Are humans meant to date?

Are humans meant to date?

Do you think we are meant to be together? To fall in love and dedicate ourselves to one man/woman? Look at the animal kingdom. Most animals do not date and instead have meaningless casual sex. Do you think the same applies to people? Our society used to shun casual sex. Of course people slept around and stuff throughout human history but I don't think it was as common as it is now, and dating always was put before casual sex. But now, we see dating among young people dying. Young people don't date. It's all just sex. Lots of sex with many different people. I think people now (thanks to Liberals) can behave the way they want without "breaking" social norms. And as a result we see the death of monogamy and meaningful relationships. So this makes me ask the question - were humans meant to date? Are relationships unnatural? I think modern "datng" kinda proves that maybe humans never wanted to date/marry but society forced them to.

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  • It's said that originally we were a polygamous species. So I don't think it was dating more so than find someone that you liked and if they liked you as well you would bang (and the more, the merrier).

    But clearly humans have the capacity for forming relationships through getting to know others (similar to other animals). So I don't see why humans should refrain from it.

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    • But people do not value sex and spend their youth fucking dozens of people.

    • Some people do. Talk to quite a few guys on here who are doing it now and have done it when younger.

  • My favorite animals are the ones that mate for life. Like penguins and gibbons. They have their priorities straight.

    The rate that people are making babies in these monogamous relationships is alarming and we're over populating the Earth already. The original purpose of having sex with as many partners as possible was to make as many descendants as possible, which would ruin the Earth. While nowadays humans have sex because of pleasure, not because of procreation. So they can't really be compared with most other species of animals. But I guess it would be better for the planet if people just had safe sex with whoever and never settled down and made children.. 🤷🏼

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    • Agreed with everything until the pleasure part, there is nothing wrong with having sex for pleasure, Aslong as you aren't whoring around, why else would we have sexual nerves? Should we become mormons and only have sex to reproduce? No way! Sex can be a very beautiful and loving thing, and to say having sex for pleasure is bad, is quite absurd there is nothing wrong with partaking in pleasure with your partner, it's a very intimate moment.

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    • I cannot change that but for me and all the people I've been with, it's been an intimate thing.

    • I didn't say there was anything wrong with having sex for pleasure. That's the only reason I personally have sex. I don't plan on ever having children.

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  • Most humans (Like 95% of women and 40% of men) were meant to sleep with each other more or less whenever they want to. Monogamy was invented so the other 5% of women and 60% of men wouldn't feel bad because no one would ever EVER love them, so they could just pretend like someone would and force each person to be with one other partner forever, even though attractive men and most women were having fun sleeping around before.

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    • Exactly. Most women are very promiscuous.

    • Actually, in this theory it would be men who are very promiscuous. The women are just willing to share the promiscuous partners.

  • Eh... a lot of animals don't just have casual sex. It varies by species. A better question is whether or not monogamy is appropriate for our species.

    If you take a look at the cultures in the world, we have a lot of variation, but marriage is one common factor among nearly all of them. Religion, culture, politics, etc. don't seem to affect the fact that people pair up all over the world. That says to me that we are supposed to be monogamous.

    Also, while it may escape your perhaps limited experience, the fact still remains that half of all American adults (regardless of age) are married. It's reasonable to assume a good chunk of people who aren't married are in committed relationships. So, at any given point in time there are many more people with partners than without. That's another data point that suggests to me we're wired to be monogamous.

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    • Then why does everyone fuck hundreds of people and don’t value sex or anything?

    • A lot of people around you may be doing that, but by and large most people in the world don't.

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What Girls Said 15

  • God wanted people to stay married to one person. I think the way to do this is to view the person you are dating as a best friend - because you don't ditch your best friend if they gain or lose too much weight. You don't ditch your best friend if they become sick. If people view their partners exclusively as sex objects or bank machines or fancy comedy shows - they will abandon the person when the relationship ceases to be entertaining because they didn't base their relationship with that person on the long term things that make relationships last until death.

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  • I disagree, Human have a lot more consciousness than any other animal, so to compare to Lions is a bit far fetched although I see where you're coming from completely.

    We have the ability to love and care a for someone a lot more than a Lion does, that's why we have relationships instead of casual sex, because we have a lot more feelings main one being Love.

    I also do not think you can pin the youth, I've always taken my relationships seriously, I agree the youth do not care as much which is why from quite a young age I've realised older guys are better, as they're older they're ready to take things seriously, but please don't assume it's all the youth.

    Very solid question though, It is weird how we're the only things on earth to have a relationship, (Maybe others do too idk?) I think In this point of time sex Is VERY VERY pushed by the media at the moment, Like music has a huge part to play, when celebrities are literally shooting porn in music videos, no wonder so many children are having sex so young, Luckily I wasn't dumb enough to let that influence me.

    Good question I very much enjoyed writing an opinion on this +1

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  • Even though committed relationships are diminishing in the face of a sex-crazed era, I firmly believe that dating and serious relationships are meant to happen. If nothing else, than to help us collect data on a perfect mate.

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    • Nah no one dares or anything anymore.

    • I do at least. I chose to abstain until marriage, so I don’t really do anything casual like that.

  • the issue i have with you statement is "most animals". you see that means sime ARE. are swans, barn owls and penguins in nature less "natural" than other animals? because they are all monogamous. and last time i checked they are more "natural" then what you see in a swingers club. so please reexamine your argument. some animals eat their own poop and vomit. if you are about being natural, shouldn't you do this too? see? argument doesn't work.

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  • Yes, pretty much.
    Without talking about god and him creating Eve to accompany Adam and provide children.
    I’ve always said that, both, men and women were made differently because opposites attract.
    So even if people weren’t meant to date, curiosity will make people want to date each other.
    Also, we’re all meant to reproduce right? That’s the boring cycle of life which we’re given the choice to complete or say “ fuck it.”
    I’m not sure if that made a lot of sense, but yeah... basically.

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  • I feel it depends on the person. I think it's healthy to explore an see what you like but it's nice to have that one person you really connect with. So I think in our youth dating is unnecessary but as we get older I feel we do crave that deeper connection.

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    • So just use each other?

    • How is it using? You're not lying and being open about your intentions. Communication is the key in life.

  • From what I've read, humans are in general a more monogamous creature, but it's not clear cut like penguins that mate for life. It's that we are ment to have many monogamous relationships so we have many chances to have children with different genes, but they would also get to be raised. It's not so clear cut but that is one explanation for why it's so much work to keep a relationship great. You want the best offspring and if you already have the best partner where is the motivation to seek others. I think people nowadays are really valuing lust, probably because media and culture, so for people who do like to easily cross that boundary, it's more okay than it's ever been. I feel like I've been encouraged to sleep around, but it's not my thing and some people just dont seem to get it. I think for the people I meet in my generation a higher percentage like to sleep around than I'd like but it just means a little more digging if I were to look.

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  • yes we are meant to "date" and monogamy and relationships are not dead.

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  • no we're not, the birth of religion forced people to be monogamous and it became a habit.

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  • Yes I do believe

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  • yes.

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  • Yees

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  • silly question

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  • See my answer to one of your other questions

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  • I saw a documentary once that said there's a "monogamy hormone" called vasopressin that makes certain animals more apt to mate for life. Humans are apparently one of them.

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What Guys Said 23

  • People have been dating for thousands of years. It is universal across all cultures and locations. It isn't going to change. People try to cheapen relationships. There will alway be some level of courtship.

    Plus even in nature there is some level of courtship (dating).

    I don't really understand the logic here.

    I'm totally not trolling or being mean.

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  • The biological answer is no. Men are designed to take the women he wants and have them for life. And women are designed for one partner for life biologically speaking. Dating cause promiscuity then the marriage will drop bc onky idiot marries used women and then the birth rate will drop and the country will collapse, like Rome.

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  • There are monogamous species.

    Also, even if there weren’t, we’re already unique in many ways, why should we give a fuck what other species do if we have what works for us?

    Furthermore you can do both and you’re not giving nature much credit by suggesting it should be one way or the other. We have drives toward both reproductive models: invest & brute force.

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  • 100% yes. When God created Adam, Eve was already one spirit with Him inside him.

    Man and woman complete each other and belong together as God meant it from the beginning for various purposes.

    Genesis 2:23-24:

    And Adam said:

    “This is now bone of my bones
    And flesh of my flesh;
    She shall be called Woman,
    Because she was taken out of Man.”

    Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

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  • A man and a woman is what is needed to keep the human race going. Looking to the bible it states A MAN AND WOMAN SHOULD STICK TOGETHER AND BECOME ONE FLESH, that not in the litural sense , but as a couple , best way to get to know each other is by dating...

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  • Dating is a biproduct of society.
    In times when reproduction was more important dating didn't exist as people cared more about having children.
    But nowadays reproduction isn't that necessary so relationships are based on love.

    That is why we date, to test if we love the other person.

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  • And most animals dont bathe or sleep in beds or eat regularly. We are the apex of the animal kingdom, and every culture and every religion all have marriage its who we are

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  • You are confused, and I get why
    Lets see, will why do think we need relationships?
    The difference is that we are in always need of home, a place that is fixed for us, because we realize how much the world is changing , we are so different, that we aren't animals, animals have three needs , food and water, shelter , and surviving (breeding).
    As for we, achieve those things and look for more , something with far superior meaning, we want someone that understand us, that can make us admire ourselves and the human race, that motivate our intellect to work harder.
    For the new generation of meaningless sex, I will ask you to look at this site's questions and you will see that many issues they have is because of that, they are changing the human nature of settling down, they will see an awful results because of it.

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  • Yeah, whatever these people say most of them say it because it's what society wants you to say. Its building stone of our society in fact. But not by nature we are not meant to stay together. We are designed to make the most offspring as possible (mainly male population) so that's the reason why that many people get divorced. The natural attraction and hormones tell us to mate a new female. And the shit with god and gods love, don't even listen to it, its 2000 year old book about magical grandpa on a cloud, if you listen to that you deny your freedom and freewill by default. Have a nice day

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  • Humans are meant to fuck so we don't die off and extinct

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  • in the days of old in some cultures. if you liked a girl then you'd marry her without having to take her for lunch.

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  • Well sure! it's a social construct made up by you, er I mean us humans!

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  • Anything a human does is what a human does naturally, UNLESS we've been influenced by aliens.

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  • I believe dating is not natural it's something we impose on ourselves in civilizations to stay the inequalities of nature and keep happiness equal amongst the people. When you look in history you see warlords, the strongest and most successful men, keeping harems and the lower classes either alone or monogomous if they could even get a woman. We instituted monogomy as a social construct so majority of men could have companionship and pass his genes along and women wouldn't be treated as just another breeding stump of many and be loved and cherished by a man who swears himself to her. Dating is a more modern addition to monogomy so we could choose our own partners instead of our parents deciding for us.

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  • Well.. If you think we evolved from apes then ofcourse you'd compare yourself to the inferior animal kingdom and your life will be nothing but eating, sleeping, killing time, doing casual sex and then expire into a grave with literal hopelessness.
    But.. If you consider all the ample evidences around us and inside us; You'd see that we are eternal beings made by a supreme creator whose gonna judge us one day according to the light given to us which we so gladly trampled under our feet when we were yet alive. And these acts of rebellion will condemn us, our consiousness will condemn us into a hell from where there is no escape. I dont believe in actual fire in hell but an unquenching hell-fire inside us consuming are spirits forever. Ask someone who suffer from depression and anxiety. They'll tell how they see themselves. But ultimately the freedom of choice is ours. Believe it or not!

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  • Only in terms of medical and dental knowledge.

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  • Hope so

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  • No we aren't!

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  • Yes sure

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  • the bible says we are superior to animals

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  • Yes we are

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  • This is so deep

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  • god made this glass case
    he makes the rules
    no one else

    and please do not say GOD is not real you will just sound stupid
    evolution is a joke

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