Too few sexual partners?

I am almost 28, and I have slept with just two guys, I was in a relationship in both cases (3,5 years and 6 years). I don’t normally talk about my past relationships because I have the feeling I will scare the guys off, even though I am putting pressure on anyone with regards to dating, exclusivity, or sth else.

After my break up a few months ago, I recently started dating and I have the feeling that guys expect me to sleep with them on the second or third date, and for me, that’s just too soon. I need to know the person a bit to feel comfortable, otherwise the sex wouldn’t be good either, I know that.

I got asked on the third date whether I am just conservative, so I told the guy that I am out of long-term relationship and that’s just difficult for me, to get into the new mindset. I expected he would never call afterwards, but he did, we even met again, but he kind of took a step back.

Would you guys be scared off by a girl who is coming out of a long relationship and is possibly not up to, you know, just sleeping with you right away?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I can't imagine that would scare anyone away- you have been loyal within two long-term, stable relationships. That is a big plus. A guy who really wants to be with you would be willing to wait.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I commend you for nor having dozens of sexual partners... don't feel ashamed for this... your past just shows you are committed and faithful person. I think just casually dating would be a good thing and when you meet a guy you feel you might want to be with, then you will know you are finally ready to move forward. But I wouldn't worry about them judging you.. it's not like you don't have any experience.. and I think a lot of guys will be grateful you don't have a elaborate sexual past.

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What Guys Said 7

  • it wouldn't put me off you but i would give you the time you need to get over the past so i would maybe step back too. not as im not interested but because i am... i hope that makes sense

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  • There's is not a set number of people to have sex with so just take it easy my number is really low too 12 girls for a guy that's like nothing

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  • I have slept with more than 100 women in my life. Sex is never a priority for me.

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  • No. But try to make sure he knows you're interested in other ways.

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  • Nothing wrong with that

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  • Too few isn't important, it's too many we worry about.

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  • A woman with few sexual partners is rare and therefore superior to the majority of women

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What Girls Said 1

  • I feel like most men who are worth your time will really appreciate that you were loyal and not a hoe. Girls these days are sleezy and have had tons of sexual partners. Nobody wants stds or aids so I feel like a real man, would feel blessed your honestly like a one in a million.

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