That’s the thing man I have elevated myself really high and it has done nothing for me in terms of dating. I have my own place pay my own bills I’m a full time supervisor I’m also a full time nursing student and I pay my own tuition as well.
That's great! Sometimes, there are those people who it just... doesn't seem to make much sense as to why they're having trouble. I don't know your life, but you seem to have the basics down, at least, and that's awesome! Maybe... if you're not doing this already, and... you're probably pretty busy, but... learning things that more women find as "hot" would be an idea. Like taking dance classes, or learning how to cook... joining or starting a rock band... whatever... could help... if you're not doing it already. Good luck.
It could be as simple as I’m ugly
Ok, so I'm ugly too. I guess that means you're going to really have to work on the money and stable job thing, and be really cool with a lot of other things. It's a lot of work, but doable.
Here’s the thing I have spent much of my life being torn down I know they say you have to takes chances for a relationship but I can’t.
Here the thing I have only been rejected 3 times it’s just I don’t ever see a girl saying yes
I was rejected three times in THIRD grade. OMFG
I have this too. I haven’t been rejected that many times but I don’t see any girl at all saying yes to me
This OP is written from a FEMALE PERSPECTIVE. As guys it’s our job to try.
Asker - maybe you have just been rejected by the wrong girl ! try this ! the next time you make eye contact with a girl then - wave and smile - at her ! wait for her response ! if she - waves and smiles - back , then walk over to her and tell her your name ! if she ignores you , then go on your way to another girl
@AJC997 - the next time you make eye to eye contact with a girl then try this - wave and smile - at her and see how she responds back ! if she - waves and smiles - back then walk over to her and tell her your name ! if she ignores you then go on to another girl
@MissDawn7961 that’s the first step. But when guys get to this point they have been rejected by SEVERAL girls. The most common problem is the friend zone (worst kind of rejection) It might of started with a snotty girls in HS. He learns a hard lessons but it makes him more reluctant to approach other women. When he does he’s nervous, she senses that and he gets rejected again. It starts a vicious cycle. Now I don’t know all the details about this guy. I have no idea what his status is, if he’s good looking or not, his family bringing, his intelligence and more importantly his humor etc. I do know how he feels though. People mock long time single guys as weird, loners or “gay”. That makes things even worse. Although I did get discreet action from women in HS and in my 20s my first REAL relationship wasn’t until 32. That was the first time I had a woman say “I love you” and mean it. Something deeper.
He needs to read Corey Wayne. Also he needs to avoid asking dating advice from women. What women SAY they want vs why they REALLY want are almost never the same.
Dating has never been fun for me so I guess it's good that I'm taking a break XD
This comment really got to me🥺
@Asker JUST three times? Wait...Okay I was thinking you had been rejected way more than that... please don't take this the wrong way but... you need to keep trying. Yes, go ahead and take a short break until you feel better, but once you do, TRY AGAIN. Dating is not supposed to be easy, and unfortunately rejection is part of the process (yes, I've been rejected too, many times before any of you say it's just a guy thing). But that's okay! Because eventually you WILL find a girl that wants you. It's just finding her that's the hard part.
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Yeah I don’t even have any female friends
Well start making some. That's why you do have the results you want.
Silly response... how should I know.
Like i always thought if women don’t want you they don’t want you
But why don't they want you? You need to figure that out! Do you smell? You have bad teeth? You got to have some self awareness. How is anybody supposed to answer this question with no details.
Dude the thing is I have never had any luck
You don't need luck, it's a numbers game. How many women have you asked for their number this month?If your success rate when asking for a woman's number is less than 1/5 I would say you're doing something wrong, possibly your appearance, but more likely confidence or how you carried the conversation. Once you figure out what you did wrong you know what you need to work on-- and you need to make an effort to work on it.
I haven’t asked any women because I already know the response
Why do you think they will respond the way you think they will?
Because I just think they hate me
Why would they hate you? Do they even know you?
You don’t have to know someone to hate them you should see how women at my university treat me
How do they treat you?
Basically like I don’t exist
But you don't try to talk to them? Nobody will acknowledge you if you keep to yourself all the time. Just because they aren't giving you any attention doesn't mean they hate you, they just don't know you.
@Iacaras That is some great advice!!!
Well here’s the thing I wouldn’t settle I don’t have social value so I would just give up on it
If you feel that way then work on yourself. Make some friends guys and especially girls. Work on your body and style. Make sure you're groomed. Work on becoming a guy that bring value into the relationship. And you do have value. Everybody does. Value can be anything. It is just the thing that makes others be your friend or more than friend. You wouldn't buy a light bulb that doesn't work because it brings no value to your life. At least most people's lives anyway. Keep in mind some girls are home bodies. You don't have to be some social guru or have a million friends and followers. You can't give up though. You can try manifesting. I told you to look up Joseph Alai. If you don't believe in that you can try checking out The Natural Lifestyles, or RSD, or Tony Solo. I highly recommend all 3. They will tell you the things you don't know and much more. You can do it man. You have to. You owe it to yourself to keep trying. There is no passion in life playing small ball. It is gonna hurt like a bitch but when you make it to the other side you will never look back. And talking to girls just as friends will help you feel more comfortable around them and understand women better. So what are you gonna do? Give up and live like this till the end? Or walk through that uncomfortable brick wall? Success is your only option failure's not.
Yeah I feel like a freak
A freak is good tho when regular is this bad
So I have my own place I’m a full time supervisor and a full time nursing student
How do you have poor social skills and become a supervisor?
So here’s the thing I can talk to people at work and it comes pretty easily but as soon as I step outside the company’s doors it’s like that skill set goes away
I don't get why I get so much hate. that is the truth: people have standards. It is great that you have your place and career. Then it means you need to overcome some of your social problems. Start with small talk, be confident.
Here’s the thing I have been alone my whole life
I know I was too until the one guy and I’m saying it ruined me more than being alone my whole life did. It’s not worth it at all in this generation and it’s just one big game. Do not feel bad about being alone your whole life. If I could go back and change the fact that I’ve dated one person and go back to never experiencing being with someone, I would take it in a heartbeat.
Here’s the thing I don’t know what it’s like to live or trust anyone for the most part I have been alone and isolated in my life I want that to go away
I mean that’s all up to you, if you want that to change then that’s your want. My personal opinion is, it’s not worth it. You may want it now but once that first heartbreak sets in not one single ounce of the pain will be worth any of the love and trust you once felt. Your vision might get skewed and perspective be ruined.But I’m sure there is someone out there for you, if that’s what you really want. Bottom line I wouldn’t worry about it too much, it’s not only overrated but bound to happen regardless. I would personally say avoid it however but bc you want to experience that, then don’t try to avoid it.
Yeah I have literally never experienced it I also have never experienced sex
Also, again my own opinion, very not worth it bc it does chemically alter your brain. In my own personal experience dating and sex has actually ruined me. But that was bc of my coping skills and personality. If you trust yourself to remain calm and collected no matter what, then keep trying. Me personally, none of it is worth it and I’m 8 months deep into my first heartbreak and break up. I haven’t been with anyone since bc I’ve been so depressed that I barely find other men attractive anymore and I keep thinking about how I wasn’t good enough for him and how his new girlfriend is. And that I never had a say in our breakup because he wanted it and I didn’t. There’s so many things that could fuck you up mentally and emotionally that you can’t even think of. It’s so terrible in my opinion and would never advertise dating as something good to anyone.
I understand your pain @heartbroken317, but there's worse things that could happen. don't blame all men for the actions of one man.
I’m not blaming all men. I’m sure there’s a very small small microscopic percentage out there that are caring genuine individuals.But the next guy I just talked to after my first didn’t think to mention to me that he was married, almost all men in my distant family were physical and/or emotional abusers, 2 of my friends bfs have put their hands on them, almost all of my friends have been cheated on, 3/4 of my high school teachers were exposed of cheating on their wives or messing around with their students, and all of the horror stories I’ve heard since diving into the dating world makes it seem so pointless, especially at my age in this generation
women are just as manipulative and untrustworthy, I'm in my thirties and havnt really even found a girl worth dating, I'll think I get close and then I'll find out she's sleeping around, hiding it from everyone etc., never been on more than two dates with a girl before I discover she's an awful human being, never had a girlfriend, we are all miserable sweetheart...
Yeah people are fucking awful lol I’m just not attracted to women so I don’t have the hatred built upI just know that I don’t do that shit so it’s pointless to me
You hav to get past that feeling as that is what is causing a lot of the problem in the first place... your energy is negative/needy. That needs to be reversed to "I don't need you, but I want you" so you project strength, confidence, male attributes of stability on your own. So you bring her into your positive and successful world. .. projected... Those are feelings, if you cannot practice, do mind tricks, and such, then get watch videos, get therapy, work on yourself esteem, worth, success, etc..
Here’s the thing I have stability I don’t need a girlfriend what I have built for myself is awesome I have my own place I’m a full time sales supervisor and I’m a full time nursing student
you should have no problem. lots of females out there. put yourself out there socially and just talk to them, don't care about getting a girlfriend (mentally). would have to see the whole picture to know what is going on but 80%+ it is what the guy is projecting. You see the girls out here... they can't find a guy your age... how to connect them?
Kind a mixture of both I have been rejected a total of 3 times and other times I just don’t think I would get a yes and don’t approach
So no I have never had a romantic relationship and I don’t have any friends
Dude no joke no women were interested in me ever
"As a rule, by age 21 at least three agirls were seriously interested in you."I want you to be repeating this with seriousness again for these guys
If it’s my appearance I can’t do anything I’m not attractive
A guy with an unattractive face, but a well built body, confidence, a sense of humor, and money will be able to attract any woman.
@thomual a guy with an unattractive face, unattractive body, no confidence and no sense of humor can attract women that are 9/10 or 10/10 in terms of looks as long as he has money... money makes up for everything...
Yes! There is a realistic saying based on the fact that as women age they go from being in high demand to not being in demand.At 20, they sell it.At 30, they give it away.At 40, they buy it.
Yeah man my social skills aren’t good and I don’t go out much
Dating sites are your best bet. I like bumble because the girl makes the first move. You could also see if there are any social skills groups in your area. I joined this thing called Pathways to Independence, but it's only St. Louis and St. Charles based in Missouri. There should be something somewhat similar you can find. I met my girlfriend through Pathways, but I expected it from the dating site, I just didn't have a good enough connection when I started getting interested in my girlfriend.
I am serious by the way... tell me... are you trying to keep up with someone/your peers? ! I'm 35 and single, does that make me a pathetic cat lady or something? ! An old maid? !
Here’s the thing people told me I should take a break before that was 4 years ago I can’t wait forever for a relationship
love will find you right away when the right time comes.
You have to learn to live with this feeling and go beyond it, then with time only it will be gone.
+ if you are depressed you have less chance of finding a girlfriend.
Well I do know one thing I never smile
And I've been rejected a lot. I also got fed up of going on dates and paying. Felt like they get a free meal and I get rejection for it.
So I should never want a girlfriend
No, don’t twist my words. During the time you are single, instead of choosing to be miserable, try to make your life feel full and happy.
I’m not twisting your words but people said this to me 3 years ago the reality is i have been single my whole life I have no idea what it’s like to experience someone feeling affection for me.
Be happy and be lonely for never having a girlfriend are different. You can be happy single but that doesn't automatically makes every other aspect good
But women wouldn’t have the same interests as me
Yeah i have waited this long probably not meant to be
I've heard that the best relationships usually begin unexpectedly so i can't really tell😅Maybe you just have to let love find you? Haha sounds kinda cheesy but thats how i view it
I somehow don’t think that’s gonna happen