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This isn't going as I'd hoped. Thank you for your time. Goodbye. Pay for whatever you've consumed and exit. Quick, polite and to the point. Take care of any part of a bill you might've tallied. Get away. You don't have to hurt anyone's feelings. You delete them from your phone if they're in it. You block any responses. If it's a first meeting, normal people should understand and let it go.
Would you understand if someone said that to you?
“I think this isn’t going anywhere, I’ll pay for dinner, let’s Call it good”
Believe it or not, I'll actually tell the truth. If the date is boring, I'll say that it is boring and that we're probably not compatible. Thank her for her time, pay my bill and move on. No problem. I don't understand why people are afraid of voicing the truth.
This is the best answer you can get.
I don't make up excuses, I simply point out the issue, they can adjust or simply call it. No problem in them wondering why I don't call or ghost them, they made the decision that we didn't match.
Tell them you need to get home a little early because you have work or an appointment in the morning. Or you're tired and not feeling social.Or fake a bad headache or illness (stomach ache from something you ate).Then the next day, politely tell them you enjoyed their company, but don't see anything developing between the two of you.
I say you suffer through it for planning something so long and tedious... use it as an educational moment!
A first date being heavily planned? Isn't it something like meeting for coffee? Lunch? A drink at a bar? Why suffer? First dates should always be short so there are easy exits... If at any point you are "suffering" it's time for first aid in the form of an exit.
@Screenwriter I can't disagree. I guess my point is if you are dumb enough to set yourself up for a long date with someone you barely know then you should suffer through that date so you can give yourself a teachable moment. I am sure you won't do that to yourself again! LOL
OK. Let's not say dumb. Maybe inexperienced. There are quite a few people who say they've never had a bad date. Once they do. They may cut future dates short, as you say...
@Screenwriter I am a dating coach and very experienced but I can do some dumb things myself. So there is a difference! It can go either way for sure!
How do you expect to get to know someone you don't know aside of spending time with them? And how would you know in advance whether you will have a rotten time or the time of your life?
@ElijahTheMan You can do it the right way. I would plan a coffee date next to a great brunch spot. If I like them and they like me I would invite them to lunch. If she is bat shit crazy then I am outta there for a price of coffee! Just be smart about your time.
"I'm not feeling this. Let's respect my time and yours and can it an evening. Thank you for the evening."
"Listen, this has been great, but whatever the fuck I ate is making me feel like I'm about to have the Hersey Squirts, so I gotta get going."
I've never had a boring date. I always make an effort to do something we both enjoy. I’ll substitute boring for rude though because I’ve had a couple of these.Those girls who are more interested in their phones or are clearly distracted for a large portion of the date. I straight up tell her the truth. “I really appreciate you coming out with me tonight but I’m not enjoying myself. I want to end this date early and head home.”If she asks why I’ll tell her why. If she doesn’t care and agrees, we go our separate ways. Then they’ll ask why I ghosted them the next time I see them in public 😭🙄. Some people don’t know any better so there have been girls who apologized and stepped their game up after I told them why I wanted to leave. As far as a boring “date” goes. It’s never boring if you’re out with someone you like. If a girl I’m dating isn’t saying anything interesting about herself I’ll try to get her to talk about experiences she’s had. Storytelling and what not. I don’t usually end a date if a girl isn’t being “interesting” but shows interest. Some people are more of the show not tell type.
If i am doing a job and during job time:I asked my friend to call me. and then i said, Ooh shit, the boss is getting so angry with me i submitted my report, or my proposal it has some minor mistakes sorry dear i have to go other wise i'll loose my jobIf its night time again i fake my call: ooh sorry i had a night shift i got to go. Or my brother called me he had a fight with some one, or some one is not feeling well. If i am a businessman:Aah my secretary called me i had an appointment fixed with my clients and i simply forget. See you soon
It’s a hard pill to swallow for a lot of people but the easiest and most effective way is to simply say sorry but I’m not feeling a connection and can’t see things coming together between us. As a guy, I would much rather this harsh truth than some half baked excuse that we can easily see through but decide to go along with so that our ego isn’t damaged.
I have been there ! I was on a date with David K. ! David took me to eat at - Greenwood Park Mall - just 30 minutes from where I live and we were sitting in the - Food Court - there and David started teaching me the bible ( I am a Christian and read the bible myself ) but he got me so bored that I put my head in my hand and I just sat there listening to him and then finally we left : D !
When I was younger I used to make excuses to get away from a date, mostly when my guts were telling me something is off. Back then I always told a friend where I will be and had them call me to give me an excuse to leave.A friend of mine though had the ultimate tool. Her phone (I don't remember the model) had a self-call button. You pressed it and the phone brought up a fake call with whatever name you wanted. Mind you, this was before smartphones and apps.Nowadays I simply point it out.
I forgot to feed the dog... brb!!!Lol... that was a joke... I've never done that, and never left a lady for being boring or the opposite... blind dates are not meant to be Boring... not much talking neeed to be done... only time I wanna hear her voice is when in bed and enjoying herself as she lets me give her something worth talking about the morning after
Always carry cash so if you need to leave or it's just not working out you can drop your fair share and say, "listen I'm not really having a great time here so I'm going to leave. Here's my share. Have a good day/evening/night"Walk out.
I wouldn't come up with an excuse. I would simply tell the person I am not feeling this date we're on right now and I would also say would you mind if we do something else? I would not make some kind of lie just to relieve my annoyance. I would rather have both of us be satisfied, feeling that the date wasn't a dud.
Check your cellphone and say martians are calling you and you have to go back to the mother ship now https://youtu.be/KTc3PsW5ghQ
This is why you never plan a long first date. Just Coffee or a drink makes it easy to leave in half an hour or less, or stay if it's going well. Dinner is too long -- you are trapped for an hour or more.
Set you’re phone alarm. When it goes off answer it like it’s a phone call. Mention you have a family emergency and that you have to take off. Or just be straight up and say you gotta go this date is just boring
I do not usually make excuses. I just straight up tell the woman that the date is not going well, pay for the tab/event cost and leave.
Be sure to carry cash so you can avoid the awkward wait while they run your tab. Just say, "I'm glad we met but I'm not feeling a love connection." Pay your part of the tab and politely leave.
I don't date and never will , but hypothetically , I would be my blunt , honest , self and simply state , " We are not a match , this is clearly not going well , I'm going & I wish you all the best " . Honesty is the best policy !!
I forgot I got work early in morning. End date early. Though one time I walked out she didn’t notice until 1 am I told her looks like her phone was more interesting to her then I was and stuck her with the bill.
My dates are never boring. If she doesn't want to have fun she can excuse herself at any time and I won't be offended and I will continue to enjoy myself. Nothing sucks more than being stuck with someone with whom you feel no connection.
There’s always honesty: you know, this is not working out...
The boil on my butt just burst I have to go sit in a hot tub.
If you can't get through 30-45min with someone because its boring you shouldn't make plans with them in the first place. No matter what excuse you make itll be obvious your bailing.
Pretend to use the bathroom and leave. Use the old have a friend call you and make up a scenario where you have to leave trick. Be straight up and explain this isn't working out and leave.
Look at your phone, make wide eyes, scream "oh fuck!" then grab your stuff and run! xD
I wouldn’t. I would just finish the date just to be polite. Then, I’d text him to say that I’m not interested anymore.
I'd just be honest with them. I'll end the date saying I have to go home then tell them I didn't have a good time.
I have work tomorrow Stick it out because it could surprise you Ask them things Go to the toilet and ask your friend to call you and say they are stuck somewhere and need a lift quick or whatever
Tell him you think you've picked up a stomach flu, and dry-reach (pretend to gag) and excuse yourself. ;)
If I'm bored he'll be able to say by my face and surely would cut short the date himself. I can't hide my face expression when I'm bored.
there was this guy i met on dating app. I knew our date was boring bcoz of our differences and we obviously werent on the same page. And then he suddenly told me his friend needed him and it was emegergency. He left without paying for his meal.
If I'm bored he'll be able to say by my face and surely would cut short the date himself. I can't hide my face expression when I'm bored.
I would just tell her I'm not feeling good. That would be sort of true since I would not be feeling good to continue a date I'm not interested in any longer.
You be polite and sit it through or try to make it a bit more fun.
I doubt I'd ever be bored. But if I was boring, as awkward as it might be for them to tell me, I'd want to know so we could just end the date and not waste anymore time.
"Sorry, but my Irritable Bowel Syndrome is acting up and I need to get home to my toilet".
My hemorrhoids are acting up again!!!🔥😲🔥😲🔥😲🔥😲
Just tell the truth that simple but do it in a considerate way so the person's feelings are not too hurt
Never give a an excuse always give the truth otherwise it's disrespectful on either side to lie to them. Truth hurts and lies worse.
One time I said my mom just needed me home urgently and that I had a great time and will see him soon.(Obviously never lol)
Text kids mom an say send me bail out.. Emergency kid needs ya..
I just 45 on the table and say let's play Russian rullete you go first
I would challenge myself and try to bring some life into the date its easy to walk away and not try
Sorry Im busy with mia familia tonight.. catch u some other time.
Never say something like some other time indicating there is a chance you are interested. Give finality to the meeting. I'm sorry I'm not interested. Good luck. This isn't working. Thank you. Goodbye.
I'm not ending it tho. I'd go out with her but plan for something fun unlike the last time which would have been boring
Ask her if she wants to go because I was saving that seat for my friend
If im get bored i just say i need to go thank you for everything.
I would say, "I am not enjoying our conversation and would like to leave now." I believe honesty is the best policy and excuses like lies are toxic.
If I really don't want to see her I would just say this is not working and go home
I'll go straight to the point, am not interested anymore I hope you find someone like you.
I would never terminate a date before it ends. That would be unrespectful and very dirty.
It is far more disrespectful to drag on a date that isn't succeeding for you. You can be polite and end a date early with the truth. Thank you for your time. This isn't working for me. I'm leaving. Good night. Pay your bill and go. You don't waste the date's time and you waste no more of yours. That's clean as a whistle.
Yes, that would be more acceptable. But sometimes a person has to familiar with you and the situation and needs time to be funny and relaxed and so on. And if you judge too fast you could ruin the start of a good relation with him/her.
I'm not sayin' ten minutes and wham bam! But if after a half hour to an hour it's not going well, it's time to stay or should you go evaluation. You might NOT call it decidely quits and say you'll text them about a further date, so you can think about it. But some first dates die early and should be put to rest on the spot. It's totally up to your personality and your evaluation of theirs along with yours. I met three men in two week's time. The first seemed OK, but I could tell he was very uncomfortable with my converational style. I didn't mind it. It was a first meeting. He minded it a lot and never called me. A second man spent the entire conversation speaking about his halfway house for alcoholics that he seemed highly emotionally involved in, and I was bored by, and told me how beautiful his eyes were, as he was told my many people over the years. I found his living situation overly dramatic and he dominated the conversatoin with that alone. I thought he might be someone to see movies with, but nothing else. He didn't call me either. The final person seemed relaxed and we had a great give and take conversation from the word go; He was as interested as I was and we went out for awihuke, You just never know... I misjudged the first two as being interested because I cut them some slack. I spent an hour with the first two. Two hours with the last. I spent longer with the last because we were enjoying ourselves. But it seems an hour was enough for the first two to nix me. I don't think it takes too long...
OK. I understand you. :)
Your an awesome person but I'm not feeling a connection here
Text ur friend n tell them to call you n tell them its an emergency so you gotta go
I would just tell them straight that this is not going well. I dislike making excuses
Noexcuw needed... Be yourself and say it doesn't work
Sorry I'm allergic to dumb inappropriate conversation if I don't leave now. I mite use a melee attack approach on you. Prepare to be stunned !
men should never date women only fuck them and leave
Make then awkward if you are looking for fun 😂
I need a shit. And don't come back.
Two birds or turds with one stoneMentioning you have to shit will gross her out and turn her off to youYou get to make an escape both parties happy
And you get to take a shit
Is it that hard to just tell the truth?
I have honestly never had a boring date
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