Are we all shallow when it comes to dating? Why or why not? Is it right to be shallow in dating?
What Girls Said 1
We all have our preferences, just some are more extreme than others
What Guys Said 2
I feel it's less being shallow & more making sure I find someone compatible. Nothing shallow in that.
"Shallow" and "deep" are only distinguished in my opinion by the amount of info you gather in advance. The idea that looks don't communicate important information is something I'd contest a lot, as even the confidence of a person is often expressed through how they carry themselves in ways you deduce with the eyes. It's not something I could deduce over text, for example.
As for being "shallow" in dating, I did date girls that I barely knew in advance. And many of those didn't work out as I got to get more information about them (and them about me) over the dating process. There's a higher risk there to dating somebody you don't know that well initially, and I ended up marrying a girl I knew as a friend for a year in advance before we started dating. So I figure it's lower risk if you know each other well first, but I don't necessarily see higher risk as bad if you are prepared for that risk.
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