomorrow." But then he just really makes it seem like we won't get married for a few more years, and like I said I'm confused.
What do you guys think? Should I talk to him, would this confuse you too, or am I making too big a deal about the entire situation?
(Also, please don't chastise me for my willingness to get married in such a "short amount of time". Everyone has different relationships and timelines. Thanks.)
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Sounds like you want marriage. After a year, it’s not unusual to at least be thinking about the future of the relationship. He definitely seems to be sending some mixed signals. Maybe he is gauging your reaction with his comments. Maybe he’s scared to move forward. Who knows? When he talks about marriage, don’t test him with questions. Let him know you like the idea of that. Be open about your feelings without being pushy. Maybe it will give him the confidence to finally ask you.