my boyfriend and I met on a dating website. We've been together for 6-7 months now and we have a good relationship even though we still take it one day at a time. Yesterday I found that he had pictures of girls (from dating websites obviously) on his Iphone and then I went on the dating website to see if he still had a profile and he did... He even updated it in the last month. I confronted him about it and he said it was just for fun because he has a new laptop so he can take pictures and upload them easily. But that's not enough for me. I said I wanted to talk about it because obviously we don't have the same definition of a exclusive relationship. I think its wrong to be on a dating site if you're not single. How would you react if that happened to you? What should I do?
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That is shady. He is either a simpleton too foolish to recognize how wrong this is (and I doubt you are dating someone like that), or he is up to no good. Sure, maybe he isn't actually trying to cheat, but this is wrong on so many levels that doesn't even matter. 1. He's lying to these girls by pretending he is single 2. He's emotionally cheating 3. He has an amazingly sad need for attention from others 4. His ability to empathize on his own, without you actually having to tell him this is not cool, is lacking.
I personally would have to end the relationship, but that is me and based on a past relationship with a narcissist who would do odd things because he really just couldn't help doing what worked for him in spite of how hurtful it could be to me. At the least, I would keep my eyes open and I would wonder at the strength of your relationship. After 6 or 7 months of dating, I would not be at the stage of "taking it one day at a time". I would be expecting more of an emotional connection and thoughtfulness from my partner. I see that you are young, so I will take that into consideration that I doubt you would feel quite the way I do, but just keep your eyes open as to his continuing actions. This may well be the tip of the iceberg of a bigger problem.1