Would you understand if someone said that to you?
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A first date being heavily planned? Isn't it something like meeting for coffee? Lunch? A drink at a bar? Why suffer? First dates should always be short so there are easy exits... If at any point you are "suffering" it's time for first aid in the form of an exit.
@Screenwriter I can't disagree. I guess my point is if you are dumb enough to set yourself up for a long date with someone you barely know then you should suffer through that date so you can give yourself a teachable moment. I am sure you won't do that to yourself again! LOL
OK. Let's not say dumb. Maybe inexperienced. There are quite a few people who say they've never had a bad date. Once they do. They may cut future dates short, as you say...
@Screenwriter I am a dating coach and very experienced but I can do some dumb things myself. So there is a difference! It can go either way for sure!
How do you expect to get to know someone you don't know aside of spending time with them? And how would you know in advance whether you will have a rotten time or the time of your life?
@ElijahTheMan You can do it the right way. I would plan a coffee date next to a great brunch spot. If I like them and they like me I would invite them to lunch. If she is bat shit crazy then I am outta there for a price of coffee! Just be smart about your time.
Never say something like some other time indicating there is a chance you are interested. Give finality to the meeting. I'm sorry I'm not interested. Good luck. This isn't working. Thank you. Goodbye.
I'm not ending it tho. I'd go out with her but plan for something fun unlike the last time which would have been boring
It is far more disrespectful to drag on a date that isn't succeeding for you. You can be polite and end a date early with the truth. Thank you for your time. This isn't working for me. I'm leaving. Good night. Pay your bill and go. You don't waste the date's time and you waste no more of yours. That's clean as a whistle.
Yes, that would be more acceptable. But sometimes a person has to familiar with you and the situation and needs time to be funny and relaxed and so on. And if you judge too fast you could ruin the start of a good relation with him/her.
I'm not sayin' ten minutes and wham bam! But if after a half hour to an hour it's not going well, it's time to stay or should you go evaluation. You might NOT call it decidely quits and say you'll text them about a further date, so you can think about it. But some first dates die early and should be put to rest on the spot. It's totally up to your personality and your evaluation of theirs along with yours. I met three men in two week's time. The first seemed OK, but I could tell he was very uncomfortable with my converational style. I didn't mind it. It was a first meeting. He minded it a lot and never called me. A second man spent the entire conversation speaking about his halfway house for alcoholics that he seemed highly emotionally involved in, and I was bored by, and told me how beautiful his eyes were, as he was told my many people over the years. I found his living situation overly dramatic and he dominated the conversatoin with that alone. I thought he might be someone to see movies with, but nothing else. He didn't call me either. The final person seemed relaxed and we had a great give and take conversation from the word go; He was as interested as I was and we went out for awihuke, You just never know... I misjudged the first two as being interested because I cut them some slack. I spent an hour with the first two. Two hours with the last. I spent longer with the last because we were enjoying ourselves. But it seems an hour was enough for the first two to nix me. I don't think it takes too long...
OK. I understand you. :)
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