I can't be rational about it and say "they're just busy" etc because I can't convince myself of that in the situation. The thing is I know I'm a good girlfriend but I get so insecure over the smallest things. And I'm so scared to be used... So how do I stop being so stupid and be more rational in love?
Most Helpful Guy
You didn’t mention your sexual history with the guys that have made you mistrust men. I’m not saying this is the case, but I would say that if you’ve been quick to go to bed with these guys, stop doing that. It’s the number one classic female mistake to think that a good girl can fix a bad boy by falling for him and letting him have his way with you. Nothing else will make him disappear more quickly. Making the guy wait (on the order of months, at least) is the best way you have of making sure he is really into you. If he is, his interest will hold long term.
The advice of @laurieluvsit is excellent. In particular, if you’ve been meeting guys in hookup places like bars and nightclubs, a change of venue will definitely improve the caliber of men you encounter.
Good luck finding happiness!
Most Helpful Girl
What a wonderful question!
Insecurity and lack of trust will constantly devastate your relationships.
Just study and read a lot about trust.
One thing to do is find a boy that loves to help others.
You can do that by joining one or more volunteer organizations like the Red Cross or CERT or something like that.
There you will find boys that are selfless and place the highest priority on helping other and not their first concern on selfishness as you have be experiencing now with some boys.
You will love it and meet many new friends of both genders that are the greatest people on earth, I PROMISE!
Best Wishes Ms Em! :)