I'm mixed and was raised in 2 different types of households growing up.
My mother is an American-Christian and my father is an Arab- Muslim. Both sides are pretty religious but my father side is a little more to the extreme( not in a bad way though). Anyways if you are aware of the rules of a Muslim then you know that their is no such thing as dating. So Boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship, sex before marriage thing doesn't happen. They are more of arranged marriages.
Well I lived with my mother side until I was 12 then ended up moving with my father. I lived overseas with him so I learned a lot about the culture and why they live the way they do. I'm 21 years old now and I recently moved back with my mother side of the family.
Now that I'm old enough to make my own decisions, the arrange marriage thing Doesn't work well with me, so I want to start dating. Anyways because I grew up in a secluded household, dating for me is really scary. I don't think I know how.. Lol.
Another thing is, would I really find someone who is willing to even give me a chance, like if the relationship gets serious will they be willing to stay without sex?( I still believe in the NO SEX before marriage thing). I don't know how to be in a relationship so I don't want the fact that if I think something is not going right with me I'm considered childish because of a decision.
Another thing is because of me being secluded I'm not quite comfortable going out on certain types of dates.
Do you think I'm even ready to date?
PLEASE HELP ME!
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I think that whenever you meet a guy you need to be open and
honest about your situation and your life. Everyone has different
lifestyles and you need to find a guy that understands if not feels
the same way. Many people (men AND women) will not stay in a
relationship if there is no sex these days. So that is normal really and
if something doesn't work out because of it that is not your fault, and that
does not make you childish. It's your beliefs and values and you just need
to stick to them and carry yourself in a confident way no matter what you
really are feeling.
There are plenty things you can do on dates besides sex. To me a relationship
is connecting with another person on all levels and finding out about each other.
You can go out and do things, or it can be simple like hanging out at home
together. I think only you can decide if you are ready or not though because its a
You just need to think about a few things like if you are ready to open up to another
person. You will have to communicate, its so important that you do, because the person
you date has to understand you and know where you are coming from. They need to
understand why you feel the way you do and why you do the things you do. If its the right
person he will stay around even if you don't have sex, and he will like that you can open
up to him.
If you have specific questions you can message me on here and I'll answer them
the best I can.0