Okay so long story short I got out of a very toxic 4 1/2 year relationship which was very serious. I unexpectedly started dating this new guy 3 months later. He is everything I could have hoped for. Respectful, kind, caring, emotional, and honest. I truly believe I love him.. but I can’t seem to break that connection with my ex I find myself texting him, and stopping at his house. I’m honest with my new boyfriend when he asks about him... I can tell it’s putting a strain on our relationship but I can’t seem to heal from my 4 year relationship and I find myself constantly conflicted. I know it’s hurting my new boyfriend and that’s not what I want because he’s such a good guy... what do I do?