When a couple gets in the car together who is supposed to drive? The man or woman?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't think it matters. I usually prefer to do the driving, provided that the guy isn't a backseat driver. I can't stand that; I'm a very safe driver (much better than the vast majority of the people who have acted as backseat drivers while in the car with me), and all someone screaming in my ear and giving conflicting advice does is confuse and distract me, and create a potentially dangerous situation. Honest to God, the next time someone does that or starts harping on my car because it's not a sports car (though it's still very nice and perfect for me), I'm going to dump their ass on the side of the road. Sorry for the rant.

[aicarg]

My boyfriend and I take turns honestly. Especially if we're off on a road trip so that we give eachother a chance to nap. However thinking about it more, he'll drive when we're downtown in the city as I HATE congestion, hate road side parking on busy streets, get so damn confused with where I'm going due to "one way streets"/ "streets where I can't drive through during certain times"/ damn road closures due to construction/a public event, crazy ass pedestrians - it just drives me insane! I tend to drive uptown in the suburban neighborhoods where it's slightly more calm 😬

[jabariw18]

How does it cause fighting when you don't drive? That should not be a fighting issue like at all. Not to judge but I think you need to reevaluate your relationship. Anyway, I personally don't think it matters who drives but when I was with my girlfriend I usually drove. It also depended on where we were going like... if she wanted to go to an event or something, we'd take her car and she would drive. If it was something general like grocery shopping we'd take my car and I'd drive.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you don't drive, IT causes a problem? What is the IT that causes a problem? Are you saying that YOU cause a problem if the guy wants to drive?

[SydneySentinel]

Either. It's nice to have the guy take the wheel, if he so chooses.

[LesterJester]

Can't vote because neither option applies.

Both are fully capable of driving. The problem some have is about the lack of control. As a passenger your safety and the time it takes you to get to point A to point B is in the hands of someone else, and some people have a hard time coping with that lack of control.

You have your way of doing things. You have your way of driving and you have your path set in your mind on how to get to where you're going. The moment someone takes all that away from you or the moment they do something while driving that you weren't expecting or approving, shit hits the fan and you freak out.

Could this be a sign of some underlying trust issues towards your partner?

Perhaps.

If so, then that's a bigger issue than just who drives, as relationships require trust to work and if you don't trust your partner, that's a problem.

My wife and I take turns driving but she drives more often for several reasons.

One is that as a passenger, and her vision, she easily gets motion sickness. Second is that we moved to her country and she knows certain areas and locations better than I. And thirdly, I'm just too fk'n lazy to care who drives.

[normalice]

There was an actual study on this like 20 years ago. And they found that when couples drive together, they tend to chat. If there is no chatting, the genders are indistinguishable (or, women are even slightly better at certian ages).

But if there is chatting, women are more inclined to look at the person they are talking with instead of watching the road. This is, of course, a natural thing, and thus not always true.

[supercutebutt]

I'll drive. A dude is more likely to drive us to some clownish Trump rally. No thank you!

We're going to a Trump rally!

[Nxtawm]

Whoever is the better driver or whoever will bitch the most (about which turn you should've made, you're driving too slow, you could've made that turn, etc.) if they aren't driving.
Of course exception is if one person is really tired, they shouldn't drive then.

[egarcia1360]

Whoever owns the car if each partner has one. Otherwise, it's best to just find an agreement that works for both people. One person might like driving more than the other and/or be better at it, or you could just be in different moods. If you both would like to drive, then just take turns. It doesn't really matter at the end of the day.

[eviegurl]

It depends on who has a dl like I don't have a valid driver's license but have driven lots I've know. How to drive since I was a kid I grew up in the middle of nowhere so had lots of space to drive and am good I just don't hold a permit so my ex she couldn't see well enough a d I would drive all the time at night anyways but it really depends who really cares who's the better driver I would say should drive

[Mikeymike81]

I'd love it if my partner drove more often. I don't give a crap about stereotypes or the perception of society. If they have a driving license then I'm happy for them to get behind the wheel.

Anyone who feels the need to drive has issues with control.

[CreativeMumble]

I'd say the one who owns the car.
If it's a shared car, then just the person who wants to drive.

It also depends on if one likes to drive in the city or drive long rides or whatever.

It all depends, but I wouldn't say it's based on gender.

[Sailor_Jerry61]

Whos car is it? I wouldn't expect a girl to let me drive her car and I would certainly expect to drive my own car. So to answer your question. Whoever owns the car drives the car.

[PartRaptor]

The women should it’s time to for women to start doing things in relationships. Men have had to literally do everything for ever. Women say they want equality so let’s have it

[worldscolide]

Depends on where we are going and the like.. Say for instance my wife knows where it is we are going better than I... I will insist she drives.. When we drive long distances say 2 hours or more, we will take turnes. On that same token my wife usually prefers I drive for some reason..

[winterfox10]

I know that the tradition is that the man drives, but I don't know that anyone cares. I've driven women's cars before, they've driven their cars (I have a manual transmission, so it's not common for a woman to know how to drive my car); it's never made any difference to me.

[Oram52]

It doesn't matter we can take turns, and it can depend on situation as well. But if she's always wanting to drive and be a control freak then obviously not a good thing, and wouldn't be happy. She can cause all the fights she wants I'd still be driving.

[RHK36]

Depends on the destination. Local, doesn't matter. New place or long distance then male driver. Most females sense of direction is nonexistent. Based on my experience they freak out when things go wrong, don't listen to the navigator whether person or GPS. Also too much thinking and lack the ability to commit when needing to make decisions about turns, getting on and off an exit, etc.

[hellacray]

Well depends on how she drives. I've been in cars where the driver braked hella hard. Which indicates to me that person isn't that good. Also how they park or back up like you know if she sucks at driving I probably should take over.

However if I feel like she's pretty good at driving then I would prefer that she drives. I don't really like driving because I hate traffic.

[EmbraceThePain]

If she wants to drive, I’ll let her. To be honest, I don’t enjoy driving lol. I enjoy being driven though

[Rippersavage]

U should've had a third option for it doesn't matter... cuz it really doesn't (at least to me)
But generally who ever owns the car drives it
If u both own the car (like if ur married) then it doesn't matter

[Craftsman]

In my case, it's whoever's car it is. I drive when we are going in my car, and she drives when we are going in her car.
For that reason, I did not vote, since my situation is not covered by the limited "man or woman" options.

[emmily2396]

I prefer the guy drives. I hate driving and i find it stressful. Plus I always hesitate to make moves, I am more cautious than I should and I cause traffic problems by moving so slowly.

[AynonOMouse]

I prefer to drive even when with friends because it is usually too difficult for me to relax when someone else is driving. I don't like how most people drive.

[VIVANT]

Neither as in I don’t see it as a designated job. Splitting it up so no one feels like a work horse is good in my opinion or if one likes it kite they can do it more. I don’t drive so that’s that in my case lol

[AndreasM96]

Well, depends who owns the car, who uses it more often, who has a driver's license, who is going to pick up who... I don't really care about such a stereotype, it's ridiculous really, if my girlfriend wants to drive she can easily ask.

[Screenwriter]

If it's her car, she's going to drive. His, he drives. If one party is tireder than the other, whoever's fresher drives. If one party is excited about driving, let the drive happy person drive. This really shouldn't be an issue. Go with logic.

[spartan55]

My ex had anxiety about certain things, one of which was my driving. Not that I drive unsafe or above the speed limit, it just wasn't her way. So I would say about 3/4 trips she would drive. I didn't mind, it was like having a chauffeur.

[EmmaMary]

Both my husband and I each have our own cars purely for work purposes, however when we go out together I'm more than happy to let him do the driving, unless we're undertaking a long journey whereby we do split it up.

[mobster30]

I said man just cause of me and not based on a stereo type. I can not shut up because I think iam better driver but stupid one for sure (no license). I do it just to have more peaceful. U would think u would learn to shut my mouth

[Jjpayne]

It's equal nowadays, heck id leave it up to her... Technically it's a disadvantage to drive because a passenger gets to relax and use their phone if they want

[themaus]

Lol doesn't really matter, if someone is drunk or tired the other person can take over. Whatever is convenient we need to be more progressive on silly matters such as this. Gender equality starts from the small details such as this.

[MissDawn7961]

I drove David my date in my car to my brother Terry's apartment for David was helping me and my family move my brother into his apartment but after this my male dates did the driving for us

[MikeAndMolly]

Shatter societal gendered expectations.

You do you.

"Who should drive" is who's feeling up to it or the most comfortable with it at the time.

[andreasderjuengere]

The Missus shall drive. So that I can have my drinks, and so that I can lecture her on skillful driving. However: to save time I may volunteer for the final parking... event.
My reality: she likes ME to drive. Can't say why.

[Hamsteroids]

No one is “supposed to”. Usually the man drives but in MY case, whoever’s car it belongs to is the one that drives

[Bman4907]

Who ever owns the car drives unless asked to by the owner specifically. That being said, most of the women I have dated never wanted to drive in the first place for some reason. Except for Beth, she was a surgeon behind the steering wheel.

[blondfrog]

They can both drive together. One used one hand and the other ues their other hand.

[BuckWild]

Duh! The man drives. If the woman drives then it really wouldn't be safe for her to give road head.

[Sevenpointfive]

i've been lucky. i haven't had any shitty women drivers. they'd usually ask me to drive if they didn't want to

[Izumiblu]

I usually have him drive. I tell him that it’s cuz men should drive but it’s actually because he’s a better driver.

[humanearth]

She has me drive and that s fine, but on road trips. I like to be navigator. I can read maps faster then she can.

No GPS for us. We trust paper maps

[Mickey9999]

Doesn’t matter. I don’t find it a sexual role. My late husband drove most of the time only because he saw it as a way to control the radio. And i didn’t like his driving.

[CaptainOverthink]

Whoever owns the car should drive it. Or if you want to drive you can, if he wants to drive he can. Why does it matter, really?

[WalterRadio]

If it is my car, then I drive unless I am teaching a girl how to drive. And if that is the case, I don't use my expensive or high performance cars.

[R_Cakes91]

My boyfriend loves driving so he asks to drive most of the time. I usually only drive when he’s too tired. It works out well as he is a great driver

[13IsALuckyNumber]

No one is supposed to drive. Whoever drives is whatever the couple agrees upon. They could take turns, they could have only one person do it, they could just decide randomly. It all depends on the couple.

[erandal]

Whoever gets to the driving seat first. That is how it works in my house as we both like driving.

[shimmeryns]

I always drive if I'm sending and picking him up from work, he usually drive if we are going out. A balance of both really.

[Riddler1412]

The one that drives better.
In my family it was the mom. She was the better driver, so my dad let her drive, and he did the parking ( because he was better at that ).

[Dolemite510]

How else am I supposed to get road head unless I’m driving? 🤣

[wankiam]

i always drive. not because i have a penis but because im a car guy

[NurseStacy]

Whoever wants to drive should drive.
Hopefully that person is the better driver 😂

[Anpu23]

Usually I drive. My wife doesn't like driving and I do so it comes down to me. I don't mind if she did, but we both prefer it to be me.

[SarahsSummer]

2 factors. Whoever’s car it is and who wants to drive. I couldn’t answer your poll.

[MrHopper]

Who ever pulls the shortest straw... i rather not drive unless i have too

[Elliegirl]

The one who drives is whoever has the keys and knows where you’re going.

[Moonchild714]

I'm Old School with this let him drive, besides then I get to play...

[Somethingwittty]

Depends on who's car it is. Mine? I'm driving. Yours? You drive lol.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My man always offers to drive. If & when I suspect he's tired, I offer to take over.

[valsaie]

depends on whose car is being driven. the owner should drive it.

[JackSmy]

My car, I drive, her car, she drives, and I am totally fine with that!

[GoldenNaturalBlonde]

OOPs i meant to put the other one DISREGARD MY VOTE