How would you feel if the roles were switched for men and women?


How do you think it would be like if the roles were really reversed?
For me:
Girl would wear the pants, make all the decisions, ask the guy out, and control all the money.
Girl would hold doors for guys, open car doors for guys, and guys would...

guys would stay at home and take care of the kids, wake up at weird hours to make sure the kid goes back to sleep, clean and cook and wash dishes all day long, do the clothes... go shopping for everything...

girls will buy guys romantic presents... but girls will also fix all the car and house related things.
girls will not understand feelings, and be emotionally cold and distant. girls will not share any thoughts or ideas with the guy and just treat guy like a sex object, and a servant who cooks and cleans.
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  • You need to read "The Power" by Naomi Alderman.
    It is a novel that came out in the USA a year ago and was on many Best of 2017 book lists including being the first book listed in Obama's 2017 list.

    This book is a novel within a novel. It starts with a series of letters between a member of the Men's Writers Association named Neil who has written an historical novel called "The Power". He is submitting this book to Naomi, his female friend / mentor, also an author and/or editor, to solicit her thoughts on his book. Most of the middle of the book is Neil's novel. The end of the book is more letters between Neil and Naomi.

    Now, you need to understand that in Neil and Naomi's world, it is a world more-or-less contemporary with ours except that it is 5000 years from now after "The Cataclysm" and women are the dominant gender.

    Conventional wisdom in their time is that women have always been the dominant gender and that The Cataclysm was the result of an apocalyptic world war between (women dominated) nation-states of the time. Neil though is an archeologist and the prevailing theory of the archeologists is that before The Cataclysm, MEN were the dominant gender and it was when women gained their physical power that enabled them to dominate men that The Cataclysm happened.

    Neil's novel, The Power, is historical fiction in that it gives a story of what the world was like before The Cataclysm and that shows the transformation of the world as women start to gain their power and what leads up to The Cataclysm.

    What is this power women gain?

    Teen girls around the world start developing a muscular organ along their collarbone called a skein. This skein can generate electricity that women can emit from their fingers. This power is very much like electric eels. The electric jolts can be enough to fatally electrocute someone.

    More importantly, the teen girls can "awaken" this in older women and all girls are now born with skeins.

    Most importantly, boys and men don't have skeins.

    As @wouterv noted, the world as we know it comes to an end and must begin anew.

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    • very interesting... so in all women would be evil if they ruled the world? is that the bottom line? and men need to keep women in check?

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    • @Hurlyburly You are more than welcome, young lady.

      The publisher is Hachette. In the past 11 months since I discovered this book on Wednesday before Thanksgiving from reading the NY Times, I have bought this book in hardcover 5 times!

    • @abc3643 I'll probably grab the German translation, already looked a bit into it on Amazon :)

  • Wait, are you under the impression that men WANT to be emotionally cold or distant? We WANT to treat women dismissively?

    NO!

    It's just if you don't do that, good luck finding a date. Women will assume you're gay or clingy or there is something wrong with you if you don't fit this stereotype.

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    • LOL... OK?

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    • I have read the book 7 principles of marriage and only about 30% or something like that of men have emotional intelligence/empathy. More women have it than men... why don't men have emotional intelligence? I have also read books like "how to have a new husband by friday" and men don't really care if the toilet paper has fallen off and is on the floor for months... it's usually the women doing most of the buying necessities and cleaning/cooking/tidying up etc... why is this? I wouldn't mind if you guys had more understanding of feelings, and would clean more. I had a neighbor back in the day and she hated men roommates and her complaint was that men don't clean up after themselves.

    • Ok... So do you think these are perks about being a man? Because I clean up after myself, spend a lot of time exploring my emotions and journaling them and have a good sense of empathy, and women just tend to think it makes me gay. Meaning men who don't do these things are seen as more masculine, meaning women date them, meaning they receive reinforcement for not having emotional intelligence and not cleaning up after themselves, meaning they'll keep doing it. Not being able to identify, Express and deal with emotions is not a perk though. It only is reinforced because people say it's how men are supposed to be.

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  • You're deluded. Guys don't make all decisions nor control the money. You're either stupid and your boyfriends don't want you to make bad decisions or just have wild imagination. Also, most guys aren't cold and emotionally distant. Actually many guys are very lively and make great jokes. I think they understand feelings too. Guys do share their thoughts and honestly most of the guys don't treat women like sex objects nor servants.

    You're deluded petty excuse for a woman. You're making me ashamed of my gender.

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  • Damn your gender role ideas are pretty much biased... I'm glad that I do not have to live in your little world.

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    • you did not answer the question, how would you feel if sex roles switched for men and women?

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    • the existing ones you think exist... those are the ones I think exists.

    • So if the existing ones would switch then... Eh not much would change actually except of women having it way way harder if it comes to divorce. Since I'm not even planning to marry yet I do not think that I would feel any different. But will women be physically stronger too then? Otherwise most "men" jobs would become damn inefficient.

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What Guys Said 66

  • I prefer a relationship of equals.

    by the way, in a lot of families, women do Control the Money or the men take care of the Kids a lot.

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  • Well first and foremost your perception is entirely wrong. Men make the decisions but they are based on what the girl wants, not what he wants so she technically already controls the relationship. She also is in control of the money (80% of all domestic spending is done by women, 70% globally) the only thing he controls is how much of it he makes at which point all of that pretty much just goes straight to her. Women work fewer hours then men so that's also something to consider, especially when you say women would wake up at weird hours to care for children, I mean maybe in the past but now? Now the man does all the things I pointed out but also does the house work and takes care of children. Also in your scenario it would be women who would have to risk their life protecting men, it would be women who would be overwhelmingly more likely to be homeless (80% of homeless are men) while it would be men who society would fixate on while women suffered. It would also mean that women would be 80% of all suicides instead of men while being told that they are worthless and to stop being so selfish and thank about men for a change, as well as being the ones to do all the shitty, physically grueling and/or dangerous jobs like construction, mining, fire department, police department, military, waste management etc. as well as being 97% of all workplace deaths/accidents while men got to take the easy and safe jobs all the while watching the grueling work women where doing while claiming that they (men) where being oppressed. That would also mean that women instead of men would be the victims of violent crimes 80% of the time (and the more violent the crime the more likely it would be a woman who died (currently its the opposite). We would automatically be believed when we stated we where being mistreated, it would be women who would be the predominant victim of domestic violence instead of men. Yeah, that doesn't sound so bad. As for the doing dishes and cleaning all day, we have dish washers, washing machines, dryers, vacuums so that "all day" is actually at best a couple of hours. As for the "emotionally distant", men are not emotionally distant and cold, you just don't understand men and expect them to act like women (which if they did we would not have society). So over all I would be fine with it, I could work less, spend more then be catered to by both spouse and society as a whole plus I would have far more rights then I have now.

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  • Well, in my marriage I did work and also help with our child, change diapers, make formula in the middle if the night, clean up the house, fix the car, wash clothes etc.
    We didn't have traditional roles.
    Now I'm a single dad and I still have to be an all around parent for my child.
    My point is that I haven't experienced physically being a woman, but I did doing everything a dad and a mom would do for our child.
    I think there's a lot of people like that these days.

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  • wait a sec. so, you mean girls would die in battles. girls would be falsly accused of rape. girls would take responsibility for their actions. men would start movements to get rights they already have. men could have children with hotties then get them raised by good earning weird girls? all incentives would come to men? and men could act unresponsibly as a child?

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  • This is bullshit. Women don't have to stay at home, can make decisions for themselves and nobody takes their money away. This is a blatant strawman. This hasn't been the case for ovee 70 years in the West. I assume that's where you are writing from.

    Obviously men wouldn't be OK with being second class citizens, neither were women. That is exactly why they aren't.

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  • That would be weird, but I guess I could deal with it. There was once a sitcom in the 70's called All That Glitters, that had the role reversal. The women were all execs and corporate leaders, while the men got ogled, and were secretaries, or house husbands, or whatever.

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  • As long as I get boobs too, I'm fine with it.

    Joke aside, I think it's the best if both do 50/50 (more or less) in the different roles. This world where girls and guys have different pre-defined roles is slowly but surely melting away, which I think is great. I'd feel weird going into a relationship where I have no part in keeping the household and my partner doesn't work a regular job, etc. I know I wouldn't be happy with this, and I'm pretty sure not a lot of girls would either.

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  • To be honest, the way you wrote that made it sound like men would be better off taking up the women's role. I'm in!

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  • Right now my wife is working and I'm between jobs. That means I am the one doing dishes and cooking. Waiting for her to get home and all that. This sucks for both of us. She don't like being bread winner and I don't like being house man. I can't wait to get another job.

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  • I'm sure this is happening somewhere in the world right now. I've known people who are in relationships in the girl definitely wear the pants in the dude was at the pad holding down the house. Never been my situation but still. I wouldn't mind staying home with the kids though I know the kind of impact I would have on raising my own children

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  • "and just treat guy like a sex object, and a servant who cooks and cleans. "

    Honestly how many current marriages do you believe this is the case today? It's not 1940 anymore.

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  • I'd do what I wanted with my life because gender roles and gender stereotypes are just how men and women have typically acted in the past, with at least some biological basis, and can be subverted by people who don't fit the roles or stereotypes

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  • Men are not like this "Not understand feelings, and be emotionally cold and distant. girls will not share any thoughts or ideas with the guy and just treat guy like a sex object, and a servant who cooks and cleans"

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  • I've watched a French movie about this scenario: a man being thrown in this world with the role reversed. Oh I've envied the protagonist so much.
    All the women were unshaven, which I really like.
    His boss at work tells him to go down on her first thing in the morning.
    Random women on the street telling him compliments.
    Girls jogging topless.
    Paradise

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  • This means i get your egual rights to walk into a police station and holler rape and get you thrown out of the house when there's a domestic dispute and ruin your reputation with all the other guys im in

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  • You have strange ideas of how things are today
    1. Guys don't control the money
    2 guys don't make all the decisions
    3. Most guys share the chores nowadays

    How it would actually be.

    I would be really hard to date a guy as they would be wanting to develop their careers when women had their sexual highs and also be really picky a girl under 6ft wouldn't stand a chance.

    Women would never get any support and would constantly be depressed by the existence of Meninism.

    Men would suffer little penalty for divorcing a woman and she would lose her children , money and love.

    Women would have their lives ruined by false accusations despite them being proven innocent.

    Men would constantly protest for even pay even though they already have it.

    Women would be shunned for their ancestors actions despite not being anything like them.

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  • Errm, that does already happen, notice you too coward to not go anon and i notice that once again women prove themselves to be misanadric feminazis going by the poll results

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  • It sounds like you have a very polarized view about men and women based on historical stereotypes. I have to ask, why ask the question? Did someone hurt you recently?

    As for my answer. I would be ok with the switch for the most part if we were only speaking in these stereotypical generalities. However, I think we are beginning to see a growing trend in true equality coming about, though it is slow going. Men are starting to be more open and secure in their masculinity which allows them to act in ways that would historically be considered "unmanly". Women are seeing the same trend in that they are forgoing dated social mores to do things typically considered "unwomanly". It would be nice if we could get to the full equality part sooner though.

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  • How about you asker? How would you would feel to switch roles with men?

    Women no longer treated first class on every level.
    Women have no way of stopping a divorce losing their kids house property and wages not getting to see their kids while their kids were turned against them.
    Women no longer got away with the things that men were held accountable, such as getting away with crimes and not required go fight and die in wars.
    Women started being stigmatized by the media and hated by men. And feminism was considered toxic.
    Women were being accused of rape culture.
    Women could tell the truth but only men were believed.
    Women were no longer held as folk hero's by the media, entertainment
    and society for the things they did that put men in jail for a good majority of their lives.
    I could go on, but how would you feel so far?

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  • its better to share thats what l think everything l have is also the girls and that includes the money

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  • If you've been married you would know that it is women who usually control the money. If not literally, then the allocation of it. That is why so much marketing is directed at them.

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  • You take guys way too negatively πŸ€” we are not monsters.. if feel like a lot of women take their sex as the chosen one πŸ˜€

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    • I am very emotional even though I have a different genital than you and I tell everything and compliment people around me all the time. Just ask them πŸ˜€ they are laughing at how often I say to them I love them

  • It's strange because the Bible teaches that the husband is the one to provide for the family.

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  • In some cultures this actually takes place. Consider China. Guess why? They have more boys than girls, which is generally vice versa in the West.

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  • That strange. I accept the actual gender role but i would let my girlfriend do my role if she insists.

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    • I would also insist on doing her role if i have nothing to do or if i want to.

  • Probably privileged. Easy life. Not much is expected of me. Easy life once again.

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  • Funny you should ask that. I've asked myself the same question.

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  • Some of your description is far from reality. Wait "Girls hold the door for guys" πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ are you still talking about this planet? Lol

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  • First, girls work today so please...
    Second if you say as it were on 50s you must add, suicide yourself if you aren't able to support family

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  • It's NOT PERFECT... Just COMPLETE it by making GUYS go PREGNANT... hmmm... What We gonna Call that SPECIES? HOMO-LESBIAN?

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What Girls Said 13

  • I think your description of the male and female roles/stereotypes is a bit extreme. Men are very well capable of being emotional, and they don't generally treat women as sex objects. The same applies for women as well - I have yet to meet a woman who cleans and cooks and washes dishes all day long.
    Anyway, to answer your question, I am perfectly content being a woman and I wouldn't really want to take on the men's role in society.

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  • This sounds to me like you're making all men sound like morons/heartless bastards... who hurt you? O_O

    There are men who do clean, cook, and look after the kids... it's 2018 now. There is good and bad in both sexes. I'd rather just remain as myself tbh.

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  • Terrible, awful. I'd wanna kill myself. I'm not even exaggerating. I'd gladly live in the 50's before these crap happens.

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    • Well technically women in the 50s where much happier then they are now, so that would actually probably be great (well minus the absence of modern technology).

  • How would you feel if the roles were switched for men and women?

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  • I’m constantly grateful to have been born a woman. I would hate that.

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  • Strange because that sounds like the worst relationship ever, not in just all situations.

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  • Totally okay with that
    xx
    ~ Mrs Manson

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  • What is this? The 1950's? Times have changed. πŸ˜“

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  • Watch the movie " It's a boy girl thing "

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  • That’s not okay

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  • Girls do wear pants...

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  • Funny how women ( yes, I am woman) demand equality everywhere but I don't see them dying to drive garbage trucks or work as butchers. I guess they just want equal pay for easier jobs.

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    • actually I have seen female butchers but it was a family farm and not exactly FDA approved. (don't worry, it was just cows and goats for Eid-ul-Adha). Also surprising, the farm had Trump stickers outside and people talking in a Southern accent and inside their card said Halal beef available but the customer would have to make it halal themselves.

    • I've also seen a woman work in construction. Granted she was fatter and more muscular than her younger male co-worker, but she was a woman

    • @Dionigi I have seen it too, but that wasn't my point. My point was that if one group talks about equality, it should mean equality across the board. All jobs, all industries. You can't pick and choose when and how you want to be equal. High paying, clean office jobs? Yay!! Heavy labor? Nay!!

  • That would suck. I also think that you're making a false exaggeration of the way people who follow more traditional roles work, clearly biased against it.

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