He asked about my past relationships and so i told him
And he told me about his too
We talk about other stuff likes hobbies and making plans to go out and stuff
But sometimes he would bring stuff up like:
- first time we met he's like "yeah i met my ex on this app as well"
Few days before, we were talking about going movies and he said "yeah im quite busy so i dont go movies a lot... we can go though.. i haven't been to movies since with my ex gf"
Then today, we were talking about how im going overseas to New zealand.. then he's like "oh u staying with ur ex bf? I stayed there few years ago with my ex gf"
Is he not over his ex girlfriend or just saying?
- Yea seems like he's not over her
- Nah it doesn't mean he's not over her
Most Helpful Girls
It's hard to say. How long ago did they break up? How long were they together?
When I went on dates with my current boyfriend, he mentioned his ex a few times, but she was his life for four years and they lived together. So obviously, most of his experiences involved her. He didn't enjoy talking about her but if the conversation lead to an experience, she got a mention. I did think it was weird and worried that he'd not moved on from her. Over time, we talked about it and I jokingly 'dared' him to not mention his ex and he stopped. We've been together for 4 months now and ex's almost never get mentioned unless it's relevant or we want to talk about the past. He's making a new life and new memories with me now.
It can definitely be a warning sign, but don't knock it just yet if you like the guy. The way he's mentioning it feels like how my boyfriend was mentioning it. If you can barely talk to him about anything else because he always talks extensively about her, then that's a problem. If he's literally just talking about his ex out of the blue/context and in a lot of detail about every aspect of her life, then that's probably a bad sign. But if it's in relation to something, such as "I haven't been to the cinema since I was with my ex", I feel like that's just a statement. Of course, it's not necessary to mention it, but it's not always a bad thing.
Ask him directly if he feels like he's moved on from his ex or had enough time before starting to date again. It's a fair question to ask and if they're not ready, it can really make them reflect on it, especially if someone's picked up on that feeling. I asked my boyfriend this and he reassured me that he wouldn't have begun dating me if he wasn't 100% ready to do so, he wouldn't have wanted to lead me on like that. Communicate with him. :)
If he's constantly bringing her up like that, he's either not over her, or just terrible at flirting with women and dense as hell (possibly why things didn't work out between him and his ex, lol).
I suggest you back away from him either way; he sounds like he's not good boyfriend material
Most Helpful Guys
Well, i wouldn't assume he isn't over her. just that he hasn't forgotten about good times he had with her.