When a couple gets in the car together who is supposed to drive? The man or woman?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't think it matters. I usually prefer to do the driving, provided that the guy isn't a backseat driver. I can't stand that; I'm a very safe driver (much better than the vast majority of the people who have acted as backseat drivers while in the car with me), and all someone screaming in my ear and giving conflicting advice does is confuse and distract me, and create a potentially dangerous situation. Honest to God, the next time someone does that or starts harping on my car because it's not a sports car (though it's still very nice and perfect for me), I'm going to dump their ass on the side of the road. Sorry for the rant.

[aicarg]

My boyfriend and I take turns honestly. Especially if we're off on a road trip so that we give eachother a chance to nap. However thinking about it more, he'll drive when we're downtown in the city as I HATE congestion, hate road side parking on busy streets, get so damn confused with where I'm going due to "one way streets"/ "streets where I can't drive through during certain times"/ damn road closures due to construction/a public event, crazy ass pedestrians - it just drives me insane! I tend to drive uptown in the suburban neighborhoods where it's slightly more calm 😬

[jabariw18]

How does it cause fighting when you don't drive? That should not be a fighting issue like at all. Not to judge but I think you need to reevaluate your relationship. Anyway, I personally don't think it matters who drives but when I was with my girlfriend I usually drove. It also depended on where we were going like... if she wanted to go to an event or something, we'd take her car and she would drive. If it was something general like grocery shopping we'd take my car and I'd drive.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you don't drive, IT causes a problem? What is the IT that causes a problem? Are you saying that YOU cause a problem if the guy wants to drive?

[SydneySentinel]

Either. It's nice to have the guy take the wheel, if he so chooses.

[LesterJester]

Can't vote because neither option applies.

Both are fully capable of driving. The problem some have is about the lack of control. As a passenger your safety and the time it takes you to get to point A to point B is in the hands of someone else, and some people have a hard time coping with that lack of control.

You have your way of doing things. You have your way of driving and you have your path set in your mind on how to get to where you're going. The moment someone takes all that away from you or the moment they do something while driving that you weren't expecting or approving, shit hits the fan and you freak out.

Could this be a sign of some underlying trust issues towards your partner?

Perhaps.

If so, then that's a bigger issue than just who drives, as relationships require trust to work and if you don't trust your partner, that's a problem.

My wife and I take turns driving but she drives more often for several reasons.

One is that as a passenger, and her vision, she easily gets motion sickness. Second is that we moved to her country and she knows certain areas and locations better than I. And thirdly, I'm just too fk'n lazy to care who drives.

[normalice]

There was an actual study on this like 20 years ago. And they found that when couples drive together, they tend to chat. If there is no chatting, the genders are indistinguishable (or, women are even slightly better at certian ages).

But if there is chatting, women are more inclined to look at the person they are talking with instead of watching the road. This is, of course, a natural thing, and thus not always true.

[supercutebutt]

I'll drive. A dude is more likely to drive us to some clownish Trump rally. No thank you!

We're going to a Trump rally!

[Nxtawm]

Whoever is the better driver or whoever will bitch the most (about which turn you should've made, you're driving too slow, you could've made that turn, etc.) if they aren't driving.
Of course exception is if one person is really tired, they shouldn't drive then.

[egarcia1360]

Whoever owns the car if each partner has one. Otherwise, it's best to just find an agreement that works for both people. One person might like driving more than the other and/or be better at it, or you could just be in different moods. If you both would like to drive, then just take turns. It doesn't really matter at the end of the day.

[eviegurl]

It depends on who has a dl like I don't have a valid driver's license but have driven lots I've know. How to drive since I was a kid I grew up in the middle of nowhere so had lots of space to drive and am good I just don't hold a permit so my ex she couldn't see well enough a d I would drive all the time at night anyways but it really depends who really cares who's the better driver I would say should drive

[Mikeymike81]

I'd love it if my partner drove more often. I don't give a crap about stereotypes or the perception of society. If they have a driving license then I'm happy for them to get behind the wheel.

Anyone who feels the need to drive has issues with control.

[CreativeMumble]

I'd say the one who owns the car.
If it's a shared car, then just the person who wants to drive.

It also depends on if one likes to drive in the city or drive long rides or whatever.

It all depends, but I wouldn't say it's based on gender.

[Sailor_Jerry61]

Whos car is it? I wouldn't expect a girl to let me drive her car and I would certainly expect to drive my own car. So to answer your question. Whoever owns the car drives the car.

[Oram52]

It doesn't matter we can take turns, and it can depend on situation as well. But if she's always wanting to drive and be a control freak then obviously not a good thing, and wouldn't be happy. She can cause all the fights she wants I'd still be driving.

[hellacray]

Well depends on how she drives. I've been in cars where the driver braked hella hard. Which indicates to me that person isn't that good. Also how they park or back up like you know if she sucks at driving I probably should take over.

However if I feel like she's pretty good at driving then I would prefer that she drives. I don't really like driving because I hate traffic.

[PartRaptor]

The women should it’s time to for women to start doing things in relationships. Men have had to literally do everything for ever. Women say they want equality so let’s have it

[worldscolide]

Depends on where we are going and the like.. Say for instance my wife knows where it is we are going better than I... I will insist she drives.. When we drive long distances say 2 hours or more, we will take turnes. On that same token my wife usually prefers I drive for some reason..

[winterfox10]

I know that the tradition is that the man drives, but I don't know that anyone cares. I've driven women's cars before, they've driven their cars (I have a manual transmission, so it's not common for a woman to know how to drive my car); it's never made any difference to me.

[RHK36]

Depends on the destination. Local, doesn't matter. New place or long distance then male driver. Most females sense of direction is nonexistent. Based on my experience they freak out when things go wrong, don't listen to the navigator whether person or GPS. Also too much thinking and lack the ability to commit when needing to make decisions about turns, getting on and off an exit, etc.

[Rippersavage]

U should've had a third option for it doesn't matter... cuz it really doesn't (at least to me)
But generally who ever owns the car drives it
If u both own the car (like if ur married) then it doesn't matter

[EmbraceThePain]

If she wants to drive, I’ll let her. To be honest, I don’t enjoy driving lol. I enjoy being driven though

[Craftsman]

In my case, it's whoever's car it is. I drive when we are going in my car, and she drives when we are going in her car.
For that reason, I did not vote, since my situation is not covered by the limited "man or woman" options.

[AynonOMouse]

I prefer to drive even when with friends because it is usually too difficult for me to relax when someone else is driving. I don't like how most people drive.