I have similar thing with the wife. We don't hold each other to identical standards with respect to, say, things to do around the house. I tend to repair things, do more of the heavy manual labor. She takes over things like laundry. We both take part in cleaning. Is it perfectly fair? I don't know. Who can measure these things and make it perfectly fair unless we both to identical things? But it is mutually to our benefit, and we both find it agreeable and it makes us both happy. It leads to cooperation and harmony between us. And I think that's what society should focus on in general.I'm not saying all men should be like me in this context and all women should be like my wife in this context. We arrived at these responsibilities pragmatically without such assumptions. But we didn't try to make things identical between us. We acknowledged that we're a bit different here with different interests and different strengths and weaknesses, and that acknowledgement was mutually beneficial.
Pragmatic approaches that favor cooperation and harmony is what I suggest instead of obsessing on how to make things perfectly identical. Those who tend to do the latter often find endless reasons to become upset and seek conflict instead of compromise and cooperation.
Like take the rhetoric of those most hostile and upset towards the opposite sex. It's always revolving about double standards. And I found things a lot more peaceful and cooperative when I stopped thinking about things in terms of "double standards". I don't care anymore, and not caring has made it a lot easier to get along with women of all sorts.
Can you give me an example?
Obviously you shouldn’t be expected to perform the same as men, obviously legal matters should be the same standard. But I was mainly talking about behaviorally. You said you can’t be expected to have the same mentality as men. Why? And what do you mean?
Because biologically men and women think different and focus on different aspects
Are you so sure it’s biological and not cultural?
This is interesting, if you bother to read it :) www.google.is/.../brain-differences-between-genders%3famp
That was actually really interesting, but it can’t explain everything. Wouldn’t you agree there are some things that have to be taught?
Wait, why would you not hold them to the same standard for how they view sex? Do men not have a need for intimacy? Do women not have a need for sex?
Of course they both have same needs but needs are more dominant depending on gender. My need for intimacy as a woman is higher than my need for sex. Just as your need for sex is higher than your need for intimacy.
I think that is different for each individual. You can’t just assume what someone’s needs are based on their gender. It’s more complicated than that
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Men get their sexual highs much earlier than women.So when young men act needed it should be forgiven more easily.Women have hormone changes on their periods and can be more moody on a period.It shouldn't excuse them but they should be given more leeway.
I don't know just a majority
Why is that?
Give me an example?
Anything else behind courtesy is just policing behavior based on prejudice and I’m against it
Beyond*Per the law and respect I hold women nd men to the same standard. Everything else is not my concern
As far as the law is concerned, we're all equal, but men and women are still different in other aspects besides biology