Met a guy, date 4 and he wants to cook for me at his place. Is this just something nice or does he want to do it hoping for sex?

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Answer 1

0112358 | 3.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Both something nice and a step up in physical intimacy. Whether that’s straight to sex I couldn’t say. Some people seem to date and have the odd kiss and then be like “time for sex” while others build towards it more. But date 4 and at home is a normal way to create an opportunity for more than a quick kiss.

Answer 2

ecfresh | 3.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Likely sex. But we can’t tell. Have you made out with him? Is it building to sex or have you all been hands off? And if it’s building do you feel safe enough emotionally to have sex now?

Asker

1 y
We only had our first proper kiss on the last date. I won’t be having sex with him any time soon
ecfresh

1 y
So then no, he’s just cooking dinner to build romance and have more one on one time with you. You could offer a bottle of wine
Asker

1 y
Yeah I did think of that... I’m a bit scared he might want to fast track though...
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ecfresh

1 y
Why be scared? All you have to say is no, and let him know you want it to be a special time when you feel safe
Asker

1 y
Because my mama made me 😂thanks for your advice - much appreciated
ecfresh

1 y
Ha ha, good for your mom, she did her job well
Asker

1 y
So I just got back from the date. He made a massive effort with laying the table and making a home cooked meal and it was really sweet. We sat on the couch talking and then he went in for the kiss. Before it got too steamy I pulled away and told him I liked him but wasn’t ready for that yet and wanted to wait until I knew him better. I also told him I wasn’t dating anyone else. He said he liked me and it was fine and that he wasn’t dating anyone else either. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see! Wanted to let you know 😂
ecfresh

1 y
Good job knowing your boundaries and clearly communicating them. Happy to hear he is giving effort to pursue you. I am guessing he will make date # 5 special as well. Enjoy this courting phase, sounds sweet and romantic to me
Asker

1 y
Ahh thank you. I’m proud of myself for saying what needed to be said. I actually suggested our next date because he told me he was interested in this place and I’ve been a lot. Wanted to actually do something together.

Answer 3

Asker

We only had our first proper kiss on the last date. I won’t be having sex with him any time soon

Answer 4

ecfresh

So then no, he’s just cooking dinner to build romance and have more one on one time with you. You could offer a bottle of wine

Answer 5

Asker

Yeah I did think of that... I’m a bit scared he might want to fast track though...

Answer 6

ecfresh

Why be scared? All you have to say is no, and let him know you want it to be a special time when you feel safe

Answer 7

Asker

Because my mama made me 😂thanks for your advice - much appreciated

Answer 8

ecfresh

Ha ha, good for your mom, she did her job well

Answer 9

Asker

So I just got back from the date. He made a massive effort with laying the table and making a home cooked meal and it was really sweet. We sat on the couch talking and then he went in for the kiss. Before it got too steamy I pulled away and told him I liked him but wasn’t ready for that yet and wanted to wait until I knew him better. I also told him I wasn’t dating anyone else. He said he liked me and it was fine and that he wasn’t dating anyone else either. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see! Wanted to let you know 😂

Answer 10

ecfresh

Good job knowing your boundaries and clearly communicating them. Happy to hear he is giving effort to pursue you. I am guessing he will make date # 5 special as well. Enjoy this courting phase, sounds sweet and romantic to me

Answer 11

Asker

Ahh thank you. I’m proud of myself for saying what needed to be said. I actually suggested our next date because he told me he was interested in this place and I’ve been a lot. Wanted to actually do something together.

Answer 12

Screenwriter | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

What kind of vibe does he give off? And, it doesn't matter if he wants sex or not. You can say no and go home. Arrive in your own vehicle so you can leave if you need to. Or don't go at all if you're not ready for this. Make a different kind of date.

Answer 13

CindyRuns | 188 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Decent chance he's looking for sex, but, it's still nice to have a guy cook for you !!!

Answer 14

YingKim | 377 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Impossible to know. Ask him to cook at your place. You will be more comfortable there.

Answer 15

Optymistyk | 129 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

If it's your 4th date he's certainly hoping for sex but is probably shy. So if you act like you want sex you'll get sex, but if you don't he'll just cook some food, you'll watch a nice movie together and he'll go home

Answer 16

Jonathan_T | 75 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

So, you are not hoping for sex? Is it a bad thing if he is? Probably wouldn't impact on his cooking skills..

Asker

1 y
I want to know him better before that

Answer 17

Asker

I want to know him better before that

Answer 18

WalterRadio

Guru

That is probably a keep the option open date, meaning he will have sex with you if you are willing, but he isn't fully expecting it.

Answer 19

harvest | 169 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Don't get me wrong. He is probably trying to be nice as well...
But he wants to fuck you that's for sure xd

Answer 20

xyz94 | 201 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Depends a lot on the guy and the times he's suggested for the dinner.

Answer 21

Liam_Hayden | 3.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

The standard seems to be sex by the third date, so...

Answer 22

NeroClaudius

Xper 3

He's been hoping for sex since he lay his eyes on you... So is hoping for sure, but I doubt it will be a deal breaker if nothing happens.

Answer 23

PondyPand

Master

Probably a bit of both if it's date 4.

Answer 24

jayebaby88

Xper 1

It's always sex with men honey. ALWAYS.

Answer 25

Buckzor | 905 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Probably both

Asker

1 y
Yeah I guess

Answer 26

Asker

Yeah I guess

Answer 27

Rippersavage | 96 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

It could go either way but it's probably both

Met a guy, date 4 and he wants to cook for me at his place. Is this just something nice or does he want to do it hoping for sex?

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