Most Helpful Girl
Based on what you said, I don't think she was lying. If I wasn't interested in someone, I wouldn't tell them where they could find me.
I have made up excuses on occasion though. One reason I'll make up excuses sometimes is when a guy doesn't explicitly say that he's interested in me romantically, but makes it obvious in other ways, and keeps trying to invite me to things. I can't say I'm not interested if he didn't actually say that the reason he was asking was romantic attraction. Because then he can just deny it, and say that I'm being arrogant. But if I go with him then I'm accused of leading him on. So I try to avoid him and hope he can take a hint. I'll usually just say I'm busy, and I won't specify with what. And then I just make sure I'm doing something at that time.
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Most Helpful Guy
um with things going on, at least in the US, I kind of don't blame girls for trying to politely brush off advances- especially if it is a guy they don't know. She may have had experiences with a guy in the past in a similar scenario that turned ugly and now she is afraid. I know it sucks to be judged for someone else's mistake, but playing it safe is the right move in the end.
I recommend at least becoming acquaintances with a girl or having a few conversations to get past such defenses. At the very least, if she is still uninterested, they are more likely to be honest about it because they can at least make some prediction about how you will react. As a stranger, she has to assume the worst case scenario.