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A girl decides to test her fiancé. She has her younger sister call the fiancé and ask him to come to her house to help her with a plumbing emergency. When he arrives, she is very seductively dressed, says that the emergency has resolved, and invites him to stay for a drink. She then tells him that she has always had the hots for him and wants to find our how good he is in bed before he actually married her sister.He gets up and walks out of the house towards his car. As he exits, he sees his future wife and her parents standing in the front yard and they begin applauding. "I'm so relieved!" exclaims his fiancée.Moral of the story: always keep your condoms in the glove compartment of your car!* * *The actual moral of the story: Testing your partner only proves that they passed a test, for whatever reason, on one occasion. There is nothing that someone can do to prove that they will be faithful and mongamous for the rest of their lives.Testing your partner also proves that you don't trust your partner. When your partner learns hat they are not trusted, they may begin to question whether they should be so trusting of you. Q. How does all of this lead to a stronger relationship?A. It doesn't.
Because you are approaching the situation from a place of doubt, and it's ultra controlling. You basically want to deceive him, and trick him into thinking he is in a compromising situation that you won't know about, without really putting him in that situation. You already know all the buttons you need to press to attract and romance him, so it's not even realistic to what other girls would actually do. By testing your boyfriend, you aren't saying "I trust you so much, but when you get into a certain situation, I want to see how you will react." What you are actually saying is "I don't have the confidence that you will behave yourself if X happens for real, so I'm going to fake the worst case scenario to trick you into acting how I'm worried you will."
Testing is not what's wrong. It's how you choose to go about it. That's like trying to make a person jealous when there's really no reason for you to do so. And way how you are saying it is a clear indication why a lot of guys hate it. Women hate it too. In other words, people in general hates things like that.
It shows just how much you don’t trust him and if he finds out, he’ll know this too which is going to cause serious problems. Just don’t do it. If you have good reasons to question his loyalty then address them with him instead of doing something behind his back.
Well it depends what kind of test it is and what it entails.If you're going to throw a hot young 19 year old naked right up to him to find out if he's faithful that's not really a realistic test to conduct on a man. because he is a man. Would be like dangling a piece of meat in front of a lion.Most of the time it's a bad idea because any of those sort of test is nothing more than entrapment almost, it's an unrealistic situation that would never present itself, nor either is it one he would necessarily search for, but since you manifested it he kind of feels like it's too good to be true and has to agree.
Monogamy is one of the biggest scams (aside from religion) this world has ever seen. And your question is one of the reasons WHY. It turns people into psychopathic CONTROL FREAKS, making them more sensitive about petty sh! t that doesn't even matter, getting butt-hurt over small things your partner does, etc..Read 'SEX AT DAWN' by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan and free yourself from the LIE of monogamy. You are a POLYAMOROUS creature by *Default*. Most people are incapable of staying with one person for life. You and your boyfriend are 99.9% most likely in that same category.
Well, should he test you? When will it be enough? How comfortable are you with the idea that he doesn't trust you as far as he could throw you? How comfortable are you with the idea of him constantly testing your loyalty because your words and your actions are not good enough? Theirs your answer.
Ohhh this sounds like a bad idea that promises to be epic in its "dumb ides-ness".Let me start by saying I value loyalty within a relationship more than anything else, aside from honesty. I'm not one of these idiot guys who will give you idiot reasons why this is a bad idea. Still... From what I know so far... This is gonna be a super-bad idea... But... What do you plan to do, and what prompts you to do anything at all?
Me, I'd lose all trust in you and immediately terminate the relationship. I don't need shit test in my life. I date because they bring something to my world. That includes peace and not burden. I immediately cause someone trying tis once a while back while getting to know one another. She was quite put off by my ending things as she felt justified in "testing". I was equally justified in say, "we're done". You get my trust from the start. It is up to you to lose it. When you do, nothing will eer earn it back, and that is why I end things. I simplyvwill never more trust you. Especially since I javecome tobrealize that those who do this also tend to the biggest cheats. I do not need this. No one does.
I'll just ignore the ethical ramiffications of what you are proposing and give you this little nugget of wisdom instead. You are not a scientist. The danger is that whatever test you create is not likely to prove what you want it to, but because of your own confirmation bias, you will take the results and draw incorrect conclusions from them. None of us knows what this experiment you propose to conduct on your boyfriend entails, so none of us can accurately judge whether it is a valid experiment or not.
Would you accept being tested secretly by him? You have to earn trust both of you do. Testing someone is the worst idea. And if he finds/ when he finds out he will be curious and likely want no part of the relationship. Have to work together and learn to trust
because that is manipulative. he doesn't test you does he? a good relationship doesn't need testing, and if you feel you need to, you should either tell him and build the reationship or end the relationship. relationships never thrive on characteristics like that
Because it's playing games. The thing you are really testing is whether your boyfriend will put up with your games. Any guy who knew you were doing it should run the other way fast. Even if he knew you were just thinking about it should be cause to run.He might be completely loyal. But doing stuff like this might be a self fulfilling prophecy.
It shows you dont trust him, so he will feel like he can't trust you either, he'll second guess himself before he tells you anything assuming you might interpret it the wrong way, he'll feel smothered like he has to watch what he does with friends on the off chance that you take it the wrong way and think he's cheating. A healthy relationship can't be fostered that way, you have to give him his space and trust him, or risk building a filter between you two.
Never do that because even if you never had the thought of cheating you're now giving him the opportunity so if he does end up cheating that's your fault if you fear that he's not loyal then don't be with him just trust yourself and if he finds out you tried to test him it's not going to be pretty so you're in a losing that way as well if you trust him stay with him if you don't don't
It says you're 18 to 24 so you're young means he's Young which means plenty of opportunities through life to find someone and you're just trying to give him one that's not you
So you deserve his loyalty but he doesn't deserve yours? Testing him is to distrust him, and to be disloyal. If I knew who your boyfriend was, I would contact him and let him know that you posted this. I feel just awful for him.
"oh hey I love you n all and I trust you, I really do trust you. But I'm just gonna set you up for a fall and create a scenario to see if I can trust you and if you pass I know you trust you for sure. Because a relationship is all about trust"
Normally a bad idea in my opinion. There is too much at stake and the supposed "test" might be mis understood. And if the person fails, then what do you do? Get mad at him/her?
Because you may not like if he fails the test lolAlso if and when he finds out that you had a reason to test his loyalty... that'll break the trust he thought he had in the relationship and then the relationship will die.
If you think you need to test his loyalty, just break up now. You obviously don't trust him, and you cannot have a relationship without trust!!
Cuse it shows you're insecure, you're not a mature and responsible person, you play games and you value your own emotions over the actual relationship.
Don’t do that. You’re treating him like an experiment. If you don’t think he's loyal leave him for both of your sakes. He won’t want a nosy jealous girlfriend
Because it shows you don't love him.Imagine he doesn't pass, ok he doesn't love you.Imagine he pass and discover it was a test, you had failed your own test.It's much better to trust, and if he makes something you really don't accept to cut with him.
Fight him with words. If he respect you and discuss with you, he loves you. If he go, he's an empty man and he don't love you. (sorry for my bad english) :)
It shows great distrust in the relationship. I would be quite disturbed if my significant other tested out a similar scenario just to test me out. Why would you even want to do that in all honesty
Congrats. You have chosen to risk your relationship for a very pointless thing.
Testing a S/O to see their loyalty just speaks for itself. You don't trust him otherwise even if you say you do a million of times.
Cause he might think this relationship lacks trust that is something essential. I get you i wanted to do such a thing too but i changed my mind cause it was all about not having trust with my partner.
He will think you don’t trust him and then resent you for it. It’s not worth it
Would you accept being tested by him? Trust is a two way street.
Because it could potentially ruin what you guys have. You might not want to know kind of thing.
It's very bad , that means you don't trust him. Then why are you with him. If the guy realizes about your test afterwards chances are high that he will leave you even if he passed the test , if he have self respect
Because it screams to guys that you don't trust him, and and he will lose trust in you. All relationships are built on trust, if you don't have trust, the relationship will crumble and die.
I think it's a good idea since I was a filthy cheater disguised as a very nice and caring guy...I do hate myself and regret all of it, but yeah keep and eye out, there are assholes like the past me out there 💔
If you are wanting to test him it is showing that you don't trust him and part of being is a relationship is having trust
If you don't trust him enough without tested him you don't deserve to date him at all.
Serious question before I answer your really, REALLY dumb question-- are you retarded?
It’s not. Trust is earned. Testing is how you earn trust.
Your rest shouldn't be so difficult that he just stops thinking about you. It could backfire
Yu might not like what yu see or yu might end up wasting yur time and risking a FUBAR situation
Warnings flag of someone with unhealthy trust issue and insecure. high likelihood of drama power games, manipulative, negative energ, jealousy. (not girlfriend material)Why do you want to test him and how?
That's not a good idea. It can go wrong , and ruin a relationship.
He should break up with you after he finds out. It shows you don't trust him and that you will play immature games. You aren't mature enough to have a relationship.
It is NOT a bad idea ! But it should be done discreetly without hurting anyones feelings !
Because it means you don’t trust him. Would you like it if he did that to you?
If my girlfriend do that , it's not a problem for me beacause after this , there are not problemes.
It always was the worst idea of all. I can't take that risk.
He should break up with you immediately any women who tests men is a loser and not worthy of the mans time. Men make sure you dont even play a women’s game just leave
Why? I want to know if he’s loyal
Depends how you test them but it usually just makes you seem really insecure insecure and that you have zero trust in your boyfriend.
It shows that you don’t trust him and that you’re insecure and that’s an unhealthy relationship to be in if you do that.
Insanely bad idea. If you don't trust him why are you with him?
Untrustworthy people think that everyone else is untrustworthy
I did it twice But u can go for it but u need to trust him as well
Testing your boyfriend shows you don't trust him. Your boyfriend wouldn't appreciate it and you could end up losing him.
Because it is a sign of not trusting them. Can't trust him, then leave.
Okay I will
If you are testing his loyalty it shows that there is not trust in your relationship.
Because its a scummy thing to do, he deserves better if you're even considering it
How? This doesn't sound like a loving thing to do.
Not bad tho but he might feel u don't trust him.. u hv gotta trust
Because it shows that you don’t trust him.
He might take it as you don’t trust him
It's a great idea tbh
it shows how little you trust in him
It shows a lack of trust.
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