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I've been in that situation where my girl said that 90% being she loves me no matter what. 10% wanting to not hurt my feelings, because I was obviously not in as good a shape. I don't think any part of it was insecurity on her end. The only girl I've dated who was insecure was actually really on board with me maintaining my workout regimen lol. She kept in good shape aswell. Her insecurity mostly came from me having a lot of female friends, with some of which who were interested in me despite my knowing.I only found out, after we broke up. Because 3 girls came out of the woodwork basically saying they wanted to fuck me this whole time. So I kind of forgave my ex, because clearly she saw something I didn't and she had to deal with that because they were my friends.
How about the obvious answer you conveniently omitted. They are NOT being honest but they do not want to hurt your feelings. Men have been conditioned at a early age to never talk to women that way. My girlfriend is tall and “skinny fat”. She’s not overweight but she’s got a bit of a stomach and mild cellulite. If she worked out everyday she could lose it easily. Am I going to dump her just because of that? Hell no. But I’m encouraging her to hit the gym more with me. I never say a word about her physique.
It could be both, tobthem you are perfect but they could also be afraid that if you lose weight they will lose you. It is very common people who go through major physical changes tend to leave their partners. Divorce rates go up due to weight loss surgery. Cheating increases when balding men get hair transplants or hair regrowth. It's because now the person who has made the physical feels more confident about themselves and their partner stays the same no changes but expect the other persons change to only be physical and that is impossible. It's no different than the person going through a Twelve Step Program, changing emotionally and spiritually, but the rest of their Loved ones are still remaining the same problems abound from it!!!
I agree. Good points!
Thank you. I'm one that had Gastric Sleeve surgery and a Twelve Stepper. But no Romantic relationships while going through surgical process and nothing serious starting out the 12 Steps.
coachTanthony, thank you for MHO.
I say neither or. I believe it's just unhealthy and unrealistic. If your really overweight, or overweight in general and your health practitioner tells you like one told my dad 'you got to lose that bully fat!', that person doesn't LOVE YOU. And neither are you PERFECT as you are! You could be dying tomorrow and that person is only caring about their fetishes. Your health is important. Its one thing if your healthy and you want to change it for irrational reasons, for them to say that. But its another when its only done to selfishly keep you in a place where a person just wants to get their rockers off.
I don't think it's that deep. Some men are adaptable to a woman's body and it's changes. I agree if she is way overweight like 250-300 yeah she should lose some weight but some of us guys like their women fat. Only a foolish man would think his woman won't cheat because she is big, guys will literally usually sleep with any size woman. Don't just assume right off it's insecurity but some of us don't want a gym rat for a woman. Being fit, cool, jog a bit, but not in a gym 24/7. I personally don't care if my lady is 150 when I meet her and she jumps up to 230. I am fine with it.
What many of you and I understanding that if you treat it like a gym rat, then that's all she's ever going to be to you. And when she finally does get herself to slim down, that's where she'll God forbid cheat.
Because she remembered how you treated her when she wasn't at her best.
They're either lying to spare your feelings- I mean how many people honestly want to hear someone say, "You're fat!" Especially your partner.Or they are so blinded by love, they are honest and don't see your weight as being overweight. Others might, but if someone genuinely likes you, they see past any flaws you might have.
Depends, since people have different preferences and might find a bigger person perfect. However, at some point that is no longer believable and is just them trying to avoid hurting your feelings.
I'd take it more as them being too nervous to encourage me to get healthy for fear of being seen as shallow. It would be cute, but also annoying since I would want to be the best version of myself for my partner. I'd never have suspected such a statement could be made out of insecurity.
How you feel about yourself won’t always determine how others feel about you. You can think you’re the ugliest person on the planet while someone else could think the opposite. On the other hand some people will lie to make you feel better.So the answer isn’t a simple yes or no. It depends on every individual’s taste and sincerity. Some will honestly think you’re perfect while others will lie to save face.
Depends really.He could be honest IF I have always been really overweight since the day we met.If I gain the weight (in excessive amount) during the duration of our relationship, he is either being tactful or insecure. He could be honest too but that is less likely in my opinion.In reality, I'd be scared to gain too much weight and lose my partner. I like to keep in shape and stay fit, not just to stay attractive for my partner but also for myself -- to be healthy and to feel good with my own body.
I'd think more honest than insecure, bc as I answered their love is unconditional, your weight won't change how much they love you.I also think they wouldn't say anything to hurt you, saying, " You are perfect the way you are " is a win win.
When I was overweight, my fiance always assured me he'd continue loving me no matter what. I believe him. He also inspired me to strive for my old form & figure back. It worked. :) So, now, as newly-weds, it's harder for us to stay away from each other. <3
I think if they started dating the heavier person while they are overweight it would be honesty. I think if they dated a smaller person who gained a lot of weight it may be kindness that is misguided. All in all I think a partner should be supportive of their partner being healthy
I think it really depend son the situation.A lot of times I can see it being insecurity.However, other times I can see the partner just being more attracted sexually to a heavier person.
It depends on their perception. That's one of the reasons I would appreciate a comment like that, but still would like to keep my BMI at a healthy level regardless.
or maybe they really do think you are perfect just the way you are
The answer depends on the particular guy. A man with low self esteem or jealousy issues will say that due to insecurity. Others will say that because they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings.
No. Not all people want the same things or even care that much about appearance. Some of the hottest girls I've met didn't care so much about guys' looks and even looked down on "pretty boys."
They're being honest. When you really love someone it becomes easier to overlook physical things.
Honest. They love the person who owns the heart that beats within.
Neither. They're being congenial, polite. A person needs to be responsible for their own selves. Period. Regardless of what anyone else TELLS them.
They are most likely being honest. If they are just saying it to make you feel better thats no good. You can usually tell by how they act
I hate to sound like a bigot here but if someone says you’re perfect the way you are when you are obviously unhealthy then they don’t really care about you. Someone who actually cares about you will try to take care of you.
Honest if they love them. You see no flaws in the person you love
I never know what to think when a guy tells me I look okay the way I look because I'm overweight, it makes me think he can't get any other girls and that's the reason he sticks with me, I don't know, I don't think someone can actually like an overweight person or think they actually look attractive.
What is overweight? I worked with this girl that was 5'11 she was medically "obese" ( that is has a BMI over 30) and she was hotter than hell. I can't speak for all guys but i generally think it depends on how you carry it. If she gained weight she just got curvier. Which just made her hotter.
@ChiTown33 I'm 5'4 and around 160lbs :(
Same as this other girl i used to work with she thought she was fat. I think you tripping needlessly.
This question is too simplified. It could be either. They may also just love chubby people. These people exist.
I would love them just the way they are but I would want them to look their best. I would even diet and exercise with them if it helps.
I don’t know. My partner does not seem to value looks as much as I do. I know I could not lie if the tables were turned.
I love my partner the way he is. He is not overweight, but even if he was I would love him just the same.
In my opinion it depends on who it is and who/what they're attracted too, some may say it because they actually mean it or some may say it because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
neither lol, they don't wanna hurt your feelings, because you're their child.
Honest cause of my size they want me to lose weight for my health reasons.
Love on whatever level it is really shouldn't be that conditional unless it is health threatening.
I think they just want to tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear.
How overweight we talking? I mean i can't imagine how getting winded climbing the stairs could ever be considered attractive.
Seriously... not that i promote unhealthy habits but I would say honest. I’ve been with men in and out of shape and probably on the verge of being obese but it’s the person that matters not their weight
Depends how overweight. Because I like some women with extra meat lol.
I think their being honest maybe they like bigger lover.
They may have a fat fetish or even worse they are a feeder.
What I can tell is if my partner is a trainer, then I'd say he's dishonest.
I love my woman fat or skinny. Lobg as my penis fits and reaches her. If she doesn't cheat i will be happy.
The insecure one seems to be the part with self esteem issues even if it's a honest affirmation
they probably love you but that is no excuse not to lose the weight
Neither, they're lying
Unhealthy mindset. If I was overweight I need to lose it, it's bad for your entire body.
i think it could be either or maybe both. it depends on the person and you're going to to know your partner best
I think it depends on the person and situation.
They are lying their asses off.
i would assume they just don't care that much.
Depends on the person obviously
They're catering to your insecurity.
insecure because everyone wants fit.❤
Some people truly like fatties.
Depends on the person
I’m honest but can’t speak for others
They don’t want to hurt your feelings
They're just blind, lol
Could be either.
They're being honest
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