Girls can want many things in a guy but if a guys wants in girls he is a control freak. what do you think?

Question

girls demand so many things in a be loyal be handsome , tall etc etc etc. but i guys say i want a beautiful girl suddenly all hell breaks loose

Answer 1

roxbby

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Talking honestly here, I'm aware of this inequality in terms of women's ability to demand more qualities than men's abilities and in my opinion, I don't have an issue. It's a normal human instinct: who doesn't want a good-looking significant other? Like, almost nobody would say "no." (I would imagine the only reason they would say no is because they are scared of being cheated on or they haven't had the best relationships with attractive people, lol.) It's a pathetic and silly truth, but also, I feel like girls kind of do get shamed at the same time, too. When girls talk about how they want someone handsome, they kind of get laughed at, especially if they're, y'know, not really close to that sort of league... I've seen girls who are nowhere close to attractive and when they ask for an attractive significant other, it is seen as silly but I feel that's it's also just the human nature to desire the best. I mean, most people would rather date a 9/10 than a 3/10 unless the 9/10 had some, like, serious issues in terms of personality or behavior. But anyway, I think that the people who are shamed the most for it are the people who aren't attractive. People see it as a joke because the people who are unattractive and are desiring an attractive significant other, well, they seem desperate and most people usually have less sympathy for those not very high on the look-spectrum and for this reason, they're kind of made fun of. I feel like the real reason men would be shamed for it (this might be sexist, I don't know, I'm just making a guess) is because they might not be wording it as well. I can't say that men are worse than women at expressing their thoughts because I have no evidence to back myself up, but I'm just making a guess, I want to just repeat myself on that. I feel like saying, "I love people who are tall and have blue eyes," and, "I only want a boyfriend who is tall and blue-eyed," kind of have a slightly different message, if you get the idea. It might be because of the way men say and the way women say it? I could be false, please correct me. EnjoY the reAdINg!

arefin

1 y
i really don't have any problem that girls demand something in a date or boyfriend . people do have preference this is normal. i also don't have problem 9/10 not dating 3/10 . thats not the problem. i am saying in social media or movements about guys should not look for hot girls or these kind of things. like social justice kind of things. do you getting my points?
roxbby

1 y
Oh, well, I'm just saying that I personally don't mind either and that the people who are usually shamed the most for desiring someone beautiful are they people are unattractive. I also just said that I thought one of the reasons behind men being shamed by society is the actual wording of what they said, and maybe if they sounded more straight-forward which may come off as ill-mannered. I mean, did I answer your question? lol.
roxbby

1 y
*are the people that are
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arefin

1 y
you don't have a problem thats really great. that should be normal . yes guys use bad words. there is no excuse for that. society is shifting in a way that guys should not care about looks.
roxbby

1 y
Talking honestly, yeah. I feel it's the wording. I feel that if a man gives off the vibe, "I don't date girls who aren't attractive," this makes society mad at them. I think it makes sense, it's the wording, but I'm happy society is kind of shaping, too. :)
arefin

1 y
"I don't date girls who aren't attractive," why this should be a problem? i know you said you don't care about this. i am talking about society
roxbby

1 y
It's to an extent, I feel like society kind of just hates people for being narrow. When men give off the vibe by saying they don't want unattractive women, it's kind of seen as rude and that's why society gets mad. I feel like women, under prudence, are also shamed for it, too.
arefin

1 y
if a 3/10 guy says this i would laugh at him. i am also not attractive. but still that guy can dream that. . there is no bad word in it. he can dream of anything. society should not vilify him. people can laugh at him
roxbby

1 y
Okay, I agree on dreaming on that and saying "I would like an attractive girl" but I feel that society gets mad when people begin discriminating and say, "I don't want an unattractive girl," and simply rejects them because they aren't particularly beautiful.
arefin

1 y
guys get the same kind of thing but in a different way. if a guy is less successful he gets criticized. there are many things guys are facing. and yeah girls have to face so many problems in society. we should fix them. but in a relationship people have preference. girls like tall guys. thats a thing guys have no control over. other things can be achieved like success. i am not says girls should not choose tall guys over short one. there was a video i saw long ago there were 3 man of different height one is 5 feet other two was tall. no girl choose the 5 feet one even he was successful. then asked what would make them choose the short guy. the girls reply if the other two guys are murders.. the girls have absolute right not to chooose the short guy. its their preference. it's sad for the short guy but still girls have the choice. then why can a guy says i would date an attractive girl
roxbby

1 y
Okay, I get that. I think maybe because society is just used to allowing women to have that right and restricting men from "having" that right. I think it's just because it's developed into a norm.
arefin

1 y
is it rude to say that i would not date you because you are unattractive. absolutely. i would never say that. not even in the "locker room" . it's just human decency. should everyone be decent? yes they should. but are people decent? no. many people are not. one should say you should be decent don't be a dick. but still if a guy don't want to date a girl because she is not attractive even if the girl is funny smart successful then he can he have that right. do i think he is being a moron. yes he is. looks are not everything. still he should be allowed to do that he should not be vilify just because he rejects that girl. he can be called out as not decent a moron for only seeking for looks.
roxbby

1 y
Okay, I get what you're saying but I guess it's just society and they feel that it's wrong and that they don't understand that people have opinions and that they might not want to date someone because of their looks. Sorry if I sound biased at all. lol
arefin

1 y
this is the problem in society i am talking about . also guys should not be rude and indecent. and no one is above biases. but we try to think above our biases .

Answer 2

arefin

i really don't have any problem that girls demand something in a date or boyfriend . people do have preference this is normal. i also don't have problem 9/10 not dating 3/10 . thats not the problem. i am saying in social media or movements about guys should not look for hot girls or these kind of things. like social justice kind of things. do you getting my points?

Answer 3

roxbby

Oh, well, I'm just saying that I personally don't mind either and that the people who are usually shamed the most for desiring someone beautiful are they people are unattractive. I also just said that I thought one of the reasons behind men being shamed by society is the actual wording of what they said, and maybe if they sounded more straight-forward which may come off as ill-mannered. I mean, did I answer your question? lol.

Answer 4

roxbby

*are the people that are

Answer 5

arefin

you don't have a problem thats really great. that should be normal . yes guys use bad words. there is no excuse for that. society is shifting in a way that guys should not care about looks.

Answer 6

roxbby

Talking honestly, yeah. I feel it's the wording. I feel that if a man gives off the vibe, "I don't date girls who aren't attractive," this makes society mad at them. I think it makes sense, it's the wording, but I'm happy society is kind of shaping, too. :)

Answer 7

arefin

"I don't date girls who aren't attractive," why this should be a problem? i know you said you don't care about this. i am talking about society

Answer 8

roxbby

It's to an extent, I feel like society kind of just hates people for being narrow. When men give off the vibe by saying they don't want unattractive women, it's kind of seen as rude and that's why society gets mad. I feel like women, under prudence, are also shamed for it, too.

Answer 9

arefin

if a 3/10 guy says this i would laugh at him. i am also not attractive. but still that guy can dream that. . there is no bad word in it. he can dream of anything. society should not vilify him. people can laugh at him

Answer 10

roxbby

Okay, I agree on dreaming on that and saying "I would like an attractive girl" but I feel that society gets mad when people begin discriminating and say, "I don't want an unattractive girl," and simply rejects them because they aren't particularly beautiful.

Answer 11

arefin

guys get the same kind of thing but in a different way. if a guy is less successful he gets criticized. there are many things guys are facing. and yeah girls have to face so many problems in society. we should fix them. but in a relationship people have preference. girls like tall guys. thats a thing guys have no control over. other things can be achieved like success. i am not says girls should not choose tall guys over short one. there was a video i saw long ago there were 3 man of different height one is 5 feet other two was tall. no girl choose the 5 feet one even he was successful. then asked what would make them choose the short guy. the girls reply if the other two guys are murders.. the girls have absolute right not to chooose the short guy. its their preference. it's sad for the short guy but still girls have the choice. then why can a guy says i would date an attractive girl

Answer 12

roxbby

Okay, I get that. I think maybe because society is just used to allowing women to have that right and restricting men from "having" that right. I think it's just because it's developed into a norm.

Answer 13

arefin

is it rude to say that i would not date you because you are unattractive. absolutely. i would never say that. not even in the "locker room" . it's just human decency. should everyone be decent? yes they should. but are people decent? no. many people are not. one should say you should be decent don't be a dick. but still if a guy don't want to date a girl because she is not attractive even if the girl is funny smart successful then he can he have that right. do i think he is being a moron. yes he is. looks are not everything. still he should be allowed to do that he should not be vilify just because he rejects that girl. he can be called out as not decent a moron for only seeking for looks.

Answer 14

roxbby

Okay, I get what you're saying but I guess it's just society and they feel that it's wrong and that they don't understand that people have opinions and that they might not want to date someone because of their looks. Sorry if I sound biased at all. lol

Answer 15

arefin

this is the problem in society i am talking about . also guys should not be rude and indecent. and no one is above biases. but we try to think above our biases .

Answer 16

Anonymous

Don't tell them shit. Just do what you do.

When you reject a chick, don't tell them why. All they're gonna do is use it against you anyway.

When you break up with a chick because you're tired of her shit, don't tell her why. Same reason. It just isn't working out.

Always give out the minimum amount of info necessary to get your point across. Be a mystery. Let em wonder. Don't give them ammunition to use against you.

arefin

1 y
i am not talking about any particular relationship. i am talking about overall society. like girls talking about what kind of guys they like or they would date. but then again those kind of girls say he just likes me for my looks. why these kind of double standers
Opinion Owner

1 y
That's what I'm saying. Don't tell them a damn thing. Don't tell them what you're looking for, just go find it. Don't tell them what your goals are, just go do it. A man's biggest mistake is giving out too much info.

And you need to understand women a little better. If a chick says that a man only likes her for her looks, she's not really complaining. She's bragging. If she complains about all the thirsty guys hitting on her... she's bragging. Don't take what women say at face value.

Answer 17

arefin

i am not talking about any particular relationship. i am talking about overall society. like girls talking about what kind of guys they like or they would date. but then again those kind of girls say he just likes me for my looks. why these kind of double standers

Answer 18

Opinion Owner

That's what I'm saying. Don't tell them a damn thing. Don't tell them what you're looking for, just go find it. Don't tell them what your goals are, just go do it. A man's biggest mistake is giving out too much info.

And you need to understand women a little better. If a chick says that a man only likes her for her looks, she's not really complaining. She's bragging. If she complains about all the thirsty guys hitting on her... she's bragging. Don't take what women say at face value.

Answer 19

love77

Xper 1

You have a point bruh! But some problems don't have solutions. We have to live with this issue lol

Answer 20

Anonymous

You do kind of have a point there

Answer 21

maadison

Guru

Talking out of your ass

arefin

1 y
explain

Answer 22

arefin

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Girls can want many things in a guy but if a guys wants in girls he is a control freak. what do you think?

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