I am 19 year old girl and have been hanging out and casually dating a very sweet yet terribly shy guy. We have been talking on Facebook and workplaces since August, and so far so good! I am beginning to feel that it is safe to say he likes me, because every time we are together, things just get better. He felt comfortable enough to play with my hair at the end of our last "alone" date, and last time we hung out with some friends, he nudged and rubbed my leg with his own leg under the table as we played board games. He also sat very close to me while hanging out in his basement..enough so that our arms, legs, and sides would brush against one another.
But here is the problem: he never calls me or sends me texts. Only if he wants to see me, he will make contact. He explained to me that he does not like texting because he feels it is a waste of time since you can just call someone. I agree, but I get very shy over the telephone.
Is this a good sign or not? What should I do?
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Speaking from the shy guy perspective, I wouldn't say it's anything too far out of the ordinary...I think your guy doesn't want to call because he would feel like he's bothering you... When he contacts you to see you, he has a clear purpose, knows what he's going to say, and knows he can really get to the point. Outside of that, he may feel that calling "just to say hi" or to ask about your day might be an inconvenience for you and annoy you. He probably is afraid that he'll irritate you..I know the last thing I would want to do is get a girl I really like upset or mad at me! Usually, talking in person or over the phone can ease this problem a lot...It's easier to pick up emotional cues from a present person or through one's voice (probably why he prefers to talk in person or over the phone, but isn't big on texting)...It sounds like he really likes you though :)1