It should not always be about money true and honest love does not cost a penny if a woman only wanted me for my money l would not date her people know l have money regards the way l dress and what kind of watch l wear and l always polish my shoes but at my age l just can't be bothered about talking about money as it means nothing to me
Well it's obvious. They found their PRINCE CHARMING. He just happens to work at Starbucks!
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Probably because she likes him and it just so happens she makes more. If we date up we are gold diggers if we date down we are trying to "retain some degree of control." Ladies just date who you want, regardless of income, looks or what other people think.
Because there are things more important than income, especially if a woman can already support herself. I'd rather have some struggles with a partner who is extremely compatible than be showered with things by a man who isn't as good with me.
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Maybe they don't put a lot of importance on the guy's income or want to have the status of breadwinners.My eldest sister will be marrying a guy who earns decidedly less than her this mid-June, and I suspect it's for those reasons.
So you think it's a power play? Is it doomed to fail? And if so are you going to say anything or keep your mouth shut?
@Jamie05rhs What do you mean?Even if it's a power play on her part, what matters is that both of them are happy.Then again, it's not really my business so I'm not going to say anything.She's not the sister I talk to, I'll just go to the wedding for politeness.
Okay. It's just a red flag for me, dude.
@Jamie05rhs Their problem, not mine sorry.
Your sister gets married and you don't care?
@Erikus12 She's not a very close sibling.My other sister and I are close between us and both quite distant from her.
I don't know. I have never intentionally done this.
I would not expect female attorneys and doctors to do it, TBH (my sister is a doctor), because you come into contact with so many guys in your professions who are high earners.
So they can retain some degree of control?
I actually think this is the No. 1 reason.
If a woman is truly independent then a man's income plays a secondary role in her decision to date or marry him. She can still enjoy a man's company and emotional support despite his lower income, which is the most important aspect of a relationship.
Someone who "gets" it!
Because values mean more than money.I'd take someone only making 25k that is hard working and honest than someone who makes 50k has no work ethic or sense of values. Great question Logo!
But you're a guy.
@Jamie05rhs what difference should that make?I think i get what you're trying to say. In societal roles a guy is the "main breadwinner" and i get that. I'm not even going to get into the "move towards equality" with women but that plays a part. I'm simply saying that say you make 75k a yr. And you're of good character. And you marry a woman and 2 years. Later she diagnosed with a treatable but very expensive cancer. The vows are " till death do us part". And "in sickness and in health" not " till things get a little rough". Let me flip it you make 75k and you get cancer maybe you can't work or have to work less (stress can cause cancer to metastasize). What i'm trying to say is life happens you can lose a high paying job and be unable to get a similar one. You can get sick. Money comes and goes. But a person of good character doesn't change.
I guess the point of my comment was that guys "date down" all the time. The fact that the original poster even asked this question is because women dating down is a rarity.
But I like what you wrote, and what you said is solid.
@Jamie05rhs Thank You!
I'm around a lot of professional women, and I know at least a number of them have trouble finding guys who are professional and in the same income bracket they are in. I'm sure some of them find guys who are compatible in many ways, but are not in the same income level. They may have a choice of being in a relationship with a guy who earns less, or not being in a relationship at all. If it were me, I would chose to be in a relationship.
Because they are smart. There's more to a man than his wages.
A mans worth, value, respect, generosity, tradition and others play a larger role than income at my stage of life. When two works well together in all those areas, its more than wealth.
So I wold not considerate that dating down.. if anything, its dating up to find a man with those attributes.
can't help who you fall for,. Also if she or he is dating down as you put it, then. Would that not be bringing the other person up, considering? We try to surround our professional lives with those in success so by her surrounding him with that he would be to so then in the long term would be dating an equal wouldn't you say?
Well I don’t brag to the world what my bank account numbers look like. So if someone who makes less money comes my way, they aren’t going to know the difference.
They are, you can tell if a person is rich without looking at their bank account. Just ask them what they do, or it will be obvious from how they are dressed, their house, car.. Etc
Well, I’m only talking about myself. I am not rich but I make a lot of money. None of my actions correspond with how wealthy I am. And usually when I am asked about what I do, I never go into detail. So, in my own life, people don’t notice any difference until I explicitly tell them what exactly I have going on in my life.
People with more money have more options. I think there's a "we both have money who cares anymore" point there for a lot of people.
They fail to realize and understand the importance of wealth and power. They think love will overcome all adversity. Sometimes love simply is just not enough.
Maybe because I earn my own money. I know crazy right? A women that has money. I have a good job and I'm a big saver.
Because they want to dominate the man. They have something to prove so they want a man that they can do traditionally masculine things better than them.
Because some women are not as shallow as others. Some don’t need economic support because they got themselves to work and income become meaningless
Because they have different priorities. I have a decent income of close to $10K/month, but as I generally date attorneys (I am working towards my J. D.), they often make at least double what I do.
Down as in less money than her?I guess she just values other things more I have never seen a succesful couple where someone felt like they were dating down.
Because money isn't the only thing they care about.
Because they are not golddiggers?
Even most women who are not don't date down
Logorithim is right.
Yes they do, if a woman MUST date someone who has better salary than them they are materialistic or golddiggers
I don't think that is necessarily the case. I think for a lot of women, they want to get the best deal in a man they can.
@PurpleStorm you're forgetting that those are not the only two options. Many people marry a spouse who is on their own level, so that's not up or down.
Men make more money it is just how it is. And yes equality and stuff. But this is the fact. So in western world a woman who makes '70' should find a man who makes '100' if she wanted to find a partner who is equally successful among other men as successful she is among the women.It's the same as men are avg. 6 inches taller than women so a 5,6 guy would be considered short for a 5'6 girl.
best deal they can get in a man? there are a lot of men who are 'good on paper' but women simply don't feel drawn to them, or ar not compatible, have nothing in common. It's not how love works, you fall for a person not their income. if they could choose who to fall for then yes, perhaps a lot would choose the same income level or higher, but it doesn't happen.@Jamie05rhs yes, I know that@not true, you live in UK men get the same salary as women do. Salary is not gender based, some women make more, some men make more, it depends on the job and skill level. And there are also many men who are shorter than their girlfriends so I don't see your point.
Cause some of us don't mind a man's income being lower than ours as long as it's enough to afford decent living for a family lol.
Umm because rich guys sometimes are arrogant do not love you for who you are. Ask you to change your life for them. Rich guys does not mean your dating a good guy sometime
Because most of us don’t care about a guy’s wealth as much as most men think
Because in the modern society women dont need men as providers. Women tend to go for looks instead of money now that they are free to choose
cause women want security and commitment. you can't get more commitment from anybody on this planet than from a man who knows he got lucky with a girl way above his league.
Some women don't give a crap about a man's income, same that some men do.
Well the old saying "money isn't everything" does apply to some women, not many but some.
Do they? I've never seen this before.
It's not that common, but it does happen
Same reason guys do
I guess I do it subconsciously🖤
it doesn't matter
Because we got fat lol
But you don't have to stay fat forever.
@Jamie05rhs it’s whatever
cuz they have low self
They have self esteem issues?
They wanna wear the pants lmao
Because when I fall in love with someone I do not first ask them what their income is and even if I knew he didn't have a huge income you cannot control whom you fall in love with and also who cares? Nowadays women can make their own money anyway too, you know.
I'm well aware that they do (my sister is a doctor, but women still want to feel that they're getting the best deal they can.
that never happens. that goes against women's nature which is to expect their partner to provide and do everything. if hypergamy didn't exist their wouldn't be so many single women who'll have to stay single their whole lives
i'm glad to see my comment was disliked by a girl. that just proves to me i said the right thing. the day women like my comments is the day i stop writing them
That makes no sense
@MelissaCB i hate guys who try to please women by taking their side even if they're being irrational. and i don't want to be one of those guys that's all i'm saying
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Well sure, but respectfully, from a woman's point of view, that just isn't even a bit true for most of us. Plus I don't personally believe that when the majority of people you're giving opinions on disagree with you it means that you must be right on
Either really like their personality or think they’re less likely to stray?
Oh my bad, thought you meant looks. But in terms of income it’s because that’s really not the huge factor men are so so wrongly lead to believe.
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