I can tell that he's sincerely sorry for what he did and not just because he got caught. I want to forgive him and try to move forward with the relationship but I don't want to be "that stupid girl" who gives her boyfriend a second chance then gets hurt even worse the next time around. I also don't want to be a bitter person who can't forgive and believes the mistake defines the person.
Is it a bad idea to give a cheater a second chance?
Most Helpful Guy
You sound like an insightful girl, so good for you for thinking it through. I don't know you or him but the biggest red flag to me is that he hooked up with a friends with benefits. That might cause some problems in the foreseeable future or i could be spewing shit, who knows?
But if it were me I would take a break, and tell him that, I know you're sorry, but I need a break for a bit to think and once i've time to think we can be together again. I would use that break time to so how he acts. If he goes back to that women or any other woman, then i wouldn't because if he genuinely wants to be with you he'll use that break to think about what he's done.
Best of luck to you!
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think this matter is as simple as some make it out to be. It's not always because they have found someone better etc. In some cases there's a reason behind it (psychologically). What you can do is try to find the reason and see if it's always gonna be there (In that case there's no point in continuing with the relationship). Examples of when there's still hope for the relationship: 1. He's the one who tells you about it (u don't catch him do it). He admits cheating on you/not being loyal to u. 2. The relationship he has with another person hasn't been going on for a long time and is not emotional.
3. He doesn't deny it. 4. He deeply regrets having done it. 5. He's willing to solve the issues it has caused.
Now, wether the person chooses to stay in the relationship or not is their choice and there are a lot of factors to consider.