"It makes the person you "settle down" with look like a consolation prize, a means to an end (giving you kids for example), or a punishment or vice holding you down. You're not excited to be with them, you're with them because they are safe." This right here!!! Thank you sir! That is another reason I do not care for people who said that. When I was younger, I had a guy tell me I was the "type of woman someone settles down with after they've had their fun." Yes, really. A guy told me that.And I was disgusted by that because it basically means they [men] see me as a safe, boring, not exciting person. I'm good enough to marry or be in a long term relationship with, which yes, is good. But only AFTER they've had their fun. No one wants to hear that, true or not! So like yourself, I have NO respect for people such as that. They had their fun, slept around, were stupid and not ready to settle.
I can't disagree!
I think you read into it too much. It just simply means they've grew tired with the same old things and are ready to start the new chapter in their life.
@Creepazoid It appears people are seeing it in many different ways. I see this statement on dating apps all the time and it pisses me off. Women are basically saying.. you buy me dinner, you take me out... we aren't sleeping together for at least 4 months so sorry but "i had my fun" so now any guy moving forward has now been put in a box with a different set of rules.
I think their definition of fun is really “fuck a lot of people.” So fun and settle down are separate categories.
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Down votes by females. What odds that they fit the description above?
Interesting... i felt like this was a woman thing, but its probably due to the people we are around being quite different?
Perceptions vary from person to person, both as the observer and the observed. Maybe it's a youthful thing, and occurs in both sexes?
What if you saw that on a woman's dating profile? What kind of reaction would that give you?
But would you ever say to a guy... Hey I had my fun but now I am looking for something real... looking to settle down... so YOU as a guy now need to treat me differently... sex will come after 3 months or so of dating... etc etc because this is what guys feel when they hear this from a woman.
Of course I'm looking for something real just as long the guy feels the same way.
If you have always been looking for something real then that is fine but if you chose to have sex with 30 guys, have 3 somes, get wild and now decide the guy you want to settle down with gets NONE of that then that is when the guys hate this message of... I've had my fun and now want to settle down"
I want a real relationship with a guy. Not 30. I know what you're saying, but there are a ton of guys out there that want to settle down too.
Yes but they also want to know that they can also have fun along the way and not be put in this box of settling down behavior. Thanks for the comments.
Yes because she had her "fun"
Yes we see this on dating profiles all the time.
I am un-able to be a part of someones' life whom has been willing to use their body in such a way, work ethic is hard, yet giving to someone whom may have or has potentially abused their 'Rights' I'd call them, is troublesome.Had my fair share of 'Crazy', from people whom abused!Have tried and started again with how life works! No is my answer!
Apologies for the long/elongated response!And thank you for asking good questions!
Thank you for the comment!