Do you care about race in who you date?

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

Naturally, when I enter relationships, race would not be a deciding factor. When I was in college, I dated guys of almost every race, namely fellow Black guys, White guys, Hispanics, Asians, Indians, and Arabs. Unfortunately, race relations made it hard for me to date interracially. I had a few negative experiences when dating outside my race. For example, one of my White ex-boyfriends had family members that hated the fact that he was dating a Black girl. In fact, his daddy even pulled a gun on me, claiming that he wasn't too fond of Black people. On two separate occasions, my Hispanic ex-boyfriends had family members that constantly pressured them to break up with me. We had to end those relationships to escape the drama. It was awkward with my Asian ex. When he introduced me to his family, they didn't speak or shake my hand or anything. They went into another room to talk in their native language and my ex came out upset, and we left his parents house. He told me that they weren't happy with the fact that I wasn't Chinese.

It was disappointing because I really liked my Asian ex because he was easygoing and we had a lot in common. I didn't have any bad experiences with the Indian and Arab exes, at least not racially. Still ever since then, I decided to just continue dating within my own race. I never had those problems when dating Black guys. We're the same race, so it's very unlikely they wouldn't like me because I'm Black. My current Black fiancee's family loves me and considers me a part of the family and that's fine by me. Naturally, I wouldn't mind interracial dating because we're all human, but unfortunately, not too many people are happy with it. While others might say that they don't care what other people think, personally, I don't feel comfortable dating a guy whose family members hate me because I'm Black. If, one day, I did end up in a relationship with guy who had very accepting family members, then I'd probably consider interracial dating again, but for now, no more bad experiences, no more pain.

[ElissaDido]

I don't really care about race. I care more about religion and culture.
In my country we have people of a majority of Native North African (basically tanned non european caucasians) and Arabs, European, Turkish, Black ancestries. I'd date them all, because we would have same culture and same religion most likely. So we would be on the same page in many aspects.

I think, the first I'd look for, is probably culture. I'm generally more attracted to men from certain cultures: North Africa (Tunisia, Morocco etc) , Levant (Lebanon, Syria etc), Persia, Turkey, Caucasus region (Georgia, Armenia, Azerbaijan etc), and Balkans.
I like how these cultures are family oriented and hospitable, and in general their history interest me the most, so I'd gladly learn the language and adapt to the culture.

But in theory, I'm not opposed to being with someone from another race or culture.

[nightdrot]

Having dated, in my day, two African-American women and one Japanese woman - being white myself - I can honestly say that a woman's skin color does not matter to me. I am far more motivated by personality and, if I am to be fully honest, a good body.

To be sure, there can be cultural differences. I was totally smitten with the gal from Japan. However, the Japanese are very polite and indirect and this could lead to frustrations.

For example, I would ask my girlfriend if she wanted to see a movie. If she would not want to she would seldom say "no" outright. Rather, she would reply something like, "Would you like to go to dinner?" The answer was almost never direct and that could lead to miscommunication.

That said, I genuinely cared about her. The relationship ending when she decided to go back to Japan and run for Parliament. (We both work in politics.) Last I heard - and this was some years ago - she was still a member of their parliament, called the Diet.

As to African-American women, my experience was there were minimal cultural differences. My one girlfriend liked music that I did not care for, but that was about it. For the most part, we came from basically the same social and educational strata and so the differences were not wide.

However, truth in advertising, the relationship with my second girlfriend ended very badly. She got pregnant and then aborted my baby without telling me. It remains the most painful experience of my life - even all these years later I wish I could tell my baby how sorry I am that I failed him/her.

That, as I say, was years ago and obviously skin color was not the issue. In any case, I have now been living with my (white) girlfriend for 12 years and we have three children together. (We don't want to be married.) So I am not on the dating scene anymore.

Still, I never much cared about race, it was more about personality and - to some degree - sexual attraction. That, for me at least, is a universal quality unrelated to skin color.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have dated Asian, Hispanic and Native American women and maintained good relationships with all of them. The fact that you are attracted to members of other races doesn't mean that they should be attracted to you. Attraction is not a phenomenon that follows the rules of logic.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not really. I've dated and liked guys of almost all races. As long as he treats me right and we have common interests, race doesn't matter.

It's not so much me that it bothers, so much as others when I date outside my race! Where I live, interracial dating is still considered taboo. But I don't care! If someone makes me happy, I'm going to date them.

[Insomnia72]

Yes. And I don't mean that in a racist way. It's just I notice race comes with social dispositions at it's foundation. As a white dude, I understand if black women might think I'm KKK at heart. I get that. White men are crazy, done the most harm throughout history, especially to other white people. We're lunatics. But I'm not racist, I love all women regardless of race. But there's something wrong in our genes... maybe all that incest in our genetics. The Roman Empire. The Greeks. Alexander the Lunatic? Napoleon? Hitler? Poison in the water? Da fork! Just so much destruction from people with fair skin, even the Japanese... we're crazy!

[Naydyonov]

I am most attracted to Slavic women. It is both about physical attraction and about commonality. Though I was born and raised in Canada there are some things (language, shared history, food) which are important to me.
I find that girls from other cultures are not quite able to understand where I'm coming from when it comes to many of my views. For example, roles of men and women, gun ownership, role of government, upbringing of children.

Plus I want my children to know Russian and English — English being the easier one to learn, with its use across the globe. So use of Russian would be important for example.

[Blakes80]

Personally I don't go looking for a specific race but we are superficial creatures by nature and we go towards what we like visually before we worry about personality, for me that tends to be anything but black/ darker girls, I'm not racist, I myself am mixed race, on the lighter side. I was with a darker mixed race girl for 2 years after being with a white girl before that for about 2 years aswell and I personally find lighter toned girls as more of a mental turn on than darker ones. a shag is a shag but I won't enjoy going down on a darker tone girl and so I wouldn't be with them long term as I think u shud be completely sexually open with your partner. Intrigued to see people's opinions on this topic though.

[Anonymous]

I'll admit there's some people I wouldn't consider dating. But that's more a cultural and/or a religious thing than the color of their skin or their "race".

Same as how I wouldn't date a Russia, as example, despite how we're both of the same "white race" because culturally there'll be little in common. I don't date people simply because of their looks but seek some sort of a connection.

[Paul09]

That is the beauty of it all. We have such a huge selection of different races, interests, cultures, etc. I personally find it boring and so unoriginal when a lot of people believe they should only stay with their race. Mixing and matching males life more intresting. And you may even discover many things you love and enjoy. Most of my friends stuck with marrying a a Italian.. Seems like they mostly do.

[eagleriverjohn]

I have a bit of a preference for women of a similar heritage to mine (I'm of mostly Celtic heritage) because we'd likely have similar customs and family histories. But this would not stop me from dating women not of that heritage. There are women of every ethnicity that I find attractive and would date (depending of course on their personality).

[Guanfei]

Hm, no, but with races comes 2 things. A cultural behavior, and physical features.
As for physical features, there are some I like, some I don't like, so of course some races won't attract me as much as others, but that doesn't mean I'll exclude them completely.
As for cultural behavior, here too, some races are subscribing to some behaviors that I don't like. Of course they don't all act the same, but it's generally true. And if they act like that, I won't like it, therefore I won't date it.

Also I don't like that word, "race". It sounds like there are different human races, which is, of course, very wrong.

[Physics-Man]

In practice, I don't care about race; I'm just attracted to what I am, and can't help it. With that being said, I find Mixed (Asian/White), Asian, then European girls the most attractive, followed by Mestiza and Indian, then black girls. This is just what I like.

[Mistermiracle57]

Do you honestly think people are going to be honest about a sensitive subject? Please

I strongly that some races are more gifted and more attractive than other races

White women are the most attractive , followed by Asian , Latina and Indian women with black women being at the lowest ( I wouldn't even put them on desirability table at all )

It's cause white skin and features are more feminine and they also have better hair

While for men

Black men are most attractive followed by Latinos , middle Eastern with the lowest being white and Asian ( again won't even put Asian men on the table , white men are only in the table because of media and social status )

Black skin and features are more attractive and masculine

I know people are going to hat me and downvote but it's truth and people can't handle it

[BrittBratt2416]

no i think there's attractive men in all races... so im very open. My fiancee is Hispanic and im black.

[SjE78]

No but depending on their attitude and religious beliefs might influence my decision as to whether or not we become a couple...

[lightbulb27]

There's some I'm attracted to and some I'm not. I associate that with childhood exposure, but it may go deeper than that.

[BCA6010]

Not directly, but a few specific physical traits that I like (such as long wavy hair) are very rare in some races. Cultural clashing is much more likely to be an issue for me, regardless of race.

[LogicIsKey]

This is a mixed bag. You can't help who you fall in love (in the sense of lust) with. It's a irrational emotion. People have preferences, and some people find certain ethnicities attractive and others not. This is a case by case basis

[MissKittyz]

Not really. I am more attracted to white guys, however I am still able to date other race and find them attractive. Just depends on the person. I've been with Black, White, Indian and Asian before so I am able to date anyone regardless of their race.

[Anonymous]

We're attracted to different things and there's nothing wrong with that. If someone won't date a black person or someone who's Asian, that doesn't mean they're racist. So while race might not be important, appearance is still a thing. No matter how rude it may sound, you can't force yourself to like something you don't like

[sejla]

Race is no importance to me. Being a kind, honest, decent man yes.

[LoU_Hades]

Just for dating, it's irrelevant. I'm guilty in this matter hence I don't throw the first stone.

[Moonchild714]

I've dated and Fucked every Race. Race means nothing to me we all come from the same place we all bleed Red...

[Jjpayne]

Race to an extent is important but it mainly depends on their look and their personality

[jaystar]

in my opinion, race should not matter. It is whether that person and you share a chemistry and relationship and if they also share some of the same ideas as you (i. e wanting children). Being compatible is key.

[Taqashii]

No i don't really care about that
I am Muslim and my boyfriend is a a Hindu.
And Thanks Allah, we both think like that

[Inneedofusername]

Race for the race itself? No. Do I care for looks? Yes. Looks and race are connected, so no vote from me as I don't know how do you want to interpret it.

[Amaoctober]

We are all under one roof and if I am attracted to the race other than mine I would only hope for her to say yes we can date. Two way thing, I might get attracted and she may not be.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Your gonna find that most people are attracted to their own kind the most... doesn't mean that it can't be mixed up and that but id guess black girls probanly like black girls favor black guys

[1Anon]

For me, race is irrelevant. If I love the person, we get on well and have similar views on things then the marriage would work. My husband and I are of different races and religions and that’s never affected our marriage negatively.

[Redstang88]

Never been into Asian girls, but for me it’s more an issue of cultural differences than race

[I_Am_Sazerac]

I could care less what race I date. As long as she and I share enough interests to be compatible and have fun then I'm down.

[lackconscience1116]

I've dated a people from several cultures. It's all about who they are to me, but I would be lying if I didn't tell you there are a ton of people out there who won't go there. 😣

[TahoeHiker]

Because its about the person's character not color.

[emmily2396]

Not much, 99.9% of people are white were i live. I care more about cultural background and beliefs. I do have a preference towards white men with middle eastern features.

[Royalsarcasist]

I’m attracted to people in every race. I tend to date white guys, but that’s because they are more common in my area. So I’m limited.

[Ceasar97]

I really don't care about race, but I do feel like you're not going to get a lot of people saying they do care about race lol. Do you care about race?

[Reaperbot666]

I am open to dating a woman of any race or skin tone. so long as she has a good personality. is generally healthy and enjoys her body. weight or height not really a factor for me. but natural is preferred

[Cactusqueen]

I just never have seen a reason why someone’s ancestry or ethnicity would play a part in my feelings for them. It seems about as irrelevant as if they’re right or left handed.

[clampfan101]

All races have lovely women, and all humans are capable of having great hearts.

[bannacookies]

Yes. I seem to be attracted to a certain race, (not the same as mine).

[Anonymous]

This is a touchy subject. I've been accused of being racist for it. But it is what it is.

I am mostly just attracted to white girls and Asian girls, maybe the occasional latino. Scandinavian, slavic and Japanese, women are by far the most attractive to me in general.

I have never felt sexual attraction towards black girls.

[zagor]

What country are you from? Your profile is private.

[Avicenna]

I'm open to all races and ethnicities, but I am attracted to some more than others and have noticed that some women of specific races and ethnicities are more attracted to me than others.

[Dargil]

I am not "colorblind", the popular virtue signaling cliche.
There are cultural and physical differences and I like them.

[MoscowMitch]

It's more about culture than race. I don't care about the colour of your skin but there has to be a meeting of minds.

[arabgoddess]

Sometimes marrying into a different race is the best thing, for so many reasons..
Also The kids come out so unique looking and gorgeous.

[Saville_Row]

Well, I have dated only my race (Latino) but have found attractive guys that were White, Indian, Black and Asian. I don't think I would have any problem dating them.

[DWornock]

Both A & B are true. The difference is, there is a higher percentage in some races that I would consider marriage material. However, a pretty girl is a pretty girl whether she is white, black, Asian, or mixed race.

[SpiderManFan2002]

No, race doesn't matter to me- what matters is the person themselves.

[Anonymous]

Im not really attracted to white girls. The only ones I'm attracted to are 8/10 and above and I'm too ugly for them lol

[jadoe]

As long as im attracted to him and he makes me happy

[Hunter7754]

Nope! As long as I'm attracted to them, I don't care.

[R_ūshī]

Nahh because for me, it's the individual that matters, not the race 🤷‍♀️

[stardust101]

It depends on their race. I’m not racist but I don’t find men attractive from some countries

[ginger_supremacist]

Depends. Different things are attractive in different races

[Blitzkrieg_88]

Never have. I traveled and worked a bit in asia and africa, i dated the native girls, they tend to treat white men as if their dicks were made of solid gold.

[blueheeler]

I dont have a problem dating a black girl cause I have had sex with two allready and let me tell you it was great.

[ArronW]

This probably is racist but I will not date or even contemplate dating people with very black skin. I don't find them attractive at all. Tbh I find Asian women the most attractive.

[Confidenceoverload]

Ew imagine bringing race up in 2019
all jokes aside race should have no place in love or this world tbh we should all be happy we are the same species and share the same innards the outside doesn't mean shit

[the_imperfectionist]

i dont care about race, but i do care about their beliefs

[SquidwardsmellsGOOD]

I find certain races more attractive than others so yes

[DizzyDesii]

Im willing to date/marry all but i’d prefer same race first and foremost