no girls should approach the guy. its easier for them and its not a loss of power really. it demonstrates confidence. getting in line when their are 5 guys around a girl is not something a quality guy does. its that simple. and anything else is kinda like stalking.
Its not about power for me, its about reality. I guess I should rephrase, if a woman is just looking for sex then fine approach away no problem but if a woman is looking for a relationship its not a smart move.Most men are nice or most men have trouble turning women down even if they don't like them that way if there is a hope of sex lol. So when a woman approaches and the man is not interested men rarely say "no I'm not interested", however women will, saves a lot of time and heartache.
really? lol. the guys who chase are chasing sex. the guys who don't are indifferent to it. ie they are well supplied with options.
Dont get me wrong there are situations where it is OK for a woman to approach, but generally I dont. I like men that approach because I know for a fact they are physically attracted to me and not that they just went for it because sex is a possibility since its now obvious that I am attracted to him.Just me but men go through phases in life and I think its up to them to approach the kind of woman that correlates with the phase they are in so there's no misunderstandings
plus I'm old fashioned.I want a man not afraid to be a leader.Most relationships that end, end exactly how they started lol.Ask anyone or think back to your break ups.He was shy,what a surprise you're having communication problems,you approached him what a surprise he waits for you to take the lead on everything,you picked him up what a surprise he has not motivation to get a car or anything else that you already have,you paid what a surprise he doesn't plan to solely support the family SHOCKER !
haha OK. just don't complain if the shallow guys use you like a cheap hotel. the quality guys have a hard time being that cheesy.lol
lol I didn't say approach me in a cheesy way lol. good luck to you too. Guaranteed the girl that approaches you has approached others, so have fun with your "confident" petri dish lmbo. Cause most men don't turn a woman down, they already know she likes them and just have to play their cards right long enough for sex which sadly these days isn't long.
lol. so not true. the girl that talks to me may talk to many. but she gives it up to few. I got high standards and good taste in women. I don't give it up to many either. I certainly don't chase. lol.
wow you're not as young as you sound.Its not about your judge of character.There are many classy women that have been tricked, fallen for the wrong guy and made mistakes in their past.So just because she is refined by the time she gets to you doesn't mean she didn't learn her lesson from past experiences.Im curious if you would tell your possible future daughter to approach a man?Or if you heard the story from your future daugthers boyfriend that your daughter walked up to a random man?
well 1 I don't hold a girls past against her. I judge her on what I find. and I am good at judging. 2 my daughter would be smart enough to depend on her own intuition and outgoing enough to meet people through conversations she initiated instead of falling victim to the row of pick up artists. to be fair though you are changing the subject to parenting. and that's not something I've experienced. I do know how guys think though. and I've got a good history of girl friends.
Men that just chase end up with whatever comes their way adn you'll find that the women that approach as actually the exact oppossite of confident when you get to know them. A confident woman is OK being led by a man and head of the household etc. A confident woman is also OK if a guy she likes doesn't approach her because that means he already decided she's not the one for him hence she accepts that makes him not the man for her.
I don't have kids either but if I realistically think about my future daughter coming to me and I wouldn't give her advice to approach men.I agree with you that I would give her advice on how to give signals that she likes someone and talk and hold conversation (not necessarily outgoing because that's a persoanlity trait that's her choice if she is or not).Your ideas are great but not realistic.I don't blame you cause I think most men think like your last comment.however, ALL women have fallen victim
i respectfully disagree. the problem with your generalising is that it is refering to people I know. I've dated many cool girls that initiated the convo with me. a woman that is depending on a quality guy to approach her is an idiot. I'm also friends with a lot of women. a lot of times in my past I've met relationship seeking girl while I was single and I wasn't looking for one. I always friend them genuinely until they come to me. quality girls who don't go 50/50 get deleted. quality guys don't chase.
Well, good luck to you. I don't disagree that either way we both could meet cool people.What I am saying is that more likely than not its not best for a woman to chase a man.I agree with you that 50/50 is necessary soon after meeting I just don't think upfront.You are not the only one that's had experiences.You haven't given one reason why you don't chase?Anywho, this is where my end of the conversation ends. I don't do name calling. I'm not an idiot cause I have a different opinion than you.Good luck
thats not what I meant. I was talking in general. but yeh I think we've both covered the basis of our respective arguments. nice talking to you. good night.
How come more females can't be like you? If you do the choosing...you're more likely to get what you want. In this case...u got yourself a dude. :)
And guys don't?
they need to feel needed. There's a difference.Guys feel strong, powerfull, rich and like superman when they are needed by a woman. This is already after begining a relationship innitialy.
I wouldn't know. I've only been liked online. That's why I asked in the first place.
No that would be a girls must have list strong, powerful, rich and like superman.
Best answer by far.
damn. he speaketh the truth. best answer. READ THIS WOMEN. HERE SPEAKS A REAL MAN. THE ONE BEHIND THE CROWD OF PICK UP ARTISTS AIMING FOR A SHAG. THE ONE WHO CANT BE ARSED TO DEGRADE HIMSELF BY TALKING TO BITCHES WHO PLAY THE CROWD OF IDIOTS. well said.
urgh just found out about this guy. can't believe I even talked to this wierdo
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Yeah but realistically, very attractive women don't have to pursue men because they have other options. And most are too lazy to pursue a man if they want him, and will settle for the weaker bidder
i guess they will make a good gay friend then.
lol Those guys fail.