Most Helpful Guys
It has to with 'Sexual Market VAlue' - SMV.
Younger guys (20 to 25) are often not as well established as older guys (35 to 40). Older guys have a higher SMV because of their life experiences and general assets. Its not all about money, but a 35 year old guy generally is making more then a 25 year old guy, AND he has been earning money for a longer period of time, so he has more assets (car, houses, boats (maybe..)) plus often have paid of their student loans. These are pluses for women who are dating to find a partner to either make a family with (or to divorce in a few years).
Most younger guys, they have lower paying jobs because they don't have as much work experience to be getting paid a higher rate. Younger guys are also less likely to own a home and have their general "shit together" until their mid thirties.
Women hit a wall when their sexuality declines. Between 25-30 is about the peak age for women in terms of ability to produce a child, after that age they can produce them but it is biologically more difficult. For women they also know that that age range is their peak for dating potential. That is also when they physically are the most attractive. Compare pictures of women when they are 22 to 32, they may still be good looking at 32, but 10 years ago it wasn't even a close contest, plus in the mid to late 30s they genrally go downhill, as opposed when they were 22, they will still keep their looks for another 10 to 15 years.
If a guy takes care of himself in terms of a healthy lifestyle, he can produce into his late 40s and even early 50s. Women do not have this ability. Women are just as attractive to looks, but if a guy can work out, eat right, and not smoke they can often become even more attractive as they age and build their body strength.
These are reasons why women want to be building a family before they turn 30. Whereas for guys they mostly want to create a family when they are a bit older have have stronger foundations around them (ie; no more student loans and living with their parents still) vs having their own place, a good paying job, AND no more debt.
Women WANT to be with men who have the best ability to provide for them. Sure youthful looks help the younger crowd, but ask a woman at the age of 25-30 if she wants to be with younger guys who does not have the finances/ability to support a family, vs. a 35 year old guy who has a home and is more mature and wanting a family? Most women date up because of this.
I don't get butt-hurt about older guys dating younger girls, I plan on paying this game well. Right now I'm mainly sleeping around/hooking up with little to no interest in creating a family. In another 5 to 10 years when I'm in my own place I'll start looking for women in that age gap for building a family..
Women bitch and moan. When they were 18-24 all the men wanted them and us guys had to put in some work. Now in our 30s its the opposite. We are the hot ones on the scene and their time is up. So they are very salty.
I am 32 and have not dated anyone older than 24 in the past 3 years of being mostly single. Nor will I, 24 is hard limit for me.
Most Helpful Girls
It's not about being butthurt, but the concern and welfare for the girl and his intentions as a man with her. 9/10x it's about sex and resources, not love. They often don't last, and it's usually a parent/child relationship. And what makes it worse, is not done because of Love they do it because of preference and because they want to avoid women their own age. I find it to be highly discriminatory, towards men who are younger that are or can be of the same experience level as a girl, as is discrimination against women who are on the same experience level as these men with these men basically want the younger women for sex. In other words each party is tired of men or women of their own age bracket.
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It symbolizes a lack depth in him. Not that it’s true in all cases but when you see two people who grow old together you can sense a connection of their souls because looks or youth aren’t in the equation but rather a bond between two human spirits that are accepting of each other’s flaws and committed to the journey together. Most people who spend time with people of a younger generation usually quickly pick up on their immaturity so at first glance it’s hard to accept that this older man and youger female are kindred spirits, it more just says I’m a douche who chases flesh and values external stimulation over eternal bonds