Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

Everything else is there, though- personality & character, similar values and interests, enjoy being around each other. I would.
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  • Lol uhhhhh well it depends because regardless of if Ii didn't find the guy attractive or not, if his personality is great then i'd probably eventually start to think he looks attractive. Lol thats just how it is. Yea physical features are what catches my eye at first I guess. But the steps for me to really like someone is mentally attracted, emotionally attracted, then physically attracted. I don't know im just weird but hey loll

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    • @deliriousmistakess U clearly dont understand what I am saying lmbo. But whatever. because I just know that some people aren't going to be able to comprehend. Well, he looks a lot older than me, so thats out of the question. You could have at least picked someone around my age.. and I'm not trying to date a white guy. I like black guys.

    • You are beautiful xx

  • I am all about personality and whats inside the person's soul. Attractiveness is all good, but humans change as we age, so i wouldn't care about looks. My own opinion.

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    • I doubt that’s actually him in the picture, looks like it could be from Google

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  • I've got to know someone online recently and I don't know what she looks like yet. But so far after 6 months of talking to her, I love her personality and how she thinks. I love her and everything she does. So despite what she looks like I will love her. If she isn't attractive to me I'll date her anyways. But let's hope she's a beauty.

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    • 😍What a sweet story!! I hope she feels the same.

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    • That reminds me of this short film. It's about a guy in the '40s who corresponds with this woman who wrote in the margins of her copy of Anna Karenina, and he starts corresponding with her. At the end of the film, they are going to meet, and she tells him she will be holding a single rose at the meetup place. When he arrives, a heavy set, middle-aged woman is holding a rose. Disappointed, he still decides to speak to her, only to learn that a young woman inside the restaurant asked her to hold the rose for her. It was essentially a test to see if he would lose total interest if he didn't find her attractive.

      https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0278366/reference

    • Wow that sounds really cool. I'm glad he passed the test. Thanks for the link and for sharing.

  • I guarantee you if I valued her personality and character, id eventually find her attractive.

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    • What a coincidence. I had the exact same feelings about one of my exes.

      When we were dating I felt myself only semi interested in her physically but completely in love with personality and character. But she initiated sex 90 percent of the time and found myself less and less interested. One day she confronted me about it and burst into tears telling me she didn’t feel attractive because of my indifference. I personally hated myself for not being more into her physically but i couldn’t will myself to change that.

      She eventually broke up with me and although that’s not main reason it definitely is a major contributor.

      But after she competely disappeared I found myself in love with the IMAGE of her. But I realize that’s not the real her. I reached out to her because seeing and hearing from her reminded me that image is FALSE.

      Don’t chase after phantoms. It’s one of the quickest paths to insanity.

    • True that

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  • That's a friend. If there's no attraction, it's a friendship, not a romantic relationship. I would not date someone like that.

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me What is physical attraction actually?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • Smart answer

  • You know, I used to be completely against dating someone that I wasn't attracted to. I refused. But then I met my "ex". He was funny and smart and passionate and I fucking loved his presence so much that I fell madly in love with him and he became the most beautiful soul that I have ever laid my eyes on. He is handsome. So fucking handsome. His smile is breath taking and his eyes are hypnotizing. He is a bigger guy but within a week of knowing him, even his weight became something that I was wildly attracted to. He is balding and even that became something that I found appealing. He is eye candy. Then it turned in to much more than just that. His scent, the way he moved, his voice, his energy... I was fucking lost without him. We just recently broke up and I am still completely broken. I am insanely attracted to him, both mentally and physically and he is literally the only man who is in my head at all times. I can't even talk to another guy one on one because it grosses me out. And this is all due to a man that I wasn't attracted to in the beginning.

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    • Wow, sounds like a textbook case

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    • I never believed in it before it happened to me. But... thats also what fucks you up most when they leave. They take all of it with them after you have spent so much time learning all this stuff about them that makes that attraction run so deep that other people can feel it. And then, you are left with nothing. And it makes you feel so empty.

    • Interesting. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

  • I tried, due to the fact that they had feelings for me, but I couldn’t see them as anything more than a great friend. There has to be some level of physical attraction for me to form a romantic connection with them.

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    • I suspect that this is harder for women to do.

    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me what is physical attraction?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • Personally, both things have to come into play. I have to be attracted to them on the inside and outside. For me, physical attraction is simply me liking how they look on the outside. I could never date someone I find very physically attractive if they have a bad personality. I could also never date someone with a good personality if I don’t find them at all physically attractive. I don’t participate in hook up culture, so I don’t know what to tell you there. Either way, its based on each persons perspective, not every woman thinks alike.

  • I personally can’t and I wouldn’t think someone do date who doesn’t find me attractive either. I prefer if they thought I was the most beautiful person they’ve ever seen or close to it.
    I would never call them ugly or unattractive, I would just let them go in the gentlest way possible. I know how much words like that can hurt.

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • @deliriousmistakess I can’t speak for other women, but for me personally I always know if the guy is someone I am sexually attracted to and would potentially hook up with, date, or just keep in friend zone based on looks and personality after meeting them for the first time. For instance if they are shorter than me, that’s a dealbreaker and I’d keep him in friendzone. Doesn’t matter how kind they are I just can’t bring myself to do it. I tried in the past and it felt extremely awkward. I won’t waste their time. Not everyone is like that though so take what I say with a grain of salt.

  • Who wants to go on a date with, or even worse, marry these two, even if they had sparkling personalities? Where are lines drawn?

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  • I have dated two people I got along with great, but found actually repulsive in the hope they would grow on me cause their personality were so great. Surprise they didn’t and I found them even more repulsive with time. As other said, that’s friendship not dating. Attraction is super important, though of course it isn’t everything.

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  • I’m dating a guy who’s personality was 10 at the beginning and now it’s 6. He’s not the most unattractive man but as his character has changed I don’t find him attractive anymore. Basically I think that people get bored of each other and there has to be something more then a nice personality or character. Both have to be on point.

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  • No, because for me the attractiveness is not only physical traits. If a person has the personality, character, similar values and interests and we enjoy being around each other I would certainly find him attractive. That'll make me see the physical traits also attractive. The character will probably include a good laugh and friendly smile, which may be enough to make the person seem hot to me.

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  • I definitely wasn't physically attracted to my soul mate, best friend and husband of 15 years but once I got to know him he became the most attractive sexy being I have ever met

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  • I think those traits would make them attractive to me. Even if I didn’t find them physically attractive initially

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me What is physical attraction actually?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • There’s different types of attraction and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

      Just because you find someone physically attractive, doesn’t mean you find them sexually attractive. And even if you find someone physically attractive, once you get to know their personality you may decide you would not be interested in pursuing something with them.

      Alternatively, you might meet someone that doesn’t appear to be physically attractive to you but once you get to know their personality, they become more and more physically and sexually attractive to you and you might decide you would like to pursue a relationship (romantic or sexual with them).

  • In high school, the Duke kids were all ugly. The oldest girl, Arlene, 17 yo had a butt ugly face. She always wore clothes that weren't flattering. They had the money but she and her sibs all dressed dumb

    That summer our community swimming pool was packed. I was there with a lot of my guy friends (me the tomboy) and they were all checking out this girl laying out on the deck.

    Me being BI, I was checking her out too!

    Gorgeous!

    Like 5'10" tall
    Wearing a black modest 2 piece suit
    38DD
    22-24" waist
    36" hips
    Sexy long legs
    Curvy tummy and ass

    Very large pubic bulge in her bottoms

    Everyone was like who is she and where does she go to school?

    She stands up and we all saw it was Arlene of the ugly face!

    OMFG!!!

    Anyway when school started she was back to her baggy outfits but nearly every guy in school was asking her out.

    So, looks are not everything!

    by the way when I left Georgia to move here, Arlene was 22yo and had 5 kids and was prego with twins.

    She was on her 2nd husband too

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    • You literally clarified nothing. You just said your friend had an ugly face then said she had a hot body. How does that prove looks aren't everything? Also what kind of friend are you to say something like that? "Butt ugly face"?

    • @TheGhoul #1 she wasn't my friend.
      #2 her face is what was unattractive.
      #3 she hid her body and as a result was unattractive looking.
      #4 after her coming out at the pool, her face was still unattractive, but guys dated her anyway to get the body hidden under the unattractive exterior.

      That does answer the question.

    • Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

      Even you would like to date him after knowing his soul and heart (great personality)? Really?

  • All these lying ass females tellin that they would not care
    COME ON

    I won't date someone I am not attracted to
    if he not be getting my hormones going on, then I dont need to waste my time for nothing

    #sorrynotsorry

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  • No I wouldn't because me being attracted to you is also physical. Everyone is out here saying it's what is in the heart or their values. You guys would be with flavor flav? Hachette face from cry baby? The elephant man? Hunchback of Notre dame?

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  • Yeah, yeah I think I would. If I really like him and we have similar values and goals I think I would. In fact, like a previous boyfriend, because I like who he is, he'd become attractive to me, regardless of the way he looks.

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    • Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

      Even you would like to date him after knowing his soul and heart? Really?

    • @deliriousmistakess Yes, even him. Now I'm not saying girls don't notice or appreciate attractive guys or that they don't see 'ugly' guys (which is different for everyone), but because connection & commitment are *SO* much more important to a woman it's more than possible for a guy like this to end up with a Jessica Alba type girl. *IF* he gets to know her and develops a connection with her and yes, I know that's the hardest part but a lot of other girls probably won't even bring up this point.

      Much like guys, we *prefer* attractive men but if you have a selfish, irresponsible, chauvinist who looks like, say, Bond (looks only, but take your pick which Bond) and a responsible, kind, ambitious, gentleman who looks like that guy both trying to get to know the same girl, they're going to be neck and neck until the girl decides who she likes more. It's just Back to the Future all over again. The hot guy doesn't always come out on top.

      Sorry I didn't have time to respond until now.

  • Well no. If you want a relationship to last, there MUST be some type of attraction.. even if it wasn’t there initially, something of the person must attract you... or else that relationship is bound to fail regardless of how much you wish it wouldn’t... attraction must be present even if slightly. C’mon.. it’s Common Sense! 💁🏼‍♀️

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me What is physical attraction actually?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      I asked, females always know if they are attracted enough to a man the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • @deliriousmistakess okay I’m not understanding what you’re asking...

      But yes, finding someone attractive indeed means you’re attracted... clearly!
      But also, once you get to know someone that perhaps you were not attracted to initially, CAN possibly become attractive to you afterward, making you feel attracted to them in some way...

      By looks alone you can not determine if you can have a relationship with a person because it’s purely liking what you see from afar... after you get to know someone you can have a more accurate idea of how you feel toward someone and feel more or less attracted, charisma can draw someone in and make someone feel attracted to a person, good chemistry between the two and the attraction must exist in both sides or else it also won’t work,,, if it’s ourely physical attraction from one side, then that person will eventually move on from you after having had a good amount of sex with you and that’s it... so getting to know someone is crucial to determine I’d

  • It doesn't matter to me as long as their a good person, and an interesting person to be around. You can be attractive on the inside in these ways, which means a heck of a lot more than the surface layer.

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    • Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

      Even you would like to date him after knowing his soul and heart (great personality)? Really?

    • @deliriousmistakess Yeah, if I loved his personality, and he was kind, I don't really care. Judging by looks is not the way to go. (He doesn't actually look too bad, except he's too old for me, that's the only thing that weirds me out, dating somebody way out of my age range)

  • If everything else is there I'm probably attracted to that person regardless of whether I'm physically attracted to them. Personality can make or break someone and there is something to be said for plain old chemistry. I've gone on dates with plenty of guys who weren't conventionally attractive but I was drawn in by their personalities and our general chemistry. So no but only because if I like everything else about that person and we have chemistry I'm going to find them attractive.

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    • Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

      Even you would like to date him after knowing his soul and heart and if he has a good personality? Really?

    • @deliriousmistakess It comes down to more than just personality. Having a good personality is not the same as having an attractive personality. I'm pretty sure this is a composition of two faces and is fake. The cheekbone are extremely different on either side of the face and he's definitely wearing pink lipstick. For the purpose of this question I can't tell just going by this picture if we are going solely by looks then no I would never date someone like this. But, attraction is about more than looks. People forget that humans are animals and that there is a chemical component to attraction as well. Some people's pheromones are just attracted to each other. If this guy and I had chemistry on top of him having an attractive personality, it's possible. I can't say with 100% certainty in that extreme of a situation I would be able to put his looks aside.

  • So here’s the tricky part. He might not be my type at first (like at all) look wise but if I fall in love with them or wtv they would automatically be attractive to me personality AND looks. So yes I would date someone I don’t find attractive because since I have strong feelings for that person they’re already attractive. In my case I go out with guys I actually already like and kinda know not random guys (unless I found them attractive and would like to get to know them Ik I’m weird lol)

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  • I'm all about someones inner beauty so if the person did have all the qualities I like and wasn't so attractive i would probably date them but also at the same time it depends how ugly the person is if there chupacabra/inhuman demon ugly then most likely na.

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  • There has to be a slight amount of physical attraction or it's just a friendship.
    It's not like they have to be ridiculously conventionally attractive, but there has to be that spark of something there ya know? I tend to be attracted to guys who are often not "conventionally" attractive though. So I don't know

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them? By the way what is physical attraction?

      Can You tell me females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • @deliriousmistakess both can happen. there's been guys that I wasn't initially attracted to (but also not repulsed by) that I got to know and then I was super attracted to them. It happens

  • I've actually been there and done that. As long as he treats me good and we have a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship-I am happy to commit myself to someone I don't find particularly attractive. Because all those good things make me love him and I will find things about him that are attractive to me.

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  • there's different kind of attraction. If i found nothing attractive about them probably not, but i am guessing you mean physical attraction. If they were not the most beautiful person physically that would not be a dealbreaker, but what if they were but ugly had low self esteem and were unhygenic i think in that case no way.

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    • Even you would like to date him after knowing his soul and heart? Really?

      Would you date someone you don't find attractive?

    • @deliriousmistakess you’re trying too hard to make an irrelevant point. I dont know this guy in your photo.

  • Like someone else said, it’s a friendship if there’s no attraction. I wouldn’t date someone if I wasn’t attracted to them, that’s the whole point of a relationship and intimacy. If it’s not there then it’s just a friendship.

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me what is physical attraction?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

    • If I’m physically and sexually attracted to a guy, I may or may not hook up with him the first time. I’ve done it once before the first time but I’ve also dated someone else for a few weeks before I slept with them. There’s no specific reason why tbh sometimes I feel comfortable enough to hook up right away and sometimes I don’t

    • Physically attraction is wanting to be close to them. You think about kissing and touching them, the thought of that turns you on

  • They don't have to be drop dead gorgeous and everyone doesn't have to be under the assumption they look good, but it's crucial that I find them attractive.

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  • That's a friend. The physical attraction, or the lack of it, is what distinguished a friend from a partner

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me What is physical attraction actually?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

  • Sorry to date someone I have to find them somewhat attractive. Honestly, if I am not, it would take really getting to know them, and they would have to have that something about them that makes them attractive personality wise.

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  • No, physical attraction is very important for me. However, I wouldn't date with anyone having a shitty personality as being someone so handsome either.

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

  • We can be friends then, if I'm sexually or romanticly attracted then why date. Even if the person is not attractive to others they should at least be attractive to you.

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    • Finding someone attractive means being attracted to them?

      Can you tell me What is physical attraction actually?

      females always know if they are attracted enough to a man to hook up with him the first time they meet/see, or you have to spend time with him, get to know him/his personality, honesty, kindness and after knowing him if you find him perfect human being then you will decide whether the person will fall into friend zone or you will be sexually attracted to him?

  • No. I need to be physically attracted to a guy as well. I'm sure a guy wouldn't be happy in a relationship with me if I told him I was only with him because of his personality, and that I found him physically unattractive. I know I wouldn't want to be with a guy who didn't find me physically attractive. Everyone wants their partner to be physically attracted to them

    Everyone's definition of attractiveness or good-looking differs from person to person though. A good example of this is that a guy I used to date was good-looking in my eyes. He was hot asf. But most people thought he was ugly. I didn't see him that way though. Other people's opinion of him didn't influence the way I saw him though.

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    • Physically attractive you mean having fitness build and muscles?

    • @Muhammad1999

      That's what most people assume. They assume good looking people have to be a certain shape or build. Or have a certain look about them. The guy I dated , who others thought was ugly , was not muscular or into fitness. People criticized his facial features , but I found him very good-looking. I liked everything about him. The things he or others viewed as imperfections , I actually found attractive.

  • Some of the nicest guys I have known and cared for looks like regular guys and we're not very attractive on the outside.

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    • That's also my experience with most of the nicest women I've known.

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  • This is always a really good question that I still ask even myself. I probably would be inclined to say no, though there have been a few instances where I was attracted to women who weren't very goodlooking but the personality and intelligence factors were there that I liked.

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    • that said though all i really require for physical attractiveness is a cute face and is not obese.

  • I'm assuming you mean physically attractive, right?

    It depends on how unattractive you're talking about. I would date a girl who is mildly ugly, but I wouldn't date a girl who looks absolutely atrocious.

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  • Way back in time, a very heavy woman and I worked at the same hospital. We almost always ate our dinner together in the Hospital cafeteria. I slowly but surely feel in love with her. We were married for over 10 years and during the course of our marriage she lost almost 225 lbs. She knew I loved her for herself... not superficial looks or other BS

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  • If everything else is good, I would give it a try. Physical attraction can develop later. How many couples have said that they didn't like each other when they first met? Yet there came a point where they couldn't stand to be apart! I would definitely give her a chance.

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  • Would you date someone you don't find attractive?
    Being the amazing guy that I am, I ain't about that superficial shit.
    She doesn't need to look like a movie star for us to make a physical, mental or emotional connection. I'd find her banging ass personality attractive. I'm not shallow like everyone else.

    How do you think blind people fall in love? They can't even see.

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  • I did that because I thought I was not being 'open minded' enough. In my case I determined this was not a good idea. The physical attraction is important and the relationship didn't last very long. Chemistry and attraction is critical.

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  • Other than someone facing crippling loneliness or help to improve their living situation I can't see why one would do that. Like if a girl gets knocked up. Becomes a single mom and life is rough. I can see her settling for a guy she's not necessarily attracted to, but will be nice, stick around and take care of her. That's all good.

    Other than situations such as that tho it just sounds depressing. When you experience real passion you never want less than that.

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  • I was in a relationship with someone I wasn't physically attracted to. It started out OK, then rusted into something bad.

    She's not a bad person. She's kind and sweet. She is affectionate.

    But I didn't find her physically attractive. And I never could. Ultimately, I wound up feeling very bad because she was very much into me. She was very hurt when we broke up.

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  • IF your asking a man, the answer is no.
    if your asking a women, the answer is both.

    For a woman a ugly man with a well paying job and a good sense of humor can triumph his looks.

    For a man, if your ugly, good luck.

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  • No because I would be deceiving her and stealing her from someone who would find her attractive. Likewise I rather not date a woman who only likes me for my personality because she would be deceiving me and stealing me from a woman that would find me attractive.

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  • There has to be a slither of attraction. Personality and the rest counts for a lot more.
    I think there a grey area between attractive and unattractive. I think if i found someone unattractive it would be far more difficult.

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  • Personally there is more to attraction. than a pretty face. its who the person is.,, its alright you if all things are equal except in looks. But sadly they cannot be , whether male or female if they think they are good looking , this is where being vain comes in and will skue their personality. For me I would sooner have a lass who is enjoyable to be with over how you rate her looks and body …….

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  • What would be the point? Physical attraction may not be everything, but it is one of the most important things.

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  • If I like her personality, her character and her values I'm already attracted

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  • I have... after a while things just change and I eventually find that special person just as physically attractive as all the other defining attributes that brought us close. Love is a strange and powerful thing!😍

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  • This is a great question that really made me think. On one hand time with someone can create a spark. On the other had is it fair to the person you deem unattractive to not be with someone that is completely infatuated with them?

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  • I have tried but the lack of attraction was not a good thing after a while even if her personality was lovely. Rather just stay friends.

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  • I'd be friends with her. I have friends like that. I also have friends to whom I'm attracted and with whom I probably have no chance because I'm not interested in pushing myself on someone who already has a romantic partner.

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  • My standards on looks are already extremely forgiving. As long as they look like a woman and don't hurt my eyes to look at, they pass my physical standards.

    I'm not willing to bring my standards any lower.

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  • Nah cause physical intimacy and affection is highly important for me in a relationship and I just couldn't enjoy it with a person I didn't find attractive-looking.

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  • Its honestly annoying how many times this question is asked.

    No, I would not, what's the point of being with someone you dont like to look at, at that point you're pity dating them and might as well be saying "I'm sorry you're so ugly, I'll spend time with you so you dont feel so bad"

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  • Personality is very important and how well we mesh and chemistry. she doesn't have to be hot, she doesn't have to be all that pretty. But I have to find her attractive physically. Because If I don't want to kiss her face, and touch her body, then that's a friendship but I'm not visually attracted enough to her or find her physically attractive to where I find her sexually attractive. It's a friendship, maybe a good or great friendship otherwise, but still a friendship without the sexual attraction.

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  • Well, yes. Maybe I find her not too aesthetically attractive but I like as a person. Or... I just want to hook up. Up to a certain point also if I don't find particularly attractive it works :-)

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  • If she was mildly attractive with all that then yes. If I didn't find her attractive at all then no...

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  • I said “Yes” but it’s deeper than that. All women I’ve dated seriously started as a friendships with similar interests and values.

    I also don’t date women I that I am not or can’t be friends with and if I can’t be friends with them I don’t affiliate.

    Personality can change overtime. Physical appearance will fade away with time.

    Now I’ve dated women that I didn’t initially find attractive on physical appearance alone. BUT their personalities were so riveting I’ve contemplated settling down with them and starting.

    Actually the moment I found a woman’s personality boring, the initial feeling of attraction didn’t matter as my feelings faded.

    I feel some people use others standards of attractive to fit their criteria. Their IS an overlap though. There is a difference in unattractive compared to others and society.

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  • Attraction is the force that drives you to each other. If you date someone you most probably are already attracted to the woman. You just don't know why and can't explain it.

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  • I don’t think I could, no. It all depends though, I’m saying this now but maybe in the moment I would feel different.

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  • I dated a girl once that I wasn't much attracted to. I learned a lesson in the end because she got hooked on me and nothing grew from it, it ended. I learned from that point on to never do it again. And no, we didn't have sex, I couldn't do that to her.

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  • Hate to break it to all you looks dont matter peeps... But most people don't get sexually arroused by personality... 75% of arrousal is physical attraction

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