I don’t really see why not. I mean, I think it would make things better, because it would break the traditional norm of men always having to approach or initiate contact with a woman. It’s 2019, and I think men AND women should approach and initiate contact with someone they’re interested in. I think we should break out of this norm of men always needing to be the first to initiate and approach, because I think things will be better off with both sexes initiating whenever they want to without feeling like they’re not following some traditional norm. We can choose to keep or discard whatever norms currently exist, they’re not permanent or forever. I think a lot of women don’t approach because they’re afraid of rejection and feel like it’s not normal to approach or initiate contact. We can get past the traditional norm aspect and then just focus on the confidence aspect, which I think will put society in a better place and might make things simpler or easier in a number of ways, who knows? My simple saying is, “whether you’re a man or woman, if you want something go and take action.”
I dunno how I would react to be honest. I haven't considered it very much since I don't usually think women will ask me out. I think I would feel happy though, it would be nice to have some validation, since I don't date much and typically have low self esteem. I had a girl flirt with me recently and that was really confidence boosting, so I think asking out would be good too. I could see it being somewhat embarrassing though, I wouldn't be embarrassed about it, but if people judged me as less of a man because a girl asked me out then I could become embarrassed of it. I think this poll is a good sign that it is unlikely that much social shaming will come out of this anymore.
It's according to someone's personality. Confident women should ask men out. However, they should be prepared for disappointment. I don't think it matters how pleasant, good looking or smart you are. There are a host of factors that lead to one person not dating another. Men know this. Few women do. It'll be a sea change in dating.
I think so! It will help break the traditional pattern. I mean guys already deal with a lot, the least we could do is make things clear and straight out. If they are in for it, then good; if not, then cool too, there are millions of guys out there anyway who might appreciate you more that you even thought. 😊
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They should because then they get the guy they want when they want him instead if waiting on him.
Hahahahahah "they get the guy" yeah right. I'm amazed how you guys think that girls never get rejected. We fear rejection the same way you do! No one guarantees anything.
@little_bird1 he never said you wouldn't experience any rejection. He said then you get the guy you want. Your amount of rejection will be dependent on how picky you are.
This answer is great
That's a very good queen
It's an equal opportunities world, if a woman fancies a bloke then why shouldn't she ask him out!I knew one girl, she was a real stunner, I fancied her but wouldn't ask her out as I thought she'd not want to know. One day we got talking and she said she wished she wasn't so attractive when I asked why she said that she never got asked out, yet her less attractive friends were always being chatted up.I remember reading somewhere that somebody had done a survey and so-called 'ugly' girls, were more choosey when it came to dating, apparently they got asked more, so could afford to be more selective.In short, yes, girls should ask blokes out, a lot of blokes can be intimidated by an attractive girl and won't ask rather than risk a knockback.
I really couldn't disagree more with my fellow guys here. I get why they vote yes, but I'm not gonna buy this whole "initiating everything sucks" business. Stop complaining. This system is put in place for US, guys. If you don't have the guts to ask her out, then guess what? You have no business to be dating her. The struggles we have to go through to get girls, makes us better men. If girls were always coming onto us, then we wouldn't learn and we wouldn't grow. And yes, girls have approached me, and every time they do I can't help but think "aren't I the one who's supposed to be doing this?", and that's kind of an uncomfortable thought. It's like she's jumped the gun from sending me a signal to pickup on, to taking matters into her own hands, which seems desperate.
Why’s it desperate for the girl to show her attraction?
@AnonT0 Because that's not the proper way to show her attraction. Make eye contact with me and send me a smile or a wink. I can take it from there.
Yeah... it’s not desperate. It’s just your preference
@AnonT0 Yes. That is exactly what I said in my first post.
I'm faitly indifferent either way. I will note that Logorithim does have a good point where women's direct preference is concerned. I know in Utah, women did most of the asking and the boys were either shy or just usedto them doing do so women doing most of the approaching was more or less the norm. I will point out, that those men who had class and boldness on their side never were without feminine attention. Keep inmind I also said, "class". Approaching a woman and blurting out, "let's fuck" will 'mostly' (even a blind squirrel finds a nut) remain familiar with their hands. I have been approached by girls/women. Started as early as elementry and continues to this day (happened this last Saturday night wven - kept buying me drinks then went back to my office). Perhaps it is why I am indifferent. Regardless, if someone catches my attention I will still break the ice. Point is, quit thinking about it and just do just approach them. They are no less human than you...,
i would love that because it would give me an ego boost,but im not sure it would be very good for the girl, i mean... i have no certainty that i will be confident enough to say to her proposal, a girl asked me out once before and i reject her because i was too scared to go out with her... i wouldn't know what to say or how to act... dont get me wrong.. i would of loved to go out with her... she ws so hot and cute and pretty... but it would have been awkward... and i rejected her... that couldnt have felt good for her... she must of been sad... not a good idea
Yes. It would be good since we're left guessing less and for me also suggests they're not caught up in the stupid idea of having to be chased. If I'm into two women relatively equally and must choose, but one is notably more ambitious with her interest, I'm picking her Plus confidence in a lady isn't a bad thing.
Guys do not like it.I dont care what none of these dude say. I asked a guy one time and it short circuited his brain. I knew we had like each other but didn't feel like playing cat and mouse.Fast forward 6 years later and he been trying to set a date up with me and I am no longer into him. He claim he got "scared" and thought I "wanted" something.sheesh.
Sorry, one guy is not "all guys"... Look at the poll
@spartan55 This probably works better for a certain type of girl. I'm already on the intimating side. So this approach will never work for me. I never lack in male company so if it not broke.
I do and have always believed girls should take more risks asking guys out. However, in the female community you're called desperate when you do it. Personally, I've asked guys out plenty of times. The kicker is that I get told I'm intimidating. At this point in life I'm just over it. So now I'm traveling and taking care of myself by getting into shape.
@Anjie228 Help me understand the 'desperate' label because to me it makes zero sense. Are all guys desperate then, since we typically approach?
@spartan55 I don't think so and I didn't say it but I've been told if a woman approaches a man she looks desperate. 🤷♀️
I don’t really get asked out. In the last 20+ years of dating, I’ve been “approached” twice, maybe.If it became “the norm” I probably still would not get approached. I’m too ugly, and I have no influence. It would probably be about the same because I would still have to do all the asking.
Of course! You want to live happier lives? Go get what you want. People say women are the ones that choose partner, and I disagree. Yeah, they choose but only from the people that choose her to approach. Men on the other hand choose from every single woman out there.Men search for the right woman; women wait for the right man.
Being rejected, embarrassed terrifies most girls and I say WELCOME to our world! But for real how often do guys get rude and nasty when they reject a girl who politely approaches them? I have rejected girls for doing this but I always say thank you and compliment them. But this hasn’t been the case vice versa.
I think anyone that wants to know what the other is thinking should ask. For example if I enjoy being around a girl and want to get to know her better I should ask. If she wants to get to know me better she should ask. I think there are too many missed opportunities if it is just expected that one side should ask and not the other.
I LOVE when women ask me out!! Sometimes, I didn't even know she was interested! Two times, we ended up dating, just because she asked me out, and I never thought she liked me (I liked both, but thought they were out of my league!!)
if girls/women like the guy then yes ask them... the guy might feel you are out of their league so would be too reluctant to ask for fear of rejection... so if a girl/woman asks then it sends a message that you are interested and not out of reach
Yeah, while I am still in favor of the man (me) being the leader (notice I said LEADER, NOT BOSS) in a relationship, I am not sure why any guy would be averse to a gal he likes or was attracted to asking him out. I was asked out more than once, including by my wife when we first met, and it was just fine.
You know I have often felt this way so I started doing it. Then I got shot down quite a few times so I quit. I can't imagine how difficult it is for guys to keep going after being shot down. Men I salute you.
If you think that’s bad give Tinder a go as a man.
I've done it damn near my entire life. It sounds shitty but you get used to the "rejection" and just shrug it off. Fuck it.
@Robertcw i can't imagine. Being on my side it seems like the men outnumber women 100 to 1.
I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I get that. I take no offense to it any more. I just keep it moving. At this point my pride doesn't even feel it. I've never been the pretty girl I've always been her friend so imagine it. Statistic are what they are. I'm not saying I never get a no but when I get yes' after hanging out they aren't my type.
@curvypryde32 just keep taking shots. I'm not saying all the time or every day but once in a while throw out some hints and if you've still got his attention. Take a shot.
@Anjie2218 i still do a but but maybe I should more often.
The worse he can say is no. And if he says anything other than that it yes, simply walk away. You don't need to take shit from anyone. 💝
@Anjie2218 That's really good advice.
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HELL YES!!! This bullshit your mom programmed into you that a girl asking a guy out makes herself out to be a slut is stupid!! I'm told girls prefer guys that go after what they want. Well, why don't girls go after what THEY want?
In a perfect world yes.But the reality is that any girl who's good looking and or has decent self esteem is never going to do it. Think about it. Judging from your pic your a very good looking girl.Why would you ask a guy out when you know you have the chops required to not have to do the heavy lifting?Don't get me wrong, I'd love for it to happen. But a girl would have to have a very unique personality and a lot of confidence for it to occur.
From what I have seen if a girl tries to come up to a guy he immediately sees her as an easy target to sleep with as if it means she is desperate. I would not want anyone to be like that with me nor do I want to deal with the awkwardess if I do not like him afterall or he does not like me (as it can often happen due to my straightforward personality).
so don't try to break old stigma's and keep the traditional values. I heard that before.
I hope you die alone.
like fuck you, you think every girl a guy approaches accepts a date and live happily ever after? you thin guys dont' have to WORK at having to learn this shit? Like for real fuck you, entitled cunt
The only difference between you ask him out and he asks you out is in the former case he is more likely to be your type and he would feel more obliged to be courteous even if he likes someone else. If a guy asks you out and you say yes, he might still see you as an easy target to sleep with, and it's also more likely that you're not even the only girl he's trying to get with. Once someone better says yes he'd drop you without proper explanation, that's the standard scenario in girl's questions on here lol
I am not excluding any possibilities or saying that my opinion is universal truth, there will be guys who prefer to hit on girls and dislike if girls hit on them, there will be guys who like girls hitting on them, there will be girls who like hitting on guys, there will be girls who like guys hitting on them. And neither of them is in the wrong, it's a matter of personal preference and I just stated mine. I'm not saying everyone should live by it. Learn to respect opinions of others boys ✌
Just want to share what I've seen irl and on here, you seem to have trouble accepting that since you think that's somehow disrespectful to your `opinion` :))
@IlyaThelmpaler The disrespectful part was more meant to the other guy who commented :)
It feels weird in all honesty. But if she has the guts to ask me out, she braver than most and for me thats attractive.
That's up to them. Closed mouths don't get fed though. It will increase their odds of landing the man they want but it's up to them if they want to suspend their pride.
The one who develops interest first should ask first.
Yes.I don't agree with this whole 'the guy should do XYZ' BS, just seems sexist.
I'd be fine with it, I dont really think it matters which way round it happens today
If girls are fighting for gender equality as they say they are, they should start by doing this, yes! But rarely they will 😒
I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I voted C.I guess a younger me would say A, but at the end of the day even if girls asked guys out more that wouldn't really change my situation because most of the girls I see and notice are way out of my league so I'd believe she's joking around or making fun of me. Overall I don't really care.
in this modern world that is suposedly becoming more equal it would make sense for women to sometimes ask guys out too and besides its very flattering to be asked
Yes. But i have found I was more doubtful of their intentions when I did make the first move. As if they are only responding positively because they’re flattered. My issue not theirs.
I think in stead of complaining about guys not taking charge any more women should be less passive and ask guys out. Its your life. Do not sit around and wait for life to come to you... go out and get it yourself.
I see what you did there! 😄 Or didn't... I mean you could have asked "Should GaG out more often?" 😋
Girls cheat more than guys and girls can easily get a guy to have sex with than a guy can get a woman. I’ve never seen men prostitution or women paying for sex. I’m sure it’s happened but barely.
Does it really matter if you get a date out of it?But I would definetly be surprised if a girl asked me out, because it doesn't really happen that often.
Why yes they should. Us guys has no problem rejecting women and we would not feel creeped out either. I've always wanted to tell a girl that I already have a girlfriend even tho I don't
Yes, but I would never do it unless I really liked the guy - I don't see a purpose in it for me personally 'cause I think I give off enough hints that I like a guy as it is.
I can guarantee most of your hints are not being received.
girls should ask a guy out any time she wants to go out with him. I think it's stupid to feel like you have to "wait for the guy". If you want something in this world, you have to go for it. Plus it's really flattering if the girl asks.
Yes, I am horrible and even talking to girls so I think them even starting the conversation relating would help some other guys out
Yes, because that would be a dream come true for us men and I believe it will help the dating world more.
Ask "out"? Like to the outhouse?If you think you're going to be the man I doubt the men are going to want you.
I dont see why not. Girls do love to be chased. But I like a confodent woman that knows what she likes.
If a girl was to ask me out now I would turn her down because I have a girlfriend, but I probably wouldn't if I was single.
Yes, there are enough problems on this planet, don't create yourself new one by preventing yourself from reaching an opportunity. Life is too short for that nonsense, go for what makes you happy.
Of course, then again I can't even ask out the guys I'm interested in
I mean, the would be fair.. Lol.. And I think It's nice, and a turn on when a girl ask me.. Lol..
It seems like lots of girls use the 'it's a guys place' position as a way to avoid rejection.
I think they should. If you're interested in someone, I don't see why they wouldn't.
Don't be shy then, I'll say yes.
Yes, but most of the guys I know who have actually been asked out by a girl are like in the top 2% looks-wise.
I think we're in an era now where girls are taking more control over such matters, where it was always seen as the traditional guy thing to do
Yes! Instead of showing subtle signs to me that she's interested which I'll probably miss, I'll actually know she's interested
I'm available and selflessly I'm happy to cover the States as well... providing flights and accommodation are covered by the invitee 😋
Yes they really should. I am tired of guys taking their sweet time to ask me out.
Wow i didn't know there are so many shy men over here 😂 Personally i would prefer to approach because when women approach it just not look sexy for me.
I have no issue with that, girls could ask me out as often as possible.
In a culture where women falsely accuse men of sexual crimes simply for showing interest... women need to take responsibility for the world they created with their false victimhood.
Sounds like a plan. I like it; an assertive/aggressive woman is a turn on.
My fiancée asked me out to our first date when she started dating She recently proposed and I said yes
There is nothing wrong with letting us know how you feel instead of making us wonder
When it happens, I will tell you, by now, it's something really strange.
I wonder how many girls who identify as "feminists" have a problem with girls asking guys out. I would think that if someone believes in equality, then they would have no problem with it.
Sometimes guys are too shy. What if two people want to date but neither ever say anything?
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