I am in college I have met some girls that I really liked for their personalities but not appearance. They really liked me and I liked them but I never kissed them because I wasn't physically attracted, only attracted to their personality. Because I never dated in high school, I have very little wisdom as to how I should pick my first girlfriend.
I feel like I want a true relationship but I feel like I will only end up choosing a girl for her appearance. I feel like an average personality and good looks is better than "soul mate" but average looks :/ ?
In other words I feel like its better to focus on physical appearance because most pretty girls end up being interesting/fun and loving anyway...
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Well it can be tricky. Everything in the universe has tradeoffs including a picking a significant others. There are some really beautiful girls that are deep, intelligent, and friendly but they are not widely available. You're not shallow for looking for a physically attractive girlfriend. We all pretty much do that - it's in our nature as people (yes, women look for physically attractive boyfriends).
In my experience there's a happy medium. I've had some really cute and smart girlfriends. The "beautiful" ones I've dated were a little screwed up because they saw themselves pretty much as only being worthwhile for their looks. Not saying they're all like that, but many are either that way or stuck up.
My advice is to go with your gut. If you find an amazing looking girl who bores you, probably shouldn't go beyond a little dating. But it's equally bad to get involved with someone you're not physically attracted to if it's going to be a sexual relationship. It WILL become a problem if you're not into each others' bodies, plain and simple.
You're the only person that can decide how much you're willing to give on the personality vs. looks scale (and again, in many cases those two things aren't necessarily in opposition).3