How do guys feel when a girl says she will pay on a date?

Well, in most cultures, if not all, men pay on first dates, if not all. As for me I usually feel guilty when a man spends so much on me yet I can buy myself the same thing. I don't mind being treated once in a while but I also don't want to seem dependent on him all the time. How do guys feel about this? Do they enjoy spending on their girl or do they feel like they are obligated to do so?

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  • you're a welcome rarity.
    it's a bit of a surprise as it goes against (u. s.) convention; however, i was open to it but more comfortable with "dutch" (each pays their own), tho. it tells someone you're not out for a free meal, which happens far too often.
    am sure roots of the custom go WAY back, but expect it had to do with guys (w/money) being the "asker" and girls (w/the goods) being the "agreeer." guys would pay as a means of expressing their appreciation for the girls' time and attentions. this has evolved to a societal norm wrt manners - like holding the door, etc. - in which guys are normally expected to pay.
    NOW - there are some who take advantage of this. anyone who's ever had a date order and then have the meal boxed for take-out so they could eat at home (alone), had them bring friends (and expect the bill to be paid by the date), or had a date "eat and dash" (leave w/o notice), will tell you that guys DO watch for such behavior.

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  • well if any girl said that to me, then i know im not gonna look at the menu, and im just gonna order at least 6 food items in the first time, then 4 different food items in the second time, then 4 different desserts in the 3rd time, and maybe some juice too

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    • πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚okay this is funny. So you wouldn't really mind, or feel 'inferior' if she says she will pay?

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    • πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚Oh boy. Thank you for your opinion😊

    • No Problemoo

  • I feel lucky - not because I couldn't afford it, but because this conveys seriousnesss.

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    • And for those who claim to feel 'powerless' when a girl pays for them, is it peer pressure or, what can you call that? And is it worth being with such a person who wants you to be totally dependent on them and give up your independence?

    • I don't give a f@ck about peet pressure. I mean, whatever others might think, it is still my life. My choices. And all the people who would squeal bc. I let a girl split bills will never affect my life...

    • THAT'S THE SPIRIT!!!

  • It's quite fine when she can contribute as an equal πŸ‘

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  • Hello sexy lady how are you doing today my name is Kendrick I like both of us to do

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