Depends on the guy regardless of age. But when I used to go on a couple of dates a week with two diff guys then narrow it down I became very god at seeing controlling tendencies and other red flags then cutting it off with the guy. He can have a flabby body but needs to get exercise and really respect that I NEED exercise to breathe and allow me that time. Be on the same page- you are both looking for an equal and reasonable level of commitment. I’m very low on long calls when I’m travelling for work because it’s late nights and early mornings. I don’t care about how much you make but have it in order or be upfront about your challenges.
Yes I have. What I learned is that it's best for me to classify guys. I got tired of not knowing where to go with a date and end up feeling heartbroken over a fling. Now I can easily make a difference between guys I just want a one night stand with and guys I want to build something up with. I'm not gonna put out immediately with a guy I might see myself settling down with, and I won't hope to marry a guy who's dick I sucked behind a dumpster the same night i met him. Not saying everyone should do this, but it works for me.
I feel your standards are affected by your mental maturity level in a senseMine have become more refined by a lot.In some regards theyve gone down.On others, theyve gone upI guess it depends on who you are and what your standards started out as.I think some will never change and others are constantly changingRegardless, i dont believe anyones standards can remain the same after 10 years of dating different peopleAfter 15 years and over a dozen relationships, my standards have changed after each relationship.Were always learning new thingsIf we dont use this new knowledge, whats the point of it all?
I would say so. My standards have changed. Plus, the dating scene in general has changed. The world is becoming more sexualized. Some younger guys don’t even know what chivalry or being a gentleman really is. Men and women both are guilty of objectifying each other and blaming the other for their faults. People just throw marriage out like it’s garbage and move on to the next person they want to say they love. There are so many single parents out there that are working hard to fill the role of both parents. When it comes to dating they get shunned for having kids.
It hasn't gotten more sexualized my friend.Its just being shown and seen more often with the advances of technology Same thing goes for everything else thats gotten "worse" or "better" in the last 100 yearsShit hasn't changed at all except the fact that its seen and caught more, its harder to get away with dumb shit, and it changes the way these people have to do their dirt
Everything else youve said i agree with lol
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Yeah.I was not to care about ethnicty at all but now I prefer to be with someone of my ethnicity.I also now want a practicing Muslim husband (not a wahhabi though) whereas I didn't care much before.I also want a man who support me financially whereas I didn't care about this aspect before.As of beauty standards, I used to prefer the European look when I was a teen (because of movies and series, eg Jared Leto, Ian Somerhalder, Jonas brothers etc) but now I prefer Mediterranean/North African look.
I would say so. My standards are probably higher now because I have become more serious about my walk with Jesus and now desire a woman who is just as serious in her walk with God. Also I am more aware of how much damage a woman can cause if she levels the right accusations at a man so I am way more careful.
I was only really looking for flings, they needed to be clean, show sexual prowess, know how to keep our business private and be single. As I got older I looked to find a "rich man" because I felt like i needed looking after and some loving. But when i got that he was a cheating sxumbag so I'm looking for love, loyalty and dedication. I want him to be earning but the way we are together and how we lead our life is crucial. He gotta be coming at me with the sincerity and love i deserve, in my experience that takes shared experiences and time
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Yes.I'm definite into guys and how they move through life more than anything. The More responsibilities and goals i reach the more my standards do change. I also prefer older men. they don't bother me for bring responsible and keeping to a schedule Monday through Friday. Less pressure too.
I used to be against dating another person on the spectrum. Since my social circle is composed of people on the spectrum I chose to change this after I realized some girls I knew actually liked me, and the most successful relationships of participants were with other participants.
Yes. I'm not lowering my standards anymore for guys. They play on this, 'your standards are too high' crap, and I've come to realize that they weren't too high. Those guys just didn't want to put in the effort to meet them.So I'll be keeping my standards and looking for a guy much more worth my time.
What standards must they meet?
I'm married now so dating is off-limits to me, but if I took the lesson from my wife, I'd stop dating acquaintances and stick to dating friends with whom I get along with really well in my social circles.
As for the reason, it's because that's how I ended up with my wife. I used to favor acquaintances to friends for some reason. It was easier, somehow, for me to make moves on someone who was relatively a stranger than a good friend. But there were a lot of misses doing that, and few hits and the few hits were more chemistry than something that really lasts. So I prefer starting off friends if I was still dating nowadays, favoring connection + compatibility + chemistry instead of pure chemistry and hoping too optimistically that the other elements will be there.
I've also developed some skills? That sounds a bit bad but if I was to target a close friend, there was a good chance she'd reject me when I was younger and a bit lacking with my approach. But over time I got much better at that to the point where I think my chances of being rejected if I liked a girl in my friend group and we had the right kind of social dynamic would be pretty low (plus I've better learned to recognize when there's a mutual interest). So now I'm more confident about choosing among friends instead of going for acquaintances. I can more confidently pick the one I like and feel like there's a pretty good chance of success there.
Also, I've learned how to bounce out of the friend-zone, at least for one girl. Like my wife friend-zoned me twice, and I used to dread this situation. But I bounced out of it. All I did was just jam an emergency stop button on an elevator and kiss her. Done. I'm outta the friend-zone and got a wife. So if I was still dating, I wouldn't let friend-zone stop me that way.
Actually, that sounds like a borderline sexual assault with the way I put it there. But I was careful to read her body language, and mood, and pulled her close gently, and kissed her very slowly with plenty of room to refuse. It was only when she melted and kissed back that I realized I was out of the friend zone and unleashed as the elevator resumed. But I'm more confident now, I guess. Friend-zone to me is just a challenge to step things up.
I think societies past times and way of life has changedthe way we get food, the way we have fun and the way talk or what we talk about all plays a factor and role
i agree 100% !!older men treat you better.older men are more likely to put you first in foreplay.older men appreciate being with a younger woman and treat you right.
Mine has definitely. Looks don’t matter as much anymore. I guess I used to be very shallow when I was younger.
Yes i no longer go after shy, awkward boys they have no self confidence and are a pain to communicate abd have a relationship with in reality.Now i go for strong, direct, honest, confident men who won't waste my time abd with get to the point with me, if they want something they won't be scared to chase after it
Slightly, my interests have matured with me.Originally i wanted a gamer as girlfriend, now i want someone i can hold deep intellectual conversations with with gaming being a nice bonus.
I think because I’m still growing up, there’s still so much for me to figure out but as a high schooler I did learn a lot and so I guess at the same time yess
When I was younger I liked the basic that every other girl liked (blonde, blue eyes etc) but now I saw that we don’t live in a princess book and I should love their person how they truly are and not have high standards
I will never be dating , one key reason is my standards would be way higher , but my options as a single dad , will be few - none , also I cannot bear even the thought of another relationship after the marrige I ended.
Yes, my standards in physique and personality have risen dramatically.But my standards in facial appearance have become almost non-existent.
I mean kinda, some people say I waste people's time and just trying to get guy's to date me for one reason or another, but the thing is they can't look into my heart and know how I feel. I think over the years I grew more mature and understanding of relationships though.
I think I am worse and way more into judging people than ever before but that is mostly because girls around my age have much more of a past than younger girls so I judge them harshly
Yes I don’t have time for bs or games. You really at this point need to be career oriented and mature. I don’t want to go on a date and then your expecting me to just hook up with you skip your date and just say your intentions. I haven’t dated in 2 years specifically because of that but I am talking to someone now who I like.
Yes, there's a few things that didn't used to bother me that are now an immediate no-go.
When a man is growing up he wants the best good looking woman on earth... as we age, we just want peace.
They have risen significantly over the years. After seeing what happens when you don't have standards, I have raised and stuck to them.
I used to go out with guys 30+ but they were like Dominating and wanted to Control everything. I like guys my age or one year younger because they're fun and take everything easy
Yes, I expect much more from women. My expectations are much higher... but since most women don't have what it takes, I have had to settle, unfortunately. But patience is the key
I changed. My goals changed so is my choice of partners.
I've notices that young women look more like children, and older women have become hotter, ads I age.
Id say I have a more nuanced opinion of what I am looking for than when I was younger. Some things matter a lot more and some things turned out to not matter as much as I thought they would.
Yes because back then I didn't think about spending my life with someone. Now I do.
I’m less picky about looks. My girlfriend is cute but no supermodel. But I’m more into what she is as a person.
At my age now. Still the same. I mean, a wacky, caring, loving woman. Who's Honest.
Yes, I'm more selective now compared to let's say a year ago.
Yes I went from things I liked to no standards, chaos basically.
More concerned with personality and compatibility, less about looks
After making the same mistakes over and over, I know what I want.
Soo much! When i was younger i dated a guy a while that i let control and walk all over me, Now I've completly flipped the script and never take even an ounce of disrespect from a man👏☝️
I have more strict personality/moral standards now than I did when I was younger, which greatly limits who I would consider being with because many people have morals I strongly disagree with.
They do. Looks alone don't pay the bills, personality and looks can do
Yeah I have note self confidence and I don't feel like I need to settle for girls I don't find attractive. Also can't wait till am older if every women starts going for older guys
When I was a teenager, my standards were extremely broad. They've narrowed as I've learned more about myself and the rest humanity.
Yes they have changed a lot. Now I'm more experienced and know what I want. I have dated some lame douchebags when I was younger 😂
Yeah, but I have to work on my self. I am not stable enough for dating.
Yeah, I'm only open to dating within my race these days. I have also matured, I don't desire dolled-up bimbos anymore.
Yes, my physical standards decreased while my personality standards increased quite a bit.
I just want a deaf mute guy.We could get along
Yes finding someone my age without kids is harder.
I never trust myself with picking guys
For sure, and because I’ve matured
Yes, I don't like conformists anymore xx
I choose who fits my life.
Standards are way higher now.
Yes. I only want conservative women now.
Nah, still have none.
I think they do as you get older
I prefer older guys too.
Yes. I actually got standards for a change.
Ya I only want good looking rich guys
No their pretty much the same
Nope they haven’t
oof, so many times.
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