After I told one guy it was my birthday, his immediate response was, “let’s go for a birthday drink or coffee”. Come on, really? Not even I would do that. I’d invite someone I’m interested in out to dinner on his birthday! Even if it’s a random platonic friend, I’d take them out to eat.
Most Helpful Guys
you meet on line - they only know what you've wanted him to know. there are a LOT of phonies out there. there's no way any guy with experience - who earns his own $ - is willing to drop $50-$75 on a dinner date if there's a possibility she's a phony. (this is a 2-way street, by the way.)
meet for coffee or snack. there will be a dinner date if there's something "there." if not, consider the signals you're putting out there and figure out how to get to step 2.
Can't speak for all guys but it's kind of an mutual interest thing for me. Like when I asked girls out for drinks, my rationale for it was that I wasn't sure she was that interested in me. Just offering to go out for drinks seemed like a blur between "friendly hanging out and dating" as opposed to, say, a romantic boat ride in a park followed by a fancy dinner.
So if I got the feeling a girl might not be that interested in me and I might have to work up her interest towards me, I'd pick a more casual kind of "easy date", not putting much pressure on her for anything more than some drinks and company, but with the hope that spending such time together might lead to something a bit more like a real date.
Meanwhile if a girl was very flirty and I was pretty sure she was as into me as I was into her, I'd go for a bolder kind of "real date".
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Most Helpful Girl
You expect someone you met online, who you've never met before, to be seriously invested in you? Enough to invest good time and money into?
Nah. I prefer quick and low key first dates. We're just getting to know each other, after all. If it goes well, we can do dinner for a second date maybe.