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Didn’t vote because it depends on the age. When I was younger, it didn’t matter. We were a team against the world working together for our future. Now? It depends on the situation. If talking marriage, I’d want a prenup not only for myself but to protect him too. If it was just an exclusive dating situation as long as he can pay his own bills that’s good enough
Absolutely yes. Because that's the person I'm supposed to be getting married to, or is already married to. And with everything going up, and you got to live with a person oh, you got to know what you're getting into. Before you get into legal obligations that's going to cost you and your future down the road.
So poor people can’t be good romantic partners? And you don’t have to get married with a big fancy wedding
That's not the point. The reality is is that even if you get involved with somebody that's poor. The problem is how long is it going to take that person that's par to get himself together? It's really nobody else's responsibility that the person can't offer much in a relationship. If you poured and how are you going to be able to take care of person? How are you going to take care of yourself? How you going to take care of bills? How you going to pay for gas? Water? Food? Electric? Clothing? Medical bills? Medicine in general? Taking care of the kids? Having extra income on the side in case of an emergency? Putting money up for college fund for children? Or even having it on bank account to start with, and even their own first apartment question mark these are the things of the future that you must think about while you are still young. It's not about having a big fancy wedding. It's about preparing for the future while you still have one. I'm technically poor myself and still living in my father's house. I have no job, is a caregiver, and is raising two large breed dogs, all while I'm dealing with medical issues. At the same time I'm trying to focusing on getting myself to school so I can go and get out of this country and live my life. Do you see me focusing on some guy? Nope. I never dated in my life. Because I have a future and I have ambitions. And I'm not going to allow a man to stop me because he chooses to stop himself.
Most women desire married, having children, obviously at some point being spoiled, but for the most part. A man is supposed to be a provider of his home. And if he says he wants a woman, he has to be able to provide for her. That's why I miss the old days with Amanda wants to date or Court a woman could not do so unless he asked her father. Because at least the father if they are smart, I'm not going to just hand his daughter over to somebody, who's not going to be able to provide for her or refuses to. But if you have a desire to provide for her, then you must Show Yourself approved. Because the one is going to be the judge at the end of the day is going to be that woman that you want to live with. And she has to live with you. That's where the hate and animosity comes in. So if you don't want to be a contender to it, it's best to just prepare yourself. Because relationships are not about you is about that other person in about their needs. While at the same time as a woman if I desire such a relationship, it's my job to prepare myself to fit another man's needs and desires above my own.
The opportunities is going to the young. Life is not going to wait for you to catch up especially if you have already missed the boat. You going to be wasting more than half of your life away because you too busy focusing on things that don't matter. But to the world money counts. I don't care much for money either. But in order to survive in this world you got to have something. Because no woman is going to want to be involved with a man who's going to put her in a rut when he's already in one.
Because let me tell you something. A woman that gets involved with a man that's poor and she already has things together to provide for herself and maybe for him and the children. Is the one that's going to wear the pants because let me tell you something. A woman that gets involved with a man that for and she already has things together to provide for herself and maybe for him and the children. Is the one is going to wear the pants. And there's not going to be a darn thing that men's to be able to do about it. She's the one is going to be in control. That's how women end up losing respect for men. You don't want that and you want to be involved in a relationship you got to get yourself together. Before you end up with a bad woman that's going to abuse you. Not all are going to abuse I am not saying that. But for the most part their definitely going to take control because they have no choice. And is often out of love. Before they lose their patience and want to leave you if there is no change.
That's how the rich stay rich, and the poor stay poor. Because the rich is prepared, while the poor is unprepared. The rich is only concerned about the future. While the poor is worried about the past and what's happening right now. The rich is building a future, while the poor is concerned about having a future. That's why as much as I believe that everybody deserves a chance in life. I also believe that you are never too young to prepare.
Money doesn’t equal happiness or good character. You obviously value traditional western values. Nothing wrong with that, but it just feels like you’re putting money in front of love.
What you need to understand young man is that relationships are not about happiness, or just simply having a good character. It's not even so much about money. But about doing what you need to do to provide for the other person. It's not even so much about love. It's about meeting your obligations through having love with each other. Love is not an emotion but an action. This has nothing to do with traditional Western values. It's about being realistic about life on this planet. And the reality is that is not the kind of world we are living in anymore. And if you expect to survive you gotta learn to get with the times, by preparing yourself for the kind of life that you want to live.
I come from a family who has greatly struggled concerning the things about money, purpose in life, and what one needs to do for the other. I have seen everything within my parents marriage for 23 years of my life until the death of my mother 3 years ago. I have seen and witnessed a close friend's divorce from my husband simply because he made promises he couldn't and wouldn't keep. She was financially doing everything while he chose to steal and take. She took him when he hardly had anything. And he still took advantage of her. These days too many people are very selfish. It does not mean you got to be selfish also. But you must be aware why people do the things they do and why they desire the way they do. In order for you to actually keep a person is by doing what you say you have to do. Because if you don't work, you don't eat. There is nothing in this life that is easy anymore. Everybody has to work with their hands and feet. So unless you willing to put your back into it, no woman wants to be constantly doing extra work and it kills her too. A good woman would not want to see you slay work yourself either. But everybody works today. And unless you don't want things in life, you're not going to get it for free. Because the government is definitely not going to give it to you for free.
I’m disturbed that you think that love is a job and not something that just an emotion that makes animals fuck. Life is fleeting, so just enjoy it
I’m sorry for your loss, but that doesn’t mean that you need to value money in a man. That’s shitty
Love is not a job. Love is over all our job to get because we are called to love and we are called and designed to receive love and return. So if you don't want to take life seriously then don't expect any woman to actually want to take you seriously because she is going to take it as you being fleeting and is going to enjoy her time screwing up your life as well. I understand for the most part, that wall person can be all lovey-dovey is still not going to change anything in life. Maybe you want to be lazy about it. And that's your business. Nobody can stop you. But please don't expect everybody to share your desires. Because it's disturbing to know that most guys don't really want to do what they need to do either and then complain about a woman being independent from a man.
Do you hear me saying about me valuing money over a man? I have simply telling you that life requires you two have something today. And things today cost money. So unless a man is going to fully take care of me and provide for me and our children I think it's fair to say that I am going to make sure that I have something secure for myself. Are you prepared to take care of a woman in everything in all of her needs? Are you prepared to break your back so that you can take care of your children when they are crying and you have mouths to feed? Do you actually think it's all about screwing around in bed, and just taking vacations all the time? Nobody's not saying that you can't enjoy yourself. But there is time for playing there is time for work just like you have been taught growing up. These days a woman has to do both a woman's and a man's job. But many men have even told me as well as many guys when I was growing up that they don't want a woman who doesn't work. And I definitely don't want a woman who just wants to be a housewife and is lazy. So come on. There is no double standards here.
I just want someone I enjoy being with and someone I can share my emotions with. I am taking life seriously. Ever hear of a friend? Emotion is important in a relationship. Also you don’t “need” to be wealthy for a healthy relationship. If you married a guy who had everything you wanted, and one day, couldn’t afford a lush life. Would you stay with him? If yes, it negates what you said. If no then you’re literally a gold digging cunt that expects men to give everything they have just to get money, but you expect that you shouldn’t have to work for your own pleasures of life.
Wow, I really don't think you actually are who you say you are if you got to call me a gold digger and a c word. You talk about good character so much but are you a good character calling a woman of provocative and derogatory names? Were you taught to be telling a woman she's a gold digger and the c word? I have plenty of male friends. But emotions are not all that important in a relationship. It's not about being wealthy or healthy. First of all if I get married to somebody I'm married to that person for life. Through thick and thin and for better and For Worse. I will not leave him because he don't have money. I believe in everything that a marriage isn't how God created marriage to be. And that's a simple as that. All I am saying is that he has to make the effort and push yourself the same way I push myself. He has to have the same effort as I give the same effort. If you say you want somebody you can enjoy being with then you can just simply do that. There's nothing wrong with sharing your emotions and having somebody to enjoy that with parrot but the overall point is is that when all that is over you still have to work together to have something in life. Not thinking it's a fairy tail and then you expect to take that fairytale into real life.I am a person that I have always took life seriously since I was extremely young. And I'm am a type of person who needs somebody who is equally as ambitious in life not just somebody who wants to explore and being adventurous of the world. If I want money for anything it's so I can be able to be blessed enough to bless others, and to bless my family and return and share those dreams with that person. If money was never an issue I would have been all up for it. I don't judge a person based on income. But neither am I going to be naive. A man makes sure his family is taken care of.
I can be wealthy all on my own. I don't need a man for that. I have a brain and God has given me a brain and the intelligence to do so. But we certain things in life I just don't have the finances. But I don't believe in Reliant a man to do everything for me especially when I want things for myself. I'm an independent person who believes in doing things for themselves. But I also know how to be humble and ask for help for when I am struggling. The problem is that you're taking much offense because you expect a woman to cater all to your needs and feelings but you don't think about her personal needs. The problem is that most men do not want to be men and they do not want to take up their role as men. But they want sex as well right? The same way we are not entitled to your wallet we are not entitled to give you sex or bear your children.
Ohhhh. It’s a religious thing. Yeah that explains it. Enjoy your boring marriage. 50% end in divorce, so I seriously suggest that you not jump the gun on your “requirements “ and focus on the actual guy
So as much as I understand your plight as I believe similarly, I will not allow your toxic emotions affect me as a person. I am well aware of what relationship as well as a marriage is. As I have studied and learned is not only from the Bible but from self study since I was 7 years old. If I did not know these things I would not be by myself at 27 years old now. I will not be celibate and not looking for a relationship like that anymore in my life. I would have went into a relationship government blindly in effect not only myself but others as well that I love out of selfishness. That is not the kind of person I am. I am not stable in my life myself. And I refuse to be a burden to another person. The point is not so much as you having money. Just don't be lazy. As long as you're not lazy and you do what you have to do as she should be doing what she has to do, most people would not complain. It requires teamwork. You cannot have teamwork and and you're too busy competing or seeing each other as an enemy. That is not a healthy Union or relationship.There is nothing religious about what I am talking about. And I don't think you have the right to dictate or judge about who's boring and who's not in one's marriage. So don't be a jerk because you don't wish to understand.
First of all. Divorce happens because many people choose to have sex before marriage. And don't know what a marriage requires. I know what a man is required. It's people like you who don't even know how to keep a marriage let alone a relationship then you want to complain about what kind of marriage you have. I am not that kind of person. Marriage requires work. And my divorce friend can easily tell you that. But that's going to be your attitude then you don't need to be married and you definitely don't need a person in your life. You need to just stay single.
Your just mad and bitter because you don't seem like a person that is very desirable for a woman. And it has nothing to do about with you being an emotional man. It has to do with your negative attitude. And upset because I told you that relationships require work. Well I'm sorry to burst your bubble it does require work. Marriage is a lot harder when you are not prepared to do what you were called to do. Everybody has a role to play. And it's people like you who refuse to do your roles, is why divorce happens in the first place. Every successful couple who got married young and had many decades of marriage know this. They didn't make excuses for what they had to do they just did it. If a man like you have to give me excuses about what he has to do, I think I would be miserable being married to such a person whether he had money or not. It's not even about the money, is about the kind of person I'm dealing with. A person that loves you elevates you to higher levels. They don't keep you stagnant and they definitely don't keep dragging you down. Divorce happens in most cases because a person's beers not being met and promises are not kept. If you know what invest your money you won't have to worry about gold diggers. Because gold diggers cannot go where you choose to keep it closed. You need more courage in your life and believe in yourself more. When you start changing your mindset in your attitude and start believing that you are worthy to receive a woman's affections, you will attract the woman of your dreams. But she cannot be with you if you're not prepared to sacrifice.
I am. I just don’t like materialistic pricks
You act like every woman is exactly like you. News flash, you’re not all women
And you think a person has to be materialistic because they say that day need to be involved with person who has some type of income? No offense but no wonder why your poor. No you don't see yourself as worthy. You just expect a woman to just want to be emotionally involved with you because you are too emotional yourself. And you can't seem to handle the truth. And the truth is you cannot expect emotions to take care of everything for you in life. Because when you're ranked up in debt who's going to have emotions for you and help you get out of debt if you can't even get out of it yourself? I'm being a prick because I'm telling you the truth? Then you have a lot to learn for your age. How are you even getting by in life? Because I hope you're not using other people just to do it, and then complain about you being poor.
How in the world are are you even paying your taxes? If you think you are worthy and you have your daddy to call me those nasty names, you would have had somebody already. I can clearly see why you don't because you're very nasty as a person. And you're not who you say you are.
I can see you not just poor in finances, your poor in character. You talk about character so much but you're showing me that you're very much lacking. Because a man of good character and stature do not speak such words and language to a woman.
I never said I was poor. You realize that I can have opinions that aren’t self centered? I care about other people more than myself. Also, I know for a fact that I’ll find someone that will love me for me. And I never said that I’d have no money. I meant that I wouldn’t be upper class. You aren’t the average woman. Woman don’t expect money and a fucking atomic family. I don’t fucking want kids. I don’t want to get a house in the suburbs to have a happy little marriage. I don’t think that you understand that what I want is an equal to me. I don’t fucking care about money being I don’t need things to be happy. Needing objects to be happy is materialistic. Also, you’re the big girl here. How about you be the bigger person and leave the convo, cuz you know that I’m not gonna change my mind from insults. Be the good Christian and make me the atheist asshole. I just really enjoy arguing, so stop feeding my addiction
Stop bullying the little kid who doesn’t know any better about relationship, but knows enough to die in a desert full of bullet holes for oil
Actually, I’ll come out and say it. I admit that you have many good points that I absolutely understand but still don’t agree with. Your opinions are yours and if you and your husband are under the impression that you love each other, then it’s not an impression, it’s true love. If your relationship is two way, good on you. Sorry about that, I just thought it’d be funny to be an absolute asshole. Took it a bit too far I must admit. Do you forgive me?
What you need to understand it has nothing to do with who's a Christian whose atheist. Has nothing to do with who's older and who's younger. Has nothing to do with who's right and who's wrong. Is about what makes life life what makes a relationship a relationship. I'm not here to insult you. You just choose to do the insulting yourself. There was nothing funny about what you did. It is sadly the way how you behave is why I don't have a husband. Why I don't desire that kind of life. It's not about my opinion. Is the way how life is and I had to learn to accept that fact. All I've been telling you this entire time is not for you to be naive like I was growing up.Nobody is looking for anybody to be upper class. You can never have enough money in this life to do the things that you need and want. So even if you don't want kids, even if you don't want a house in the suburbs, point is you're going to have to find a woman who equally don't want the same thing you don't want and that is hard to find. And most women who don't want that either are often very selfish and they will not be happy knowing that you like that. Because those type of woman are self-centered. I don't expect up a class either. All I was saying is that you got to have enough income to take care of yourself and to take care of other people that you say you're going to have. Because the woman you say that you want may not want what you want. What is there for me to forgive? You need to learn to forgive yourself. I've already forgiven you and I already know of your mindset because you're young. I'm telling you what I'm telling you because I don't want you to go out here into this world with that mindset and then you become greatly disappointed and end up like me.
I disagree with some things you said, but in the end, thank you. I’ve really gotten good perspective from you. Thank you. Have a good life
This was an issue I wanted to address to people who don't plan ahead financially. Life can get expensive to keep everyone in good health and having too low of an income or being financially irresponsible can overall impact the relationship/marriage in a negative way. It's not to say money is the most important thing in a relationship/marriage but logically, it does play a large role in how the couple will live throughout each day. This is the main reason why I'm struggling to ask my girlfriend in marriage, knowing full well that we aren't financially stable enough to maintain a balanced household with all the payments we have to make. Emotionally, I would disagree with this since love has no boundaries but logically, I would agree for the couple to be the most prepared financially for the future.
Like I told plenty of people emotions is not going to hold a relationship together. It's about meeting your obligations and doing what you have to do. Finances plays a big role in that. Most people are too emotionally attached and they don't really see the big picture of things and do things get really bad and then they wish they never got in it. That's why God said there are those that are called to marriage, and there are those who are not. And there are those who are capable but cease away from it for the sake of the Kingdom. Those who are called for it will naturally thrive better. Those who are not may not do so well. It is also been said that those who get married to a good. But those who do not do it better. The overall issues that most couples do not think rationally for themselves and cares too much about the opinions of other people. For not everybody's financial and marital situation is the same. People get married in to get into relationships without even thinking about why they need to be in a relationship.
@AysenI encourage you to not focus so much about the financial aspect of getting married. But whether or not if getting married to this person is the right step for you and her to take at all. Because once you get married you cannot afford to be getting a divorce. And you definitely do not want to get a divorce over Petty things. Because wall finances is one of the top disagreements in a marriage, what matters is that both you and her work together whether you are rich or your poor. You must literally fulfill your vows to each other and don't delay if that is what you both truly desire. But don't allow your emotions to dictate how to live your life either. You must find a way to have balance as well as knowing what it is that is required for you to do as a husband as she for a wife. As long as both of you and her know your roles together and you make sure you do what is need to be done, you won't have much issues.
So do not allow that to stop you to fulfill what it is that you have to do. Because time is way too short to be concerned so much about money all the time.
Yes, I do care about how much money a potential partner has at their disposal.I don't want to lower my standard of living for someone else, and I can't expect someone else to lower their standard of living because of me.But I earn enough money to put me within the top 10% in my country, so, obviously, someone who earns minimum wage is a real barrier.
Depends on stage of the relationship - There could be a stage of joint accounts and sharing household/family costs but that is from a domestic duty perspective - Actually how much they have or earn would be low down my considerations, their attitude to it would be more revealing
I voted A
Even if they have a little bit of money, as long as they're responsible with it, I don't mind. i'm not going to be with someone if they're just too lazy to work or they blow their entire check on useless shit. Especially if they're gonna ask me for money all the time. Not gonna happen.
I voted maybe a little. Because I would like him to be economically independent, and I would be worried if I had to pay all for him and he didn't even tried to make an effort to take at least the responsabilities that only belong to him. I want things to be the more 50/50. I don't care if I put 60 and he 40 or vice versa. I just don't want to feel he's with me just to live at my expense. I expect him to expect the same economical independence from my part.
I'd care enough to know that he has a job and that he can pay for his expenses, that's it. Unless we're married, I don't need to know your yearly income.
No I make my own money dont need his.. if he wanted to know how much I made id be like you love me if I was rich or poor the same right? He says no id leave even if I was rich cause money comes and goes if he just wants my money he can go find another person to be with
Voted C. You should definitely care about your S/O s money, especially if your an oldster like me. Younger folks can make decisions based on potential lifestyle choices, but in your late thirties and forties, being broke or in debt basically closes off a lot of options for you and can make your life and by extension your relationship, pretty difficult. If your not thinking about it at all, then I think you are setting yourself up for a very hard road. Hope he/she is worth it.
Depends on the girl. If she is a cheapskate who is only leeching off me while always mocking me for earning too little for both of us, I will clearly make it a dealbreaker.
I voted B. I do not earn enough for two people to live comfortably therefore my boyfriend should have some sort of a job, to be able to pay his own bills.
I don't want someone with money for the money, but rather I prefer someone who is financially responsible and can take care of himself, someone who doesn't depend on others. I am that way, I aim to be completely self sufficient and responsible so I don't have to depend on someone else. I look for that maturity and independence in a partner.
That she has money, would matter in the sense, that it would indicate how well she managed her money.
I only care how he manages his money, I know how to save my money, I only go clothes shopping when I have more money in the bank. Spend less then what you earned. If you saved A LOT of money then don’t go overboard with shopping.
I only care how he manages his money. I'm very frugal so it's important that he not be a big spender.
Only to the extent it had an impact on our life together.
Money doesn't make you happy, i would rather be broke living paycheck to paycheck with a woman that i adore and can have a laugh with, than a stuck up money orientated hoe.
I want to know about their spending habits and career goals. Beyond that it isn't a huge factor.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to be mad if my wife just turned up with a billion dollars, but I am not upset that she only has the money I give her.
No, but I do care about how much she spends. I know people who live comfortably on $30K and others who cannot make ends meet on $200K. I will take the former over the latter any time.
It's not something I care about but of course if a person i'm gonna get serious with has a lot of money that's a good thing because we wouldn't have to struggle with economy.
Ehh just enough so they could live I guess, depends on the situation.
Money tells a lot about their character. Are they a successful person? Intelligent person? Lazy person? Stupid person? Well earning money is a game in life. And I’m not settling for no loser. I need a winner.
Yes.Not because I am greedy, but it tells a lot about a person if they have some savings or are totally broke all the time.
I voted C. If we’re going to be together, I can’t cover every large expense and I might not make enough for both of us to live comfortably. He needs to make enough that we can live well together.
Not really, so long as it’s enough to support herself even without me
I just wantb him to have enough for us to live comfortably
If she’s broke, I couldn’t support the both of us. If she makes as much as me, I’m content
Yes but it's not a dealbreaker. If we end up living together he needs to be able to pay his half of the bills on time most of the time. He also needs to be financially responsible.
Only that she can stand on her own feet and makes her own money. That's all.
I wouldn't want a relationship where if we go anywhere am paying for everything
I don't care about how much disposable income she has. I do care if she's in debt and makes bad financial decisions..
Hell nah.. money ain't shit.. gotta be rich in spirit
Not as long as they weren't in debt and knew how to manage money
Well, I care how much I have. And my money is kinda her money, too, right?
As long as she is doing something with her life I don't really care how much money she makes.
B. I want him to contribute financially but he doesn't have to make more money than me or anything. So long as he is hard working and not a bum, we g.
Yes, it's time women start paying for all a man's shit and we become the gold diggers.
She can be rich or poor but she better not be lazy and not have a job.
To a certain extent. If he’s a lazy bum who can’t take care of himself, then nope. I refuse to take care of a man child. He needs to have an income most of the time. Getting laid off is different.
Never cared. I married him for him not what he earned. I'd be with him on the streets lol.
Seems filmy not practical
@G_oogle_Y_i_ndians_r Love wasn't meant to be practical
A bit, in this economy you can't usually live on one income, especially with kids
How much? No.I care about how they manage the money. This tells me a lot about our compatibility.
I don’t want someone who’s homeless. I want someone who has a job and can support themselves. They don’t need to support me. I. e. my boyfriend 😊
He needs a job... FULL time if it doesn’t pay enough. I look for consistency. Can he hold his own? I’m good.
Dated mine for ages just fine without knowing 🤷♀️
Of course. The more the better!Sex and money is what makes the world go 'round. ;)
Nope not at all cause she will become a housewife which means she won't be related to any financial matter...
Yes, not because I'm a gold digger or something, but I have some standards.
I have money it's fine
As long as it's not a large negative number...
Nope. I only care how much money I have
Only if it's negative
Nope, not at all. I have enough.
I think i found one that makes this question true
I wish she did
yes. his money is my money
How's that !!
@Djaay I'm looking rich man. so I don't even need to work. so I concern how much he earn.
What would I get in return?
@Djaay everything you want except money haha
Ok , and that entails what exactly ?
@Djaay why so many questions
I want a clear pic of my investment potecial...
@Djaay you're too old to invest 😂
Accually I'm already happily married to a 21year old. I found her and offered her the same thing as you would like. Just remember there's a big difference between me offering and someone gold digging.
@Djaay old guys are easy to offer something.. but young guys unable to do that.
Not always... I was financially retired at age 18 .
@Djaay no one retired at that age
I did and still am. Then was a gift , now from my own earnings.
@Djaay most guys just about to enter college.
As I did myself back then. But I get your point. The problem with your opinion is knowone ever is entitled to anyone's money for any reason. Selling yourself for a portion of his worth , is just prostitution plain and simple.
@Djaay love is meaningless
Love isn't a belief. It's an emotion.
@Djaay it's same
yes I care
Nope. Only how it affects them.
Yeah she should be able to support herself
I'm a black widower
not at all
I'm a guy, so no.
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