He told me he wanted to work for me, and be with me. But, deep down I know he wants to date other women. He has the “grass is greener” syndrome, and he should be allowed to see it’s not always that great.
I kind of don’t want to be his girlfriend right now. I think i want a break/open relationship. But, he said he doesn’t want either of those things. I still love him and imagined a future with him, but, at our own pace. He is 26, and I’m 22. He’s only been with 4 women and I’m his first girlfriend.
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I don't consider messaging another girl cheating but I can see why you would think of it as a betrayal. I can't tell if you're thoughts about his having a "grass is greener" syndrome are based on oversensitivity to the situation or if its reality. It sounds like he has made it clear that he only wants to be with you and regrets messaging the other girl.
You've been together a year and this sounds like its likely the biggest problem you've had to deal with as a couple. If a relationship is important enough to both partners, then you work through the hard stuff TOGETHER and move forward. Taking a break and/or having an open relationship sounds like the recipe for a long and hurtful breakup to tell you the truth.