Right is it confidence or just lack of fear?
Sounds more like lack of fear. To have confidence means you are at least a bit knowledgeable in what you are doing and have experienced positive feedback in the past.
False confidence can come from being knowledgeable but have no experience and or positive feedback
in the end... confidence boils down to a memory of winning. It stacks on previous successes which in turn give you experience and competence.
Thinking you're knowledgeable*
I'm curious how do you establish success with your clients to ensure they build confidence? I'm kind of new with what I do and I'm working with a person who is severely shy. I was thinking eventually after he's more comfortable with me I'd make a set date to walk in the park and plant a few friends there to act like randoms. I would encourage him to speak with them and he'd be rewarded with friendly engaging interactions.
Is that an approach you do with clients as well?
Confidence comes from doing so I get my clients to DO a lot... more than they ever done before in their entire lives... I see weakness and confidence as a muscle that needs to be used over and over again. Much like NEO when he said his eyes hurt... and Morpheus told him it's because he never used them before.
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its like if you never ice skated before but seen it been around it would you still have confidence in doing it? Or would you need to get your feet wet to build it up!
I'd be skating the perimeter and using the railing!
So no confidence until you got the hang of it?
Probably depends on the consumer reports on the skates I'm wearing 🤣
In all seriousness, I just assume that a date will probably flop so I just enjoy the company and hope he is enjoying mine as well. I don't know if I'd call it confidence necessarily.
I disagree, it is about confidence but it has to be genuine. These dating coaches are telling people to act confident but not building it.
Those are the ones I love see in action at the bars, it's so entertaining watching them when they are rejected or if it goes in another direction then the one the planned