Is this guy just using me for sex?

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Is this guy just using me for sex?

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Long story short, this guy is a year above me at college, (he lives in the dorm, I live at my aunt’s since I’m out of state). We’ve been going out for 7-8 months, and he seemed very interested in a serious relationship in the beginning but now is withdrawing. On the one hand, he said I love you first, tells me I’m his best friend, that he would move back to my home state with me. He used to wine and dine me with expensive dinners and gifts.

On the other hand, we’ve never actually had the talk, and I don’t assume we’re exclusive. We didn’t have sex till 4-5 months of dating, and since then, that’s like the center of our relationship. All our conversations our sexual, we spend more time hooking up than anything else, the gifts and dates have started evaporating. While he insists on picking me up from my home, he’s refused to meet my aunt and cousins three times now.

Recently, I put my foot down, and didn’t send him sexual photos when he asked and no longer drop by his place. He’s been getting colder and colder since then. Am I reading too much into this? Or is he only after one thing?

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Cactusqueen | 74 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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He’s liking your pussy but not you so much

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  I fee the same way, but why tolerate no pussy for 4-5 months? I’m confused AF bc if he just wanted pussy, there’s plenty of girls who’d give it more readily
- Cactusqueen
  
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  Some people get off on the chase. Working for it feels more satisfying once they get it.
Jaredmillershim
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Are you fat

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  Nope, I’m on a volleyball team actually.
- Jaredmillershim
  
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  So flat tummy?
- wikileak
  
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  What does being fat have anything to do with this? Lmfao
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- Asker
  
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  How’s this: i’ll Give you my measurements if you answer the question
- Jaredmillershim
  
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  If your thin then yes

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This is tough one, how long were you two exclusive when he said "I love you"? If he's getting colder towards you ask him where he sees your relationship for the future. He could be nervous about meeting your aunt and cousins, but I'm not sure. I wish you the best. But I would just talk to him and tell him how you feel. I'm sorry you're going through this babygirl.

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Thanks for the sweet comment boo. That’s the thing, we’ve never actually had “the talk” but he is always available for me, so we dated like 4 months before he said it.

I just feel like even if he’s nervous, he never bothers to thank me for the invitation when I offer him a place at family things, yet he claims he’s serious about us.
wikileak

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You're welcome, I wish I could help more but I don't know him on a personal level. 4 months is quite a long time so I'm sure he feels something. Does he act different when you don't send nudes or decline sex?

I totally get you on that. Its hard, I would try and communicating with him because if you lack communication its difficult to understand each other and he might be on a different page.

Is this guy just using me for sex?

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